Why can rejection physically hurt?

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and i dint thinki its heart break because i dont LOVE them i just like them alot.

dont*

Anxiety, and disappointment.

Hey dude. When we are rejected it hurts our self esteem, and makes us feel crappy (as you know). Yes those feelings are completely normal. We have all been there. As long as you know you are better than these girls, [and I'm sure there's no reason for them to reject you,] You'll be fine :)

What do others think of you? I mean are the girls you are asking in the same group you are? If you are not in the ame group they may not want to be seen with someone that is of a different standard. Is it right? I didn't say it was but as you know it happens!
For instance, and please don't take this wrong, a popular kid is not going to a dance with a nerd...period.

But look at yourself and ask, "If there is one ting I could change about myself and have the control to do it what would it be." Then do it.

actually im in the joc group =/

Jock*

it doesnt really hurt physically..it just hurts your inner ego.

well jst get ova it not everybody will like u

well, I know what you mean. Not so much that it hurts physically but emotionally it can feel like you just got ran over by a truck. It's best if you get heartbreak and dissapointment when you are young, in eighth grade like you. Unfortunately I was too shy to ask girls out in high school and now since starting college and I've had my heart broken twice. Just be grateful it's happening to you earlier in life, it will make you stronger and more able to deal with things like this down the line.

Pain is strange and can affect the body in numerous ways it's good you realize that you can move most people don't realize that and it destroys them. Try a different approach say in conversation with a girl say hey we should go to the dance together it would be fun! And some how convey as friends it takes the edge off and they think your trying to get in their pants though you probably are.haha but seriously. When you fantisize and drool over women you seem more confident and relaxed and that attracts women. Or F#@ck it and find a girl as a friend and have fun and dance. I know at your age i was worried about getting some. and you'll get plenty when older if your confident and relaxed. try new approaches be funny and fun. but don't put them or others down it makes you look insecure. I didn't believe it either at your age. also try looking a little nicer if need be decent clothes hair etc. not expensive just clean and sharp or fashonable. And secure in yourself because your great.

@poster,

totally normal and physical pain takes place only inside your head, just like heartache.

Your electrons dont have a long way to go from the heartache brain areas to the areas that interpret physical pain.

a physchosomatic reaction is the answer.

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Hey bro, it is perfectly normal. And another thing, is, is that not only are you embarrassed (because you really like them), but you also got completely faced. And you shouldent go to a dance or date until you are about 16 anyways.

Aww, =((
Its anxietyy. im sorryy hun.
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