Wanting Children at the Age of 19. Is this Normal?

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No you are not crazy but I think you should wait till you are finished with college to have children. Think how hard it will be to keep up with your studies and take care of a kid and work. That would be difficult. But I guess if you really want one and think you can do it have a kid then.

I don't think you are crazy. It's I can actually sort of relate with you. I am 21 and everytime I see a picture of suri cruise and katie holmes [sorry had to use her as a reference because she is adorable] I think about how nice it would be if I could walk around with my little girl like that, have fun with her love her and dress her, and be the world to her. Even with my 2 year old nephew and his friends, I see them and kinda tear up because they are just so beautiful and full of life. However, I am in no situation to have kids. But, you say you are at the point you can have them and you believe you can manage them. I will tell you one thing, everything has been done before, and with hard work and patience it can happen. If you truely do want kids, and are aware of all the things that come with them, then you do what your heart tells you and have a child. Just know, that sometimes the best things in life are worth waiting for. College only takes 4 years. I don't know how far along you are, but that is not a long time, especially if you double up. After a degree, if you have the baby you wont have to worry about trying to manage work/school/ and childcare. It will be work and then childcare.

either way, it's all been done before. and if you truely want it at this time, you know in your heart you can make it happen.

good luck with it all
[sorry for my comment being long and all over the place. i just always get to typing and cant stop]

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Operating on the assumption that your boyfriend is sane: If you told him you wanted kids, he would run as far away as possible. So pick your poison.

No Sweetie,

You are not alone. I have also had the same desire since I turned 17 - and several of my bff's have also had the same inclination. I love kids, but because I am a model, having a kid right now would mess up my career. I'd say get stable with your career ASAP, or marry some rich man so that you dont have to work

Yes, it's normal. And it's normal to want kids even when you're only 14. That doesn't make it a good idea though.

I have had the same feeling since I was 16 and with my current boyfriend. I don't know what it is but I can just imagine us being paents, and we joke about the future with little kids.

Maybe you are comfortable in a relationship so it just feels right to have children with him. Plus peer pressure too, whatever everyone else has you have to have too, to feel 'normal'.

I think thinking like us, education first, is a good way, because then we can look after our children when we are in more of a stable condition and know where and when the money will be comming in, since babaies are EXPENSIVE.

thats not normal wanting kids at 14