Too Clingy Towards My Mom?

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To be honest, your problem is one that quite a few people have, not just people with Aspergers syndrome (though it's probably exacerbated by the condition). It's normal to turn to a parent or someone similar if you feel rejected by your peers, but the degree of dependancy you have on your mum isn't healthy for either of you. Would you consider seeing a psychiatrist about any of this? It can really help to talk issues like this out with someone. Also, to help break away a little from your mother you have to start making new friends.
I don't see any reason why you couldn't make friends because of having Asperger's syndrome, I know someone with it and he's got plenty of mates. It'll probably be a lot harder for you to get started than it would be for most people, but if you wanted to you could maybe start by going to groups for people with Autism Spectrum Disorders since people there will understand any issues you have better than others. After you feel a bit more comfortable with yourself, you can go out and make more friends. Hope it works out for you :)

Thanks for your advice. :) I actually saw a counselor a couple years ago for unrelated issues, and she too said that my dependency towards my mom wasn't healthy. I had a best friend (who wasn't related to me) a few years ago, but to make a long story short, we got into an argument and she broke off our friendship. It was really emotionally painful for me, and I've had a hard time trusting people ever since. That's probably the biggest reason I haven't tried making any new friends.

I used to have a friend who had ADHD and she seemed to get jealous towards me a lot. She never wanted anyone else talking to me and she did seem to be jealous of certain things like when I got a new cell phone, and a new computer. It really bothered me and I had to cut her lose, because I could not be bothered with someone who even told me they were jealous of me because of the way I looked or things I had.

What I'm getting at is you are 18 years old and it is time for you to spread your wings and grow up. Even with your condition, your mom deserves a social life, and so do you. Of course you can still have a strong relationship with your mom but I think you should at least put the effort of trying to find relationships elsewhere as well.

This is very good advice I think. I might add that some of the relationship difficulties you've had are ones most people experience.

yea this is totally understandable, but you know you can't let one person ruin your life, maybe you should slowly introduce yourself back into making friends and such. Just work on it little by little, this doesn't happen over night, slowly work at it. Buriedalive has a good idea, go see people like you, if there is a group. Or how bout join a club because people become friends when they are working together, like in a drama club, i remember being really tight with everybody, i have some anti-social tendencies. But clubs really help you make friends.

you probably just feel really really safe around your mom. if you have Asbergers, its hard to find someone you can trust so much. but try and let her live her own life and you live yours.

Wow i'm not the only one. I think I have this problem also to some degree.

Well knowing that it's weird, you need to realize that her world does not have to revolve around yours.

Autism isn't a good reason, especially if you're questioning it too.

I don't know what to say, Being as how I can not comprehend your situation in any way.

Listen if you got a boyfriend that went down on you and ate that box like no other you wouldnt be thinking about mom anymore.You would be like yo mom wheres the paper towels!