Is it normal to feel like becoming a mom will be hard but to not freak out about it and will it hit me sometime soon that i will be a mom.
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You almost literally have to wait on newborns hand and foot. Some are good sleepers and just sleep but for most that I have encountered they require constant attention.
Prepare yourself. If you were thinking about taking regular showers, sitting down to regularly eat meals, peeing alone, dressing nicely, sleeping in and doing things that you enjoy for the first few months of that child's life, hopefully you either have a nanny, an awesome partner, or your child is one of those non-fussy sleepers. I wouldn't count on the last one.
Not trying to be discouraging here, but you'd better rest up now.
For many it depends on where they are in life. For a woman that is low income, young and just barely knows what she's in for, it'll probably hit a lot harder than if you've been planning this and you are confident that you have the means to provide for baby.
Now that I've panicked you (please don't, it will be okay!) I want to say that none of that makes you a bad mother. Do what you can. You will fuck up. You're human. Try not to beat yourself up over it. Your baby will love you regardless. You and your partner are what your child needs most. Don't be afraid to ask for help - with housework and groceries as much as with the bub. It is better for you to do things with the baby for bonding and for getting yourself comfortable with babycare. Remember to take time for yourself - it isn't selfish, your baby will benefit from a mother who isn't at her wits end.
I hope this helps. I'd write more bit I'm a bit pushed for time and writing on a phone and it annoys the shit out of me typing on it.
All the est for your new family :)
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The hardest part for me was just learning to be more responsible, in that, before I had my son, my mom took care of a lot of things for me. Making appointments, insurance handling, etc. Now that's my job, not only for me but for my baby cuz most dads just don't understand all that stuff so it's usually going to be on you.
Also, the lack of sleep. The first few nights were fine because everything was so new and I thoroughly enjoyed it, I was too excited about my new baby to sleep, but when the excitement levels out, your body realizes it needs sleep and you probably won't get any. That part sucks. Especially if you're breast-feeding because you won't be able to have much, if any, caffeine.
Congrats to you, and good luck! You'll do just fine!
I became a mom without knowing any of these things, never been around babies or moms at all really. But instinct kicks in and soon you'll see that as long as you're having all the issues described above, and you have plenty of common sense, you are doing fine. The hardest part is not knowing if you are doing things right and worrying about the Baby's safety, especially when you are not around. But, yeah, lack of sleep does make you kind of irritable....
Oh, and money. Babies cost a SHIT LOAD of money. People seem to breed without understanding the cost of raising a child. Love alone won't be enough...you have to have enough money for doctors, diapers, bedding, etc etc etc. Luckily things worked out with her money-wise, but seriously it's a horrible idea to bring a baby into the world if you don't understand the cost.