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Weird relationship with principal
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I'm going through major depression right now, and one of my support people is my principal, because I told him I was suicidal before anyone else knew. As the weeks have gone by, and I haven't gotten better, I find myself being attached to him. I wish that he could be my father, and his wife, who I've never met or seen ever, could be my mother. It's quite ridiculous. He's always sort of been a father figure for me, but now my depression and anxiety actually get worse when I think he's angry or avoiding me. It's not that I have any romantic feelings for him, but he feels like the only adult that really cares about me. Is that normal?
Do you think it's normal?
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Jim_Pfoss (19247)
2009-03-19 21:24:56
You say you are attracted to him, and then you say you have no romantic feelings for him.
So which is it?
If you just want to be around him because he is kind, that seems pretty normal.
If you want to be with him even though he is trying to avoid you, that seem a little weird.
Of course, your perceptions might be completely unreliable due to your depression and whatever you are doing or not doing for it, so it seems like you need to address that first.
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TinyDancer15 (20834)
2009-03-21 11:48:19
@: Jim_Pfoss
What I meant to say is that I don't have a crush on him. I wish he was my father, and nothing more. I do want to be around him, but not with him. A sort of friendship. I was just wondering if it was normal to want your principal to be your father.
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EndStreet (21946)
2009-04-17 07:59:44
@: Jim_Pfoss
First of all he said attached not attracted

I find that normal to want some you care about or some one who cares about you to relate to you in some way , and in this case its a father figure ..
Its ok for you to want that relationship but remember that u already have a father :) but i found it not normal that this is causing you anxiety , go talk to a friend or ur real dad or someone who can help and is trustworthy , a principle is not a friend and wont be there for a long time
Gl =)
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EndStreet (21946)
2009-04-17 08:00:13
Find**
Sorry
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antchris (22537)
2009-04-30 22:24:04
It sounds like you are searching for a missing role model and this person is someone you admire and respect, just put yourself in any principal's shoes, if a student comes to them with suicidal intention they are extremely unlikely to dismiss them. I think you are feeling insecure, and frightened this person will rebuff you. Having suffered depression before, I can emphasise with this, so I would say it is normal.
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purerandomosity (25287)
2009-07-10 01:34:22
@: Jim_Pfoss
she said she felt ATTACHED not attracted.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-09-06 09:13:23
Sure thats normal - he sounds like a caring adult, and it appears that is missing with your own parents. But there are limits as too who he can be for you. I gather you are getting counseling support elsewhere.
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rickster (29750)
2009-10-13 14:10:44
Totally normal but be careful!
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