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Why is she doing this to me?
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There's this girl I work with whom I've been absolutely infatuated with for several months now. So much in fact that at one time I thought I was in love but that phase has passed. Anyway a few weeks ago we went out on a couple of dates and I had a great time...I mean how many guys can actually say they went out with the girl of their dreams. After those two dates though she told me she didn't see our relationship going anywhere past being friends so we never went out again. I'm trying my best to accept this and move on although it's tough and I still am infatuated with her but she is making it difficult for me. Last week she was dropping hints at work about me being dissapointed in her for not going out with me again so I sent her an email telling her "I'm not dissapointed in you but in the fact that we never gave being in a relationship a try because you're a beautful girl with a great personality and I really like you." Again, she told me she just wanted to be friends. But here's where she's making it hard. She's still flirting with me at work! A friend of mine there noticed this too. She has this pouty face she makes and knows I melt over it and made it twice at work today when she wanted me to do something for her. Also today she was standing beside me and leaned over real close so her boob was pressing firmly against my arm and has done other stuff recently and I think she is just trying to torture me. The only other possibility I can think of is that she is still interested in me but that doesn't seem plausable because she has a new boyfriend. What should I do? She is making it hard as hell to get over her. It just seems cruel. Should I tell her how it makes me feel or what?
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Comments (29)
roger49 (3711)
2007-01-13 03:24:32
Sounds like trouble to me. Find yourself a nice girl who doesn't send conflicting messages. At this point, she's just playing with you; you don't need that.
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cabinet70 (4440)
2007-01-13 07:47:36
She knows you are hot for her and is using you you forget about this mindfuck bitch now
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Strifes_Girl (5247)
2007-01-13 08:28:49
just slap her =) easy as that!
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sisophous (3738)
2007-01-13 12:13:28
I detest girls like this. She is using her power to control your reactions. The girl gets a thrill out of teasing you and is manipulative. Keep away from her and do not contact her. This is a power play by the girl which inflates her pathetic ego. Find a girl who does not play you, plenty of good ones out there. You need to drop this one at work, entirely