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Why do i hate myself?
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I cant stand myself. I think there is something utterly wrong with me, My brain, my face, and my body. Ive been told im "pretty" but to ME im the ugliest creature ever seen. Ive been told im nice but there are some things ive done that have left me permanantly disgusted with myself. When i complain about myself all anyone has to say is nice. I dont want to call anyone a liar cuz thats mean but i have a hard time believing them.
Do you think it's normal?
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LittleLady17 (20548)
2009-02-25 22:34:55
I have to say that I'm the exact same way! Everyone says I'm pretty, and I'm nice and blah blah blah blah blah! I feel as if I know me better than any other person in this world, and maybe it's the inside that you and I both hate, but people see us a lot differently on the outside.
I unno.
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RockWebcast (20621)
2009-02-28 09:32:11
People think you're nice and pretty. You're obviously doing something right. Think about that instead of all this "I'm ugly" crap.
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TheSociopath102 (19798)
2009-02-28 10:15:00
i use to have that to , but im working on it . the trick thats ben working for me so far is making myself into the way i think i should be ( im a guy so pretty isnt really my thing , but i like being emo and preppy at the same time ) just have fun with the way you look , it goes a long way .

as for being disgusted with yourself , i havnt realy solved mine yet so idk lol . but so far ive ben prooving to myself that most were not my fault and that anyway the past was dead and gone as long as the people who suffered from me forgive .
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Solimorphic (20553)
2009-02-28 20:45:18
You choose to see bad in you then you CHOOSE to not like yourself. To continue self dislike, one needs to discount any positive compliment you get from others. In psychobabble that is called "Disqualifying the Positive".

I see people do this, and it is frustrating to the one giving the complement. When I am in a down mood, i still do it. It is a Cognitive Behavior issue I learned to control in myself later in life.

Get someone to talk to, or you can be just a little miserable for the next 10, 20 years or longer. I was too proud (arrogant) in my early years to go to a shrink to get a little "fine tuning". I had the chance back in college.
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kittiekrimson (20558)
2009-03-02 13:31:09
@: TheSociopath102
thanx it really helps
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crushedrose (20822)
2009-03-07 20:36:35
Low self-esteem? I mean sometimes we have a hard time blieving others because the things they say sound so fake and repetitive. I guess if u've been called "pretty" by many then you obviously are. I bet right now the words i am typing to you don't even sound real. Think about it, why would a random stranger care about your business? Well that's just it. This type of thinking is negative. I once told myself that if i think only of the bad things, then i can improve. That's not true. You must learn to think positively. Try to reason with yourself as to why they are to be believed.
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rita_skeeter (20457)
2009-03-08 06:01:41
@: kittiekrimson
jus be happy
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geckopaws (20496)
2009-03-19 22:19:58
Well first of all your engaged to someone that is not dedicated to you and doesn't see you every five months so therefore I don't doubt that you cheated on him. What is this an online engagement? First of all I think you should just be happy break up with the dude that doesn't see you and go for the crushes. This is very normal. I was engaged and cheated on my fiance who I saw almost everyday so that is got to tell you something that its normal to cheat or stare at other guys.
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AmishPanda (21867)
2009-04-11 23:25:03
Welcome to humanity.
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jazzy88 (22112)
2009-05-14 18:20:42
i feel ugly sometimes alot of people feel that way at times.
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mistyluvr (23116)
2009-05-17 14:04:03
Perhaps you have experienced a lot of rejection or abandonment in your life, so you are turning the responsibility of that pain on your self as though you are the one who has caused it. That is depression. Forgiveness is the only cure for that. Even forgiving yourself. I am dealing with that stuff too right now. My self esteem is way low, but I understand why now. Now I am on the long road to learning to forgive. It is the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but I believe I will be free from the self-hatred one day. I hope that for you too.
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combatgal856 (13140)
2009-05-24 11:21:04
I know what you mean...You need to do something to build your confidence and self esteem
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meganbyte (25066)
2009-07-04 21:02:08
I've read that the part of the brain that processes "other people" is completely separate from the part that processes "yourself". When you see your own face in the mirror, you're literally using a completely different criteria for judgment than you do for other people. Are own brains are hardwired to be unfair!

It's totally normal to have negative feelings about yourself from time to time, everyone has it (and if they don't, then they're usually total jerks). But if it's persistent and really bothers you, then a therapist may help you work through it. I've battled it my whole life and I actually had to actively work and learn to trust the judgments of my family and friends more.
and it took some work to get over it. You have
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oneday142 (25698)
2009-07-17 19:13:01
@: meganbyte
I am the exact same way. I dont know why though, and i dont know what to do about it. I just hate everything about myself. and i also hate the way so many people act around, and towards me. I hope it is normal, but for me it doesnt feel normal.
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theguyfromthenetherlands (28042)
2009-09-03 14:22:23
If you hate yourself you look at a bad way to your self, if you accept yourself you don't worry about it anymore.

Just accept yourself and say in yourself 'i am like i am and if somebody don't like it it's their problem'

Really try to accept yourself and if you do you also will feel much better and not in the world of negativity!

Think negative ruins your life, let me gues you actually are so negative about yourself that you would end your life painless if you get the chance =)
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starforce (28604)
2009-09-17 06:56:53
you need to accept yourself for who you are, the bad things and the good things. Everyone is unique and different, and all have bad points, no one is perfect.
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maya617 (30062)
2009-10-21 07:52:42
try weighing 290 pounds. then you'll really have a reason to hate yourself.
people truelly don't realize how good they've got it.
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