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Why am I so jealous if my ex finds someone new?
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I was with my boyfriend for 4 years. We broke up twice during that time and both times i broke up with him. It's been 4 months since we broke up and I thought i had moved on until I found something out. I found out his messing around with some girl that's married. I got so furious!! I can't believe he would do that. And I can't believe what a s**t that girl is. Well my issue is why do i feel so angry?? or more like should i feel angry? Am i being selfish. Sometimes I want to tell her husband but I'm afraid my ex will get hurt or the girl (even though she's a s**t). Is this normal? I get so angry i tremble. I get anxiety and sad. What should I do?
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Budthewise
Deep down, we ALL want our exes to be worst off than we are. If the relationship ended badly we want the other person to be hurt and if they are seeing someone else, we start to wonder why we weren't good enough for that person.
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Ollieo
You could feel happy knowing now that he's a rat & you were smart enough to brake it off before and didn't have to find out about his finkyness the hard way. He's not your problem. You need to let him go - distance yourself - really separate. That you are angry says you've not quite done that. That's normal and takes time.
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It's normal it's just a letting go thing. Just give it more time for the anger to go away.

There will be a point in time when you won't care. Four years is a long time
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Budthewise
All in all, I would probably date you if I knew you but I am committed to my girlfriend. At the end of the day, he gave you up to become the third wheel of another persons relationship. Trust me, it won't end well for him.

HOWEVER, if you truly like the person, stop breaking up with him or ANYONE else over stupid shit. My girlfriend is an obsese person and her weight problem DISCUST me, however she is the most kind and sweet person I have ever known and I won't hurt her by breaking up with her just because of this or that. Not even if I find someone more beautiful and could hola-hoop around her earrings because shes so thin.

Take the good with the bad and if you broke up for LEGITIMATE reasons before, not because you misplaced your tampon that day, then be happy he is gone.
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You still have feelings for him, it is normal they will die away.

You just have to tough it our soldier

P.S. Maybe confronting the other woman and telling her that she is going to ruin her marriage and she should consider that in future. Then just leave it at that,
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you should hook up with him then. you know as a side thing. why should that slut get to do what you could? you must be just lazy.
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It's called get over him. Simple..instead of wasting your time caring abt somebody who's useless in your life. Think of the new exciting people that you'll meet next.
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Its really not crazy , after 4 years it is just in your system ''that person is mine'' it will star away indeed just takes time =D
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You obviously have feelings for him because you don't want to hurt he's feelings. You are probably not over him yet since you both went out for a long time. Plus you did break up so maybe subconsciously you feel there is a possibility of you and your boyfriend to be together again.

or just the fact of her using your ex like that makes you angry.
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I can understand not feeling good about what he's doing and being a little jealous. That's natural, especially if you were together for four years. But you should absolutely not act on it and do your best not to think about it. You probably feel this way because you thought you knew him better and now you're questioning what other kinds of fucked up things he does/did.

Nothing good can come of you obsessive over this. You need to forget about it and move on and let him do his thing, regardless of whether or not you approve.
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Move on and find a new man, Push him out of your mind , he does not love you deep down and I think you might love him more than he loves you, He might just want you for sex And that is totally wrong
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When you break off the relationship, you forfeit certain things. Among them is your ex's commitment to you. Duh. If you still have feeling for him you shouldn't have broken it off. This just sounds like more emotionally-driven garbage. Move on.
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You broke up with him. He can do whatever he wants now that you arent with him. But I understand your angry, I get the same way, but that's the truth.
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GET REVENGE!!
Hook up with one of his friends. Lol
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yeah get over yourself. you're just being a total bitch
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