Was I wrong to tell his wife?

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I dated a man for three years. The last year of our relationship we were engaged. I broke our engagement, because of his hard core sexual addiction with Porno and Strippers. I found-out that he would have emotional affairs with woman through email and the phone. Him being a widower, he had a babysitter that was a teacher at the Christian school where his kids attend. It had became obvious to me that she was interested in him and that their relationship had become rather close. Well, 7 months after we broke-up they were married. He and I continued to have on and off communcation where he had explicitly, with vulgar language, described his sexual encounters with his wife. Reminding me of what he may had done to me, I entertained his communication to see how far he would go. Ultimately he began to fantasize about our sexual experience also describing it in a vulgar and explicit fashion. I couldn't believe all he was saying. He said that he wanted to continue his fantasy with me. I ultimately forwarded to him information from the internet about infidelity and disclosed that I was just playing him to see how far he would go on cheating on his wife. I actually found her email address and forwarded his emails. I expressed to her that he needed help. I feel bad that I did that, more so because of their children (she has two and he has two). I told her that if it were me I'd want to know. His wife said that she appreciated me telling her. They have only been married 9 months, but our communication started after they were married only 4 months. Was I wrong to tell his wife, or should I have just left well enough alone and let her find-out on her own like I did?