Hi everyone. I know my story's title is a little bit harsh and I guess you already got the wrong impression of what kind a person I am, so here is some background info: I'm 20 years old, ambivert, social, kind and animal-loving person. I was lucky to be an owner of two dogs since I was a child and I loved them both, NEVER laid my hands on them. Like I said, I love animals and they seem to love me back; be it dogs, cats, parrots or hamsters. So don't you think I am one of those animal abusers, I despise people who abuse animals. But lately a strange feeling is flowing through me: I have an urge to hurt my girlfriend's female cat. Here's the thing. I started dating this girl about 2 months ago and we really hit it off, it got pretty serious and we are happy. When she told me she has a cat I didn't feel this urge, I like cats and I had never hurt one in my entire life, but after a month into our relationship she told me her cat is anti-social, it fights with other cats and avoids foreign humans. Then I felt a spark of the feeling I'm telling you about. When we talk on phone, her cat is always meowing, crying for attention in the background and it's driving me crazy (I'm not jaleous or something). When my girlfriend told me her cat is terrified of the sound of plastic bags (probably a result of past abuse) it made me want to hurt it even more. I dont know why but when I think about this cat I feel like a volcano is about to errupt inside me and a whole new "me" is taking over. This feeling kinda scares me because in my mind I tend to picture myself hurting the cat and I don't know how I'd act when I'll actually see it, I'm afraid this will screw up our relationship, this girl means alot to me.
Is it normal? what should I do?
Thanks for reading and helping. Jake
Is it normal? what should I do?
Thanks for reading and helping. Jake
You should try to be more active in helping it socialise more and getting it used to things that it has trouble with.
Please do not hurt it, neither the cat or your gf deserve that. And by hurting the cat, you will hurt your gf.
Good luck!
plus im sure the cat doesnt want to be hurt
maybe she could come to your place so you dont see the cat as much or you both go out more.
and if that dont work try imagining hurting something else? maybe mosquitos
Here's the thing, I have a great respect for human life, yet sometimes PEOPLE GET ANNOYING. I was at a movie theater to see the movie "Paul" with my girlfriend, and these fatasses behind me were talking the whole time! I recently started taking Ritalin, so that wasn't helping me get less angry. I wouldn't have been mad if they had just been whispering, but they were talking like they were in a restaraunt. I WANTED to hurt them very badly, but doesn't mean I did. Don't worry, if the girl means a lot to you, you will have enough self control.
Btw, despite my response being so critical, I voted that you are normal, because I want to hurt my girlfriend's cat too LOL! However, for me it's because I have horribly uncomfortable allergies to cat fur, the cat poops on the floor from time to time for the fun of it (seriously, it KNOWS how to use the litter box), it does whatever it can to run into her room if the door opens even though it knows it's not supposed to (seriously, if it starts to go in and she or her dad yells at it, it stops with this guilty look and turns around. If I yell it goes in), she doesn't want it, yet has to have it, and did I mention it poops all the time? Again, I have self control, no cat hurting.
It's okay to find something irritating but abusing it is a whole new story. People who abuse animals usually turn into murderers so be very careful there!
(probably the strangest sentence I have ever wrote) Just see how you feel when you actually see the cat, if you still want to hurt it you'll have to not go round to her house and explain why I'm afraid!