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This summer I fell in love with a girl I've met at work. She was the perfect girl for me, and we used to be good friends. The problem was that her feelings towards me were not the same (I think) but I didn't care much about it since we were good friends. My best Buddie who knew what I felt, while joking with her told her that I liked her a lot. She told him that she was a lesb**n but since I was sure she wasn't I felt like she was rejecting me. After she claimed she was only joking but as I was too hurt and too shy I didn't talk to her. Now its been two months and she started avoiding me with all her heart. The problem is that I'm still in love with her. Now, I can't focus on anything, at school I'm always thinking about her and I really don't know whats happening in the lessons, I don't do my homework anymore and I can't sleep properly.

Last week, I've got her mobile number from her friend, and sent her an sms with the hope of make friends again but all I've said was total sh*t. She received the sms at 11:30pm since I've got some problems with sms's with different networks. She didn't reply to my sms. Today I saw her again and my heart was telling me to go to talk with her but I was too shy and afraid of what her reaction might be so I avoided her.

Now I'm in a conflict between my mind and my heart and I really don't know what I should do: Should I forget her? Should I go talk to her and with what face after avoiding her for 2 months!!! Is this normal or I'm the weirdest person in the world??
Do you think it's normal?
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Comments (13)
gizzie56 (8681)
2008-11-12 19:32:10
Okay here is what I think you should do. It is obvious that she doesn't have those types of feelings for you, so she is ignoring you. I think you should give up this idea about being here boyfriend and just try and go back to being her friend. It sounds like at one time you were good friends, and I believe if you can get that friendship back it will cure your depression. Just tell her that you cherish her friendship and wish things could go back the way they were when you didn't have these other feelings about her. Don't fret just be a friend to her and look for someone else for a girlfriend. You never know be a friend to her and maybe someday it will develop into more than that, and if it don't no worries you still have a good friend so it's a win situation either way.
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violent10dency (10988)
2008-11-13 07:48:40
I think you should cut her off, and not even be her friend. Seriously, you will just end up getting hurt again. What you really need to do is pay attention in class, and do your homework. You could also try eating healthier and trying to get on a good sleep schedule. Just focus on you and your education for now, and then once you get in a routine then you can pursue a relationship....with another girl.
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Anasule (17389)
2008-11-14 08:09:24
If you sent her a text and she did not reply she is not interested, that and the more you try the closer to a stalker you will become.

Just let it go its making you loose sight of whats important in your life which at the moment is school so for now focus on education.

In life you get many changes someone else will come along and you will get to try again, this time with the benefit of hindsight.
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pringlehopper (16735)
2008-11-16 00:17:00
try just being her friend. Cutting her off won't work, not for either a couple years or till u find a new girl at least, but try to just be friends, that could help. If that doesn't work out then the only thing you can do is try to forget about her.
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uroly (17956)
2008-11-25 02:07:18
Let Go ......... U should have cleared your thoughts and feelings with her at first place.
Your troubles today are just because of yourself.
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fashionstar11 (21752)
2009-04-09 11:12:49
Oh boy.That gossip girl did that with your love cause she´s in love with you!She wants to be with you and she wants you not to be in love with her. That gossip wants you to be in love with her.Trust me!!!
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sodas (21247)
2009-04-09 21:59:55
with all those signals she has given you, its evident she is not into you (even if you "want" to feel she is into you) you have to forget her its not gonna be easy. in fact it will be tough as f... but its necessary
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princesst76 (21942)
2009-04-18 15:14:36
well she may have said she was a lesbo coz she dunt like u.
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mattyrocks100 (24769)
2009-06-27 18:16:31
here is what i think u shud do

find out where she lives go round to her house and tell her then

it wont be easy but at least it is easier than just forgetting
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iamyummy (24941)
2009-07-02 09:42:36
@: mattyrocks100
i agree with you, she might not know you really like her in that way she might just think you liked her for sex or something.

sometimes the wrong message goes across and you cannot do anything about it.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-07-02 09:51:16
I agree with everyone who said drop it. Cut of any further contact. She doesn't feel as you do. Nor can you realistically be her friend, since that is only a pretense for you to hope for more.

You just will look like a fool, or worse, pursuing her any further.
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mattjay (19291)
2009-10-18 15:57:27
yeah... you could talk to her, have a laugh about it and get things easy between you again. You never know, perhaps she'll come round to you. In the meantime, you get to spend time with her and wank over her in the evenings without feeling completely weird.

But ultimately, if it's unlikely she'll come round, it's healthier for you to try and forget her, move on and find other people
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