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If you think the underlying reason is because you are self-conscious, then I have some advice. If not, then ignore.
Do things that you are good at. Overcome obstacles just so you can feel like a stronger person. find something, anything, and excell the hell out of it, it will give you a platform to feel equal to the people you have trouble interactng with. And when you get in an uncomfortable social position, and think "WHY THE HELL DID I SAY THAT" or "should I have held her gaze longer" you can easily see that you have just as much worth as they do (even if it is superficial at first) and bounce back in a minute. After a while it just becomes natural and you don't need "fallback thoughts"
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Find someone you really like then you won't be shy anymore, just act yourself

Are you only shy with females? or everyone? When I was in middle school, I was the same way with guys. I had braces and big round glasses so I felt like the most unattractive person in the world. I felt self conscious and shy around males because they showed no interest in me, but they showed no interest in me because I was self concious and shy. You have to escape this horrible cycle! Luckily I escaped it by a physical transformation. Lost the braces, got contacts, started wearing makeup, grew boobs, and before I knew it, I felt attractive! And the guys responded, which fueled my confidence. Do something to boost your confidence. Invest a little time or money in your appearance and it can make a world of difference. This might sound like superficial advice, but it changed my life. Mostly the braces, it was HUGE. I can smile confidently now, and I think it was worth every penny.

I'm only like that with females,most blokes i can talk to ok.
and yes i am very self consious about my looks, (pic in profile)At the moment i train at the gym everyday to bulk up a little but thats a long and slow process.

But thanks every one for your tips.

seek sum help!
Boost Your Confidence by joining a drama club or something!
NeThing 2 help!

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LOWER YOUR STANDARDS... YOU FEEL SHY BECAUSE WHEN YOUR DESPERATE A 6 FEELS LIKE A 10 AND IT IS HARDER WHEN YOU CRAVE IT SO MUCH... GO F*CK A NASTY ONE AND WORK YOUR WAY UP

i was just thinking i was in the same situation, people consider me shy and i cant make eye contact/am nervous talking about personal things... anyway, i decided to do something about it, an it works. just talk loud. ACT like you're not shy. don't let it show, and it'll start coming naturally. talk about easy subjects/ask questions (how was your day, whatd you do this morning, what's your favorite movie, have you ever seen this movie, etc)

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Hmm, sounds like you might have social anxiety, you can go to the doctor and tell them about it and they'll give you medicine, it actually works pretty good. I have it too and im the same way.

Get to know the girl if u realy shy then talk to ur friend to help u out. Go out more often live the real life...

Heres a lil trick look at ppls nose not eyes if u feel wierd.. once u nail the first girl ul feel good about ur self

DON'T LET GIRLS COME TO U FIRST show them u a real man talk to em even if u shy just do it they not gunna kill u......

ohh n when u look at ppls nose they think u lookin at their eyes they cant tell trust me!

=) good luck

ADVICE FROM A 13 YEAR OLD...
hey live life single then. That's okay. You don't NEED a girlfriend/wife, only if you want one. Try reading positive books, poems, ect...that will cure some of your shyness hopefully. Or take up a cool hobby, like guitar! It makes you more confident knowing that you can do something cool lol

are you wearing a mask?

gorephobic?

put a bag on your head or talk to people on the phone

Hiya.
Being shy is normal. Try practicing with your friends e.g making eye contact. there is no rush in finding someone, the right one will come along sooner or later.

And if you are reallu stuggling with finding someone, ask your friends to introduce you to new people.
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to woops: you're profile pic is pritty cute now...

not sure how to help you. I'm the same way around girls when I think they are cute and wana ask them out.

PS: I'm 24 years old.

Sweetie. You are going to have to break out of your shell or you won't get far in life. If you wanna stop being shy, just be yourself. Ask your family for advice on how to not be shy or hang out with people you feel comfortable around. Shyness will not get your anywhere. You need to be more outgoing and confident.

it is normal u just have to take a bit of courage face the world, being shy will lower ur capabilities, come on wake up time is gone for sleep now.,

Pitbull hit it "on the nose." When you look at the bridge of of someone's nose, It feels to them like your eyes are boring into their brain, and it won't bother you in the least.

You probably have Asperger's. Nothing wrong with that, many people have it. You're probably a genius and don't even know it.

join a theatre program to help overcome your fear

im the same way i always look at the floor or anywhere but their face when i talk to ppl and i play with my hair or touch my face and i get rly nervous it sucks ppl are always like holy ur so shy awww i wanna punch em in the face!!

yes, boost your confidence... try to be yourself even its hard for you.. Just chill, forget about anyone. they might think you have some problems if you're too shy..

you may have aspergers syndrom. look it up

Do things to make you more confidence. Maybe you need to find yourself and this could be through a hobby, knowing you are good at something makes you feel good about youself and something to show off about. Maybe that's what you need.

Get more social and spend time with close ones, eye contact should come natrally whith people you are comfortable with

self-conscious, big problem, i have it to. Set goals and do them,you'll be proud of your self, you will feel like a bigger person for alittle while. Set a new goal when you start feeling little again.

That's one symptom of Asperger's Syndrome. On its own it means nothing but why not read up on Asperger's and see whether you have any more traits? It might answer a great deal of questions.

Its normal to be shy. I am recluse thanks to social anxiety sindrome, but you're nto so introverted as I am.

It shouldnt be a problem to you. Just practice, practice and practice more! It's normal!

go out get drunk and speak to ladys out there its going to be alot easyer if your drunk but watch out do not drink to much :d

Being shy is normal, I think shy people are deep thinkers because they always try to think about the situation before jumping into it. And sometimes, it's just rude if you keep staring at someone anyway.

Maybe you can ask your friends for help, stare them in the eyes and just start saying random stuff until you don't care what they think. Drinking helps too, makes you not care.

You might have asperger's syndrome. I have it and your situation sounds similar in the social aspect.