What are manners really for?

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tbh, I don't think that's what having manners is about XD to me it's just having the decency not to be an arsewipe to someone who hasn't been an arsewipe to you, and respecting peoples boundaries when you talk to them. Most people don't really go in for the whole subtle social cues sort of thing anymore anyway, so it's pretty normal to feel that way.
I suppose it's different if you're tryin to make it in high society or what, but if the kind of thing you've decribed annoys ya so much just don't have posh friends XD

Sounds like something I would do. Although I think manners are just a way of showing respect but not something to obssesively practice like some posh snob.

If youd been raised properly you would know what manners are for and wouldnt have to ask

Ethics is a peace treaty among human beings without use of violence..Taking that to consideration manners are a display of an individual keeping order and peace.Anyone that lacks manners can be seen as an endangerment to society.Manners are just displaying that one restrains from rebellious behavior thus keeping order to society ,but you don't necessary need perfect manners...You just need simple basic manners to keep the peace...higher standard manners are usually needed to fit into a certain class of people.

Overall I think you normal it just maybe that you don't know how to fit in society in someway so this angers you. so anything that makes you feel that you don't fit in with society threatens you.And alot of us usually ask those questions on why we have to do things a certain way because it is human nature to want to know what is what in life and how can we live with these whats in our live =P So relax your fine you just need understand why certain things are in place so you can have peace with them.

"Beat their face..." !?! Maybe you are an hostile and angry person who people have to walk on eggshells around. And even when they are being ever so polite you take offense. The problem isn't their manners - the problem is you.

You have 'manners' and 'tact' confused. It's those 'tactful' snobs that you want to beat the hell out of, not the average well-mannered chap who knows better than to chew with his mouth open and fart out loud in a restaurant. I too despise those aloof characters who like to watch others dig themselves into a hole just for the pure gratification of it, mocking and laughing with their eyes alone...that is not manners; that is being a pretentious assh#le...

@chunkybong
I agree with you Chunky! It is the stuck up snobby people that are to cowardice to truly say what they feel for fear of what other people think of their image. And I guess if I want to beat them....its to beat them in their own game. You know....become the Alpha dog in every way,form, and fashion.
@Ollieo
...actually no I have people that respect me that can tell me exactly what they think. I respect people that are my friends that can do that.If they don't like something about me they will tell me right then and there. Its just that I possibly have been looking up to the wrong caliber of upper class people. And based on your words you seem to be one those caliber of upper class people as well. I pity you.
@ Lovethyselfasone
yeah I have lived through a lot of tough stuff in my life buddy. I had horrible parents raising me.Actually parents that were not fit to really be parents. The little social skills that I have are very helpful. But they are not enough. I am not very strong socially but know behind closed doors I am on of the strongest people you may ever could meet when it came to difficult times in life.

People are scared to hurt another person's feelings because it'll save themselves from someone feeling neagtive towards them. I respect honesty, and I think it's truthful so even if someone gets angry cause your being honest, blunt, and to the point, let it slide because most likely it'll help them in the long run, not to get walked on, yadda yadda. if you feel pissed off when someones passive aggressive, just be like "listen, just say fuck you." or something haha, instead of getting mad. cause you know why theyre passive and if you know what they really mean, just take what you know and go. leave it alone.

I think you are misreading things. Look, you said in your post that you don't pick up on social cues .. but then you go on to be all belligerent and blame everyone else. That is not a class issue. Its not about being honest. That is just ignorance - yours. Thump your chest and growl all you want. Or just be honest with yourself. Maybe then you will "get ahead."

I also get that it is not that easy. I think you know what you need to do. But the pathway of anger ... well that is not it ... right?

its because their being rude to you in a polite way so you can't actually get mad at them but you are anyway cuz you can pick up on their secret intentions i think its normal to find agression towards that

You should just stay out of East Asia. Trust me. If you go around burping and farting and punching people that bow at you, you'll end up decapitated. Have a nice day.

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