twentyone and ive had enough!

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Wow...that must suck...it really seems like your wife is a serious control freak...mayby she keeps you home so much cus she thinks you don`t like her so much anymore, and you might be getting an affair or something if you have more time to yourself...yeah, i also get Her that raising 2 children is a full time job...and she would like when you help her out in that department...when she`s doing this in a nice way then its ok, i guess...but if she starts to get maniacal...like when you say: Hey, i`m going out with couple of friend, iŽll be back some time in the evening...and if she`s like: No way...ugh-ga...you ainŽt going nowhere...little Bobbie here needs to be fed( thats a made up name), and the toilet need cleaning, and who do you think will take out the garbage...Then you gotta stick out for yourself...: Hey, i didn`t ask for your premission, i was just notifing you...i love you and you are very dear to me but a guy has to have time for himself...so..right now i`m going out to a pub and getting a bear with my mates!....hey i hope that helps...you just gotta stick out for yourself more...it sucks when take over control and start bossing you around...yeah..something else...you should play this song(Hot Hot Heat - Talk To Me, Dance With Me) alot in the house...so she could hear the lyrics...and get the hint ;)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ayU0ZEoLc1o

hope it works out for you.

The post author is talking about a HE.
So it isn't a wife.

Tard.

OMFG....yeah...your right...srry my bad!! ...i didn`t even notice it...sounded like a guy speaking XD

I honestly feel bad for you. I can also see myself in a similar situation. My current boyfriend NEVER takes me out cuz he says he doesn't have money but every time I come over, he has 2g of weed and a new video game with a $70 price sticker still on there. It drives me crazy. I told him I want to do things with him... but... well maybe you'll be more lucky. Tell him you want to go out drinking with him. Hire a baby sitter and go have some fun! If he says no, offer to go to the movies or to a nice dinner or something.

Everyone needs friends. Try relationship counseling; he may be able to get over his problems.

If not, divorce his ass.

that is not normal. tell him how you feel, see if he'll understand you. if the kids are the only things that make you go on with your life, it's wrong. do you still love him? if not, move on. leave him! don't let the fact that he's the father of your kids keeps you miserable. you want the best for your kids, go to college, get a nice job, raise your kids in a healthy family. without the controlling partner. if financial is the major issue, get help. tell your family! mom, dad, sis, bro, cuz. get yourself a birth control, i bet you don't wanna see the third one soon.

he cant tell u what to do your ur own person u can have friends and go out when u want.. hes a controlling ass and u need friends to talk to and get away fron home life with its good for your well being!! plz go to a councellor and if he doesnt get over himself and let u do what u want or wont start trusting u, which someone who says they love u should, then its divorce time.. your young itll be fine. im almost 22 and my daughters 2 her dad was like that but he took off when she was born and i thought no one would wana be with me then i met the best guy when i wasnt looking, we've been together for 1 1/2 and he loves me and my daughter and we're so happy so dont worry itll get better but u gota make that first step to change ur life.

if ur bf really loves u he wud trust u to go out there and have fun sometimes

Tell him to f off. Hire a babysitter and go out and enjoy yourself! You need a life too!

You are deeply, deeply unhappy, and that heartless bastard wants to isolate and reject you even more to make you feel even worse and more miserable. This is emotional abuse. Do you hear that? HE IS A WOMAN ABUSER. Do you want to be that woman? Do you realize he could get worse? Do you want your children to grow up witnessing his sick and sadistic destruction of you? Call a distress centre now to get support. Make a plan. You and your kids deserve way better.

Sounds like you really rushed in to things before you were ready. I don't think there is much you can do now, a you have two young children who need loving parents. It's not about your life anymore, it's about theirs.

THIS IS WHY I will
NEVER put myself in your position!!! LOL!!! NEVER GET ATTACHED! You will regret it!!!

Yes it is about those children's lives. Reread my post. Get to a women's distress centre!!!

I so agree with Ollieo! You are in a very dangerous relationship. This happens a lot more than it should. Okay, now say this with me "My husband is NOT my boss. My husband does NOT choose who I can talk to. I am my own person. I am strong enough to leave him."
I really mean this- leave him-the first chance you get, take your kids and go somewhere. A women's shelter or a hospital or a church. Explain your situation and ask for help.

My ex husband was that way. I worked to and he was like this These men are dangerous. It will only get worse. Try to get yourself out and get help. Build up your self esteem. He wants to tear it down to make you grateful for just him., Ugh!

some guys have insecurity issues and he is probably afraid he is going to lose you. sit down and talk to him he needs to trust you its very important in a relationship

This is definitely not a normal or healthy relationship. People need to be social to have a normal lifestyle, and two small children is not enough of a social engagement. How does he treat you when you two are home together? If he treats you really well then you have to decide if that makes up for everything else. If he treats you terribly then you are in an abusive relationship. The type of abuse depends on what he does. I recommend you decide if it is worth salvaging. Most abusive relationships go in a cycle where the abuse occurs for a while and then stops and then resumes and then stops round and round and round. I would never treat my wife this way. While we dont have the ideal relationship, we are both allowed to leave the house. We both work, and I go to school. And if we wanna go out with our friends, we make it work so that one of us can go out while the other one of us is home with the baby. Like I said before, socializing with two toddlers is not adequate enough for any human being. Good luck. Since it seems you have access to the internet, maybe you could use a social networking site to meet a new friend. It sounds cheesy but find someone who lives near you and see if they have children and then you can invite them over and theyre kids can play with yours and you can have adult interaction.

hey hey!
life has its ups and down! you're still young and beautiful! you have a body, put your body to some use
enjoy sex
eat food
exercise
take your kids to the park
relax at times
you have friends
we are all each others friends
we are all humans
wave hello to your neighbors
call your loved ones up at times
your husband loves you

Maybe he's turned off by your spelling, or maybe your grammar.