Why are parents so strict on manners?

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I get parents worse than u have but I Just listen to them and what they want. Obviously in front of them but behind them i do as of normal like any one...

Do you want people to think you grew up in a barn? Listen to your parents. They are doing you a favor. And sit up straight!

Okay it's a little old-fashioned, but i'd say it impresses other peoples' parents. I know that my parents would think you are awesome if you addressed them as such.

What age are you? Was your dad in the military? Reminds me of that kid in American Beauty

my dad always made me say yes sir no sir when i was little

I'm angry with your parents.
I see that as extremely outrageous and stupid of them.
They're your parents, not your slave owners.
Saying "yes sir" all the time to your parents is ridiculous.
There should of course be a level of respect between you and your parents. And that goes both ways, forcing you to call them "sir" and "ma'am" isn't respecting you and I personally think it's awful.
I love my parents and I speak to them respectfully... but I treat them like people, not Gods.
I mean... talking to your parents like that doesn't seem very loving at all...
Do you even hug your parents?

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We're your parents in the military?

Just asking, because this is DEFINITELY not normal. Period.

Can you talk about this with another adult, perhaps someone at school, like your teacher?

my parents are the complete opposite i was never really taught manners but i was taught to be respectable
i think you need to just tell them to f*ck off and that your not a child any more

i can't imigane what thats like. im sorry, but my parents yell a lot. more at eachother. in away strict is better.

They're trying to teach you a very good habit. Perhaps they're overly strict about it, but perhaps not (you didn't give specifics).

Good manners is a good thing; and less and less common these days. (I'm not the least bit surprised that you have friends who aren't being taught the same manners.)

Stick with it. It will do you good when you're an adult. Truly.

And remember, even if you think they're being too strict, your parents are doing it because they care about you. Don't take that for granted.

There is no evidence to say that simply forcing a child to answer adults with "Sir" and "Ma'am" will help someone grow to be a better human being or cause them to be more respectful in general. I think it would have the opposite effect actually. When someone is forced to do something against their free will, they have tendency to resent the person forcing them. Rarely does anyone do the things they are forced to do when the enforcer is not present. One of the most effective ways to get someone to do something is to lead by example. If the parent themselves are not answering with "sir" and "Ma'am" to other adults, then why should the child? Kids are smarter than some give them credit for and most are not impressed with the whole, "Do as I say and not as I do" approach. There are far more important things to be teaching kids to say like: Please, Thank you, Apologies, and things of that nature that will actually help them get along with others much better throughout life. Saying "Sir" and "Ma'am" is a rather meaningless part of outdated etiquette. Teaching children that it would be a nice touch to addressing people is one thing, but requiring that they do it or else be punished...that's a little kooky

My parents never did this, but I do it anyway. It's very respectful and it has gotten me very far I've noticed. Stick with it and use it with lots of good grammar and respect, you can get almost anything. mwhahaha

my parents say that if i don't eat with my cutlery round the right way, i will never get a boyfriend.