What is wrong with me? I am so weird.

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Have you tried drinking beer? I find this assists me when it comes to social interaction with ladies, it also has the benefit of making the fat and ugly ones more attractive.

I used to be the same way dude, you just don't have enough practice. I got over this buy doing multiple things.

1.) Practice possible conversations that might arise by yourself, possibly in front of a mirror or in the car. Don't be afraid to add inflection in your voice and try to make different funny faces in the mirror you might find one that you like. I know this sounds kinda weird, but trust me it helps. By doing this you will be more prepared to express yourself the way you want to be perceived. Most conversations are based on statements people already have made in other conversations. Meaning they are loosely scripted. "Scripting," as it is called in the movie Antwone Fisher, gives one something to say in specific social situations. Like a jazz player has a r'epertoire of musical licks that they use during a improvisation, You will have a r'epertoire of things to say during a conversation. Believe it or not many people do this.(probably some of your friends)

2.) Think of yourself as a leader trying to take charge. In typical conversation the most admired person is the the one showing the most dominance. (don't confuse dominance with being an inconsiderate asshole or cocky)

3.) Befriend some girls. Your other problem is when confronted with a social situation involving the opposite sex you aren't able to express yourself the way you want. Find a girls who you have no intention or desire to have sex with and dominate them socially. Most girls love being dominated, they seek a dominate male like their fathers to start relationships with. Have you ever noticed that many of the hottest girls go out with complete assholes. why is this? Because assholes are brash people that typically take what they want, in a dominant fashion. Don't be like that except to dominate in a leadership position, not a tyrant position.

By doing all these things you will start to see yourself become who you really know yourself to be. It takes time but you'll will emerge a lot sooner than later.

dude i dont think your wierd or any thing ots not what they thihk its what you think of your self

Dude...Don't listen to someguy or brother. What they said was dumb.

being social is all about having fun. I get REALLY pissed when I talk to someone and they go on about BULLSHIT that is very non interesting. DONT DO THAT. Have fun with it. don't be plain. just come up with crap. When you start to have conversations that last long and seem to end too fast(which you will) then thats when you've basically got it down. I really don't plan on talking about things with people. Just go with the flow. pretty much everything people do has some rhythm. try to accomplish that with the pre thought musical licks.

Everything else dman said Is 100 percent muy bueno.

same i hate new ppl

Worry less about what people think of you, and worry about what you think of them.

As for your monotone, find a book you like and go read it out loud in a public place with all the feeling you can muster.

If no one will listen, consider doing it on a bus or train.

I'm not making this up. I've seen it done, and you'd be amazed at the kinds of reactions it gets.

it sucks i totally know what this feels like i hardly ever see my friends anymroe and when i do i dont know what to say either. it just seems to flow with them but i cant keep up with things.

its nice u have some friends who still want to be with u.. when my friends see me its like theyre humouring me or just seeing me because they know i have no one else

omg thats so like me.. well around ppl i dont kno realllly well i just cant think of anyything to say my mind goes blank.. when i have my best friend with me or sumin im good i talk more, not alot but more.. but if my friend goes to the bathroom or sumin im like uhh...yaaa.... and ppl are always bugging me about me never talking and being so quiet it pisses me off!! i duno how to change it but im gettin better.. oh and alcohol helps ALOT

Just be yourself. It's OK to be different.

well i am not like you at all, BUT i think i can help you. Okay so you say some girls say your cute and all that so obviously your not to bad looking. It can be hard starting up a conversation, but you might want to just start with hey how have you been?? let them ramble on about themselves for a min or so and when they ask you just tell them what you have been doing lately, you know you could say "oh well i just joined this great club called..." and just talk about that and if you know the person a little better then try and talk to them about something that they are interested in.

The facial expressions thing..yeah maybe go in the mirror and just practice smiling, frowning, lifting your eyebrows, funny faces, any thing you want that changes things up. the monotone thing is a problem and i dont know if you can change it, but maybe just when your by yourself talk in different tones and maybe realize the other tones you have. hope this helped..

monotone voice, lack of facial expressions, sucking at being social, all possible signs of having aspergers, look it up, it sounds so you!

Just say something random and hope that the conversation flows from there. Unless you don't have any life experiances to add onto the conversation, then its difficult to get a conversation flowing. Just talk and listen. sometimes conversation goes nowhere and that's probably because you have nothing in common with the person. Facial expressions should follow that, i think

it depends on what you want in life. if you want to be popular just bullshit your way through life, if you want to be social then you will have to change.
what you have to ask yourself is whether or not you like who you are, and also whether or not you like the people who at the moment you fail to impress by just being you.
would you like yourself, if you met yourself at a party? if the answer to the last question is yes, then maybe you are just not the type of person who has fifty friends. but what exactly is wrong with that?

Hi, you sound like an awesome person, you probably have some really interesting things to say, if you would just open your mouth. I'm the same way, I always don't know what to say when I'm faced with a social situation, I start thinking about what I'm going to say. But really, talking is just as easy as typing, just open your mouth and let the words come out. Your monotone-ness...your probably humurous! In a good way, embrace it! Your the way you are for a reason! Explore the unknown, see what you don't know, little by little. IF you've anymore questions you can always ask me, I'm was where you were, I'm learning how to open up though. It's fun! :D

I am so happy i found this.. I have the exact same problem and I've been having trouble. I hope this helps thanks a lot

@comatose_dream: I agree, it really could be Aspergers. It could also be lack of practice. dman82 has some good advice.

Man.
I feel the same way.

i hear ya. i'm kinda like that too, and for a while i just thought i was weird. But honestly, I'm just reserved. i don't speak unless i have something to say. Sounds like you're kind of the same way, but you should try to get some practice so that you know what to say more often. It can become detrimental after a while

quiet guys = cool (unless you appear awkward)

just have a few catch phrases for various situations at the ready, and you'll be ok

there's no need to yap on like girls on the phone, guys are cooler when they say less

I used to be like that
And I still kind of am, but I have improved ALOT
I find it best to get out there and do things
Get into things like acting where you have to get in front of a lot of ppl, be someone completly different, and make a lot of facial expressions
Put yourself out there more
I'm not sure how the acting helps, but I think it did wonders for me

take some E