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We walked in on our daughter
My husband and I came home a little early from work and walked in on our daughter going at it on the couch. She locked her self in her room. She is no longer locked in her room. but she still won't talk to us. It's been three days now. She is fourteen. Is it normal for a girl her age to do this? HELP
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If she feels too embarrassed about this, she might be inclined to go for the real thing.
shes embaressed about it cos shes a teenager and i think the best think to do would be to pretend it never happened unless she brings it up.
i'm 17 so i know what i'm talking about lol
Not so normal for her to be doing it on the couch as oppose to in private?
No real solution either, its just something that needs time to be forgotten. Perhaps the mother should let her know there was nothing wrong with what she was doing and then never speak about it again lol
The thing is, at the age of 14 most girls are getting sensitive about others seeing their bodies or things to do with their sexuality (Luckily my folks were hippies and masturbation was more open and free)
If she was nude she might be deeply embarrassed if you saw her naked, even if she was not, if she was really Into the act, she might be deeply humiliated - particularly if her father was there.
What I would suggest is that you find a time when its just you girls, then sit down and explain to her that pleasuring oneself is nothing to be ashamed of, that everyone does it at times, even you and her dad, but it really should (in most cases) be done in private.
October Marie
Can I say embarrasing. Its perfectly normal but god lord it must have been humilating- your parents finding you doing it. I think Id just want to be swallowed by the ground. Just reassure and make sure she knows theres NOTHING wrong with it.
Just clear the air & reassure her that everything is OK between you. If you are too embarrassed to be the parent, how is she supposed to feel?
the phrases todays morons come up with are hilarious
right, speaking from a girl of a similar age's point of view she will never want to speak of this episode ever again, unless she is a particularly earthy person (from what you have said, she doesn't sound too sexually outward.)
Its totally normal for teenagers to do this, so don't make a huge deal about it - epecially to her.
Just pretend everything is normal - lets face it, at least she is um...satisfying herself with this that finding some silly, brain-in-penis, teenage guy.
Hope this helps and good luck x
Or she could just be humiliated.
Either way ask her if she wants to talk about it. If not accept it for what it was and just consider it another step in your daughter becoming an adult.
i watched my dad's porn with my 1 year older female cousin at the age of 7-8? i don't know wtf i was doing, it just felt good. My parents walked in on me and freaked out. I cried, my cousin cried. After a 1 hr lecture, everything was normal.
That could mean anything..
Maybe she just had a very bad itch, that she was scratching thoroughly?
Or she was exercising vigorously and quite embarassed about it?
But then again, maybe she was attacking the cat with a cheesegrater.
Assuming that we're talking about good old-fashioned self-exploration, then i believe your answer lies in lying.
As soon as your daughter hits a certain point in her life she's gonna be able to joke about this, and we've all already agreed that its perfectly normal, so our main problem is the inevitable embarassment. So in resolution to it, you may need to talk to her, especially if it was obvious what she was doing. Your main priority is letting your daughter feel comfortable in her own home again. So dont be afraid to bend the truth and tell her that your mother found you doing the same when you were young, or something along that line. The funnier the better. It might sound dubious, and it is, but if it helps her feel comfortable with her parents until she's old enough to truly know how normal it is, its worth it.
You can tell her then, and she'll be fine with it.
Either way, good luck with her.
Anyhow, the above poster knows what s/he is talking about.
Masturbation is normal man
Your daughter is at a stage in her life when she's got a lot of feelings to try to sort out and understand. She's also at a phase when many girls are extremely self-conscious.
Unless you have a problem with her masturbating, you need to find a non-intrusive way to let her know that it's OK to explore her body and her feelings. Let her know that it doesn't change the way you and your husband feel toward her, and that it shouldn't change the way she feels about you guys.
She might not want to discuss it openly, but she needs to know that it's OK or an event like that can have lasting consequences on her life and her relationships in the future. She should feel good about her sexuality and about exploring it on her own--it is perfectly safe and perfectly healthy, and it would be a shame for her to feel ashamed about it needlessly.
As parents you're going to need to let her know that its okay, everyone does this, and that it's not the end of the world and doesn't change your love for her or how you see her. Let her know that you don't have to talk about it specifically ever again and you can, as of that moment put the whole "incident" in the shredder and forget about it.
Maybe tell her it's normal and that she has nothing to be ashamed about.
2.Dont worry if u had a boy thats a loser he'll be jacking of till he's 19.
3.She's just getting to know her body
now he knocks
but i think im not embarassed cuz it started for me a loooong time ago but i didnt know wat i wuz doin n it became a habit.