Ugly-Duckling Syndrome

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The tactful way would be to not tell her. If you want her to go on a date with you, pick something nonthreatening and ask her. No guarantees beyond that, but you should be able to get at least one date out of her.

She has probably been teased so much that she looks for other qualities in people besides looks you should try the same thing I think

Stand aside shlowmo! A fit girl who has confidence issues? SHE'S MINE!

i wouldn't tell her she has ugly duckling syndrome, she might take it the wrong way!!

lmao u sound like u r very up urself... did it not occur to u that u dnt have to be ugly to be a nice person. she probably gets to know the guys and likes them for ther personality not just ther looks. and maybe u have the opposit of ugly duckling syndrome... maybe u think ur hot but in reality ur not... and it sounds like u dnt have a nice personality either... so of course shes gna go for the slightly unnattractive guy with a gr8 personality over the slightly unnattractive guy with a bad personality. (thats u btw)

Hey man I know what your going through, there's a similar situation happening to me now. Except in my case I dated this girl a couple of times but then she started dating a really good friend of hers and now he's her boyfriend...he is extremely ugly. It'll piss you off won't it? Don't tell this girl she has ugly duckling syndrome though, nothing good can come of it.

Maybe she feels like she has more in common with people who are not as pigheadedly shallow as you.

do u even kno this girl or are u just attracted to the way she looks? if u know her then it should give u some pointers if u dont get to know her and when ur going to compliment a girl dont tell her she's hot, tell her she's beautiful or breathtaking but thats my opinion im not a girl so i dont know if they prefer being called beautiful over being called hot

i agree with cabinet70

Start talking to her and become her friend first. That's usually how ugly people end up together anyway that I've noticed. Don't be like, damn you're hot, wann fuc*? Forget your penis for the time and become her friend, it will blossom into a beautiful relationship from there, if that's what you want. If all you wanna do is bang her, then leave her alone.

Try and find out from her friends if she is interested in you. People find different things attractive, perhaps she sees something in them that you do not.

Just tell her you think shes beautiful. Not that she used to be ugly and now shes beautiful. Wheres your game man?

Gee, maybe personality does count for something! I bet the guys she dates now are really nice and the important thing to consider here is that she obviously finds them attractive... Maybe she knows from her schooldays that guys like you are generally jerks - you wouldn't have bothered with her when she was an 'Ugly-Duckling' now would you boi?! Go find some moronic bimbo who has always been a moronic bimbo and loves herself to pieces; I'm sure you two will be very happy together.

just give her the pimp fist and rape her..then tell her she's no longer got ugly duckling syndrome because she's daddies big girl...then rape her again for good measure.

u shud tell her what you think
have you ever thought that she is dating these guys because she reely likes their personalities? if u try to get to know her then she myte like u too and wont be intimidated.

convince her that you're not only in it because she's hott

I'm not exactly a relationship expert. I've only had maybe 10 girlfriends in my 15 years of life, but I've been with an incredibly hot one for over a year, so I must be doing something right.

Just ask her out dammit. Don't tell her about the ugly duckling thing, and certainly don't tell her that she has confidence issues.

Once your with her (and also maybe when you're trying to get with her) try complementing her. Don't tell her "you have a really nice ass" or "wow you have big boobs" because that will just piss her off and she'll think you're a jerk (although it might help her confidence a bit).

Try telling her that shes cute/pretty/beautiful at first, stuff like sexy or hot will be good a bit later on into the relationship. Also, you should try complementing her on her eyes or other features that arents necessarily sexual (like, nothing about boobs, ass, waist, legs, ect.). Don't make all the complements about her physical appearance either though, tell her that you like talking to her, or that she has nice taste in something. Don't lie to her though, because sometimes you forget about those.

just ask her out come one she'll be shy at first but your to old to be playing beat around the bush. ask her out if she says no dont take it for an answer keep sweeping her off her feet. find out what she likes and invit her to go out somewere she cant resist.
G.L

Well, she may have that and needs to gain self worth. Other thing may be these guys you see as ugly, may be good looking to her.

