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I'm a girl who dresses boyish and who has a short haircut. People think that I'm a lesbian, but I haven't figured that out yet, even though I have kissed a girl. Can you love both sexes? I hate that people are judging me and other people by the way they look (stereotyping). I normally don't care, but this lesbian thing is going too far. I don't even know if I kissed that girl because I wanted to do it or because people are telling me that I 'look' lesbian. I can move properly and feel comfortable in these clothes, and am a great fan of the style, but I don't know if I should continue wearing them. My body is actually very female and I don't think it would downgrade my appearance, but it doesn't feel right. So, I ask my questions: Is it normal? Can you love both sexes? Should I try female clothes and/or hair? Would boys like a girl that doesn't look as feminine as most women do?
Do you think it's normal?
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Mariebay (19372)
2009-01-18 15:08:25
Well liking both sexes is called bisexual.
But dressing kinda boyish is totally normal, I have an aunt who dresses tomboyish, and has kinda short hair, and she's normal. But if you think ur bisexual, there's nothing wrong with that, lots of people are.
Hope this helps:)
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Jim_Pfoss (19247)
2009-01-18 22:29:23
If you are dressing to "express" yourself, then you can't really complain if people misinterpret. You can only accept that you may not be communicating what you want to communicate.
As far as guys are concerned, there is no one look that will attract or repel every guy.
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xoxoxoamiwierdoxoxox (19406)
2009-01-19 19:49:10
idk what to tell u. i mean, im 18 and i knew for a fact that i was straight when i was 15. thats when i was sure... but i guess its different 4 everyone. and dont stress too much about your clothes. it has nothiong to do with anything. ppl in school and stuff just feel the need to put everyone in a certain group. its sick really. fitting in was never my strongest subject either. and dont feel pressured by other ppl. do things that make u happy. not things that other ppl think will make u happy. i cant say i know exactly how u feel, but i hope i was some help...
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snakey (19677)
2009-01-25 07:08:09
lol, don't listen to these guys. it's normal.
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spyderr (19660)
2009-01-25 19:29:05
it's normal. I am also a girl with very short hair and I dress kinda, not like a guy completely but ambiguously I suppose. I know that I am not gay and if I were I wouldn't have a problem with it I guess, it's just that people will always judge you but you just be yourself and ignore those idiots, love yourself the way you are

you sound cool to me.
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ChelysColumba (19461)
2009-01-26 12:46:39
@: spyderr
Yes, I'm not dressed in literally boy clothes; maybe I should've mentioned that in the original text. The look is boyish. If it turns out that I like girls I wouldn't have a problem with that --> you see I'm so tolerant that I don't even know excactly where my borders are, you know? Thanks a lot for your comment!
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ChelysColumba (19461)
2009-01-26 12:54:51
@: xoxoxoamiwierdoxoxox
Yes, your advice is helpful, thank you very much for your comment! I'm wondering; how do you know for sure that you are straight? You fell in love? I know a couple of examples (don't want to make you uncertain or upset you, sorry if I do :p) that fell in love with the other sex but later turned out (variating from a week to a couple of [3-4] years) that they were gay anyway. Someone I know actually had a steady relationship with a gay for a whole year. Curious eh? But once again; thanks for your comment, you really helped me straighten my head a bit more
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ChelysColumba (19461)
2009-01-26 12:57:28
@: Jim_Pfoss
You're right I suppose ;) thank you very much indeed for your comment! love from holland
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ChelysColumba (19461)
2009-01-26 12:59:12
@: Mariebay
Ah thanks, that's a big relief.. stupid thing that I didn't knew that *-) Maybe gaining some knowledge about love-facts (or whatever you should/could call it) isn't a bad idea... thanks again ;)
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zsazsa (19789)
2009-01-28 19:33:21
How old are you? We don't usually find out who we are until we're late teens at least. Where are you? Tomboy in England has nothing to do with lesbian. Tomboys here dress like boys, go around with boys, play football - often it's because they love boys and want to be with them. Many of us are somewhat bi and there's nothing wrong or odd about it. You'll find a lot of men think it's a massive turn-on.
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ChelysColumba (19461)
2009-01-29 12:30:35
@: zsazsa
Oh in that case; I'm going straight towards England! Actually I am --> this summer I'll be travelling in Schotland, and thanks to your comment I've got another something to look forward to :) After this comment I decided to ask some boys about the matter and they didn't like it... at all... and they were alone when I asked them, so this I think was a relevant investigation.
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haleyxbailey (20630)
2009-03-03 21:02:18
be who you are!
if thats what you like dont let anybodys opinions stop you!
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geckopaws (20496)
2009-03-19 22:30:29
Well one thing is its ok to like both sexes it means your bisexual. And who cares what everyone else thinks. Well if you want a guy to look at you I suggest you start dressing like a girl though. Men don't like butchy women at all. I'm a very good looking female and wear female clothes but I like both sexes. I'm confused about my sexuality I guess. Thats how I determine what bisexuals are.
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XBabyBlueX (25056)
2009-07-13 05:35:25
yee its kinda normal i sometimes dress like a tom boy and suprisingly its toatallyy comfyyy :) x
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Iluvrocket (26061)
2009-07-25 09:19:33
I am totally sick of people trying to categorize people! See, if they can't understand something, they are afraid of it, and the take away it's mystery by labeling it. Don't let anyone label you! A true genius is androgenous! In cultural myths, the Trickster character is an agent of social change, the most important character, but always has aspects of both genders. (look it up on Wiki) It doesn't matter which gender you love, in fact true love in genderless. People who ask you your sexual preferences are preoccupied with sex, anyway.
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nothing2 (29013)
2009-10-13 19:20:01
sure you can. i think the men selection is pretty lousy sometimes.
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Jennalee (30523)
2009-11-03 04:42:06
Most boys are attracted to feminine girls and yes you could love both sex it's called bisexual.
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mikers (30818)
2009-11-05 03:10:25
its okay some guys like tomboys like me. there aint nothin wrong with anything like that
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