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Before I start this I would like to warn any readers that this is long and I dont want any smart ass comments. Im only posting this to get an outsiders perspective on my situation and hopefully the opinion of the ladies out there.
I will start off by telling you about the girl I have strong feelings for, for the sake of privacy I will call her Steph.
Now Steph is beautiful, not in your face beautiful "I'd tap that" in your face too much makeup hot, she is truly naturally beautiful and is clearly the most beautiful girl in the grade (personal opinion) and there are some stunners. Steph is incredibly smart (much smarter than me, and I am no where near dumb) she is funny, quick witted, incredibly nice, and has an all round great personality, she is pretty much my ideal girl. Though she has not had the greatest past, she was deflowered at a rather early age (some would see 13 as normal, I am not one of those people) she has had quite a few shallow relationships that were doomed to fail before they began, unfortunatly she was labeled for a time as a sl*t by many of the judgemental people in my grade. She has a way of leading people on without realising what she is doing, it shows how nice she is. Now it has been a few years since people truly believed she was a sl*t and about 5 months ago me and her became closer as friends. She had a boyfriend at the time and I had a different interest. We became closer and closer and we eventually became best friends (as we are today) she came to me whenever she was upset and looking for comfort which I was more than happy to give (This included the seperation of her and her boyfriend)
Now over the past month me and steph have become pretty much inseperable. There are constant "sleepovers" (for lack of a better word) and quality time. I make her laugh and smile and when I'm with her I can't help but crack a smile as big as hers. Over this month I have grown feelings for her, though there is much stroking of hair, spooning, sleeping in the same bed with nothing but undies on, long eye contact, kissing (no lips unfortunatly), long conversations filled with laughter and lying on each other I still feel that I may be on a one way street. I can't bring myself to admit how I feel when I look back on all the guys who have fallen head over heels for her and gone no where. I really don't want to ruin the relationship I have with her, I must say I enjoy the closeness between us and the only thing better would be more of it. I would like to say I think she feels the same for me but I havent been the best judge of this in the past and therefore cannot trust my own perspective.
I personally feel that I would be good for her, after a line of shallow, short relationships i think this build up is the way a relationship should truly start. I know this is normal but I would really like opinions (non smart ass comments) especially from all the females. So please tell me what you think any advice would be appreciated.
I will start off by telling you about the girl I have strong feelings for, for the sake of privacy I will call her Steph.
Now Steph is beautiful, not in your face beautiful "I'd tap that" in your face too much makeup hot, she is truly naturally beautiful and is clearly the most beautiful girl in the grade (personal opinion) and there are some stunners. Steph is incredibly smart (much smarter than me, and I am no where near dumb) she is funny, quick witted, incredibly nice, and has an all round great personality, she is pretty much my ideal girl. Though she has not had the greatest past, she was deflowered at a rather early age (some would see 13 as normal, I am not one of those people) she has had quite a few shallow relationships that were doomed to fail before they began, unfortunatly she was labeled for a time as a sl*t by many of the judgemental people in my grade. She has a way of leading people on without realising what she is doing, it shows how nice she is. Now it has been a few years since people truly believed she was a sl*t and about 5 months ago me and her became closer as friends. She had a boyfriend at the time and I had a different interest. We became closer and closer and we eventually became best friends (as we are today) she came to me whenever she was upset and looking for comfort which I was more than happy to give (This included the seperation of her and her boyfriend)
Now over the past month me and steph have become pretty much inseperable. There are constant "sleepovers" (for lack of a better word) and quality time. I make her laugh and smile and when I'm with her I can't help but crack a smile as big as hers. Over this month I have grown feelings for her, though there is much stroking of hair, spooning, sleeping in the same bed with nothing but undies on, long eye contact, kissing (no lips unfortunatly), long conversations filled with laughter and lying on each other I still feel that I may be on a one way street. I can't bring myself to admit how I feel when I look back on all the guys who have fallen head over heels for her and gone no where. I really don't want to ruin the relationship I have with her, I must say I enjoy the closeness between us and the only thing better would be more of it. I would like to say I think she feels the same for me but I havent been the best judge of this in the past and therefore cannot trust my own perspective.
I personally feel that I would be good for her, after a line of shallow, short relationships i think this build up is the way a relationship should truly start. I know this is normal but I would really like opinions (non smart ass comments) especially from all the females. So please tell me what you think any advice would be appreciated.
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Good luck friend.
Sometimes attractive females do that. It is a mystery. The spooning, and snuggling in your undies deal is defiantly on the road to friends with benefits.
I suggest that you tell her how you feel. But be prepared for the worst.
She MAY freak out and say "but we're just cuddle buddies! We're friends, I think of you as a brother..."
Hopefully not.
If you ask me, you sound very intelligent and you also sound like you are willing to give her the relationship she deserves.
I just hope she is not playing games as mentioned before.
Talk to her. She may be feeling the same way.
if she's ready, she will say yes to you. theres no reason for her not to because she feels comftorable wit u. but don't let her walk all over you either. if she says no, mayb it's because she feels like u will always be there. just be straight up and tell her how u feel. but don't put urself in a situation were u might get hurt. chances are is not worth it.