Clone her!!

while i do agree with roger49 (top of the list) i will say that instead of getting her to stop dating these "hideous men" i think you should really get her to realize that she is pretty, and you need to remember that happiness is extremely important, so even if she still dates men less attractive than you, let her, as long as she is in a happy loving relationship, but definitely factor in, or completely use, roger49's advice

so you knew she was ugly as a kid but pretty as a teen, can you spell SHALLOW? you only like her cause of her looks, if you really liked her like you think you do, you wouldn't care what she looked like when you knew her as a kid

just go ask her out! forget looks...they rate zero in todays world... i mean youl alwaz find a gorgeous guy with a ugly gal or a pretty gal with damn ugly guy.... talk to her youl be suprised maybe looks is the last thing she thinks about when it comes to guys.

Hmmm ... maybe you are gorgeous but a complete f*&*wit. You are obviously arrogant, cocky, and think you know how she should live her life better than she does. Take a dose of humility, try to see what she sees in the guys she dates and see if you can match any of their qualities. Then you can begin to prove yourself to her.

ridicule

Maybe the other guy deserves her because he isn't as shallow as you.

Kind of a roundabout way of saying "why won't she pick me?" innit? The way you've presented yourself in this post, I think it's pretty safe to assume she won't go out with you because she thinks you're shallow... or possibly even because you never asked.

You're all stupid. There ARE attractive guys with good personalities. Therefore, she has the Ugly-Duck syndrome. Stop pretending that there's only attractive guys and ugly guys with other good qualities. Anyone who says that is just an ugly ass themselves. If she chooses an ugly guy over an attractive guy, that's fine with me. But she'll regret it later after she has fugly kids.

personally i was picked on in school and believe me it's pretty damageing so i would be pretty offened if someone told me i have the ugly duckling syndrome. from reading this you sound like a real dick. god all guys such arrogant jerks (regradless of what they look like).

Maybe you're just not as attractive as you seem to think you are....

I think she knows she should stay away from shallow guys like you because you guys have nothing to offer but your big egos.

I could not agree more.

convince her shes pretty and that u really like her. b modest, cuz girls HATE arrogance.

Did you ever think that maybe you are a shallow person? She HAS A BOYFRIEND, who according to you is ugly.. And you can't get her, because "you are too hot for her, because she was an ugly duckling" SOMEONE NEEDS TO WAKE YOU UP SO I WILL DO THE HONORS. YOU ARE MAKING UP EXCUSES FOR YOUR OWN INADEQUACIES AS A MALE BACHELOR. The reason she doesn't want you must be "because she doesn't realize she can get such a hot guy, or because she feels insecure around them". Well, it's an interesting theory, but I would place my money on the bet that as an ugly kid she learned to appreciate the more important qualities in people, rather than superficial appearances. Maybe you should work on some non-superficial qualities of your own and see how it works for you.

that was at OP not roger.

i was always made fun of for my looks when i was younger, and every time an attractive guy says something to me i always perceive it as a joke because it's not something i'm used to. most of the time, the attractive guys i know are jerks because they know how good looking they are, and they use it to their advantage. she's probably going for the ugly guys because she doesn't have anything to worry about. no one is gonna be jealous, and she'll have no one competing against her. with an attractive guy like you seem to think you are, however, she's probably afraid of other girls going for you, and you might find a better girl than her. i'm not really sure. it's hard to get inside someone's head, but this is how i feel so...if that helps.

and also, you shouldn't tell her she has "ugly duckling syndrome", she'll think you're such a dick. and you definitely sound like it cuz you only seem to care about how she looks now and not her personality...why are all guys so stupid?

You shouldn't date this girl because you do not respect her - rather - you see her as a pathetic; and yourself as someone she SHOULD be flattered to have anywhere near her. What arrogant BS.

Take you pseudo psychology and blow it out your ear.