Why do I hate being touched by my mum?

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Hard to say - but if you are OK with that, and its just a matter of not wanting to upset your Mom, then gently let her know that that is just how you feel & is not a reflection of how you feel towards her. Find expressions of love that you can accept. And be happy that you are loved.

I don't think its abnormal! People react differently to physical contact i suppose, maybe you should sit down and tell your mom how you feel. There are lots of other ways to show love!

How old are you? Are you a teen going through that phase whereby you're always feeling like, "Get away mum, get away"?

Not at all. I am 27.
I believe I found out what it is all about. I want to reject her affection. I am mad at her for not protecting me when I was a kid. She was always very depressed, as she wasn't happy with my dad. I was harassed, I was abused, I was molested. I couldn't tell her, I didn't want to make life harder for her.
Now when she gives me a hug, I find it phony, I want to tell her what motherhood is about, but I don't and I won't, because she is again in a depression. She is not happy with her second husband either. What a surprise.
Thanks everyone for your comments!

I was molested and I pull away from people sometimes, freak out when they move to touch me. I guess you feel it's different in your case, but I've heard of lots of abused people doing this even with closest family. It's like, emotionally you mistrust peoples motives even when you know they very likely don't want to harm you or whatever. Maybe because the abuser usually was a trusted person... I don't know, but's it's normal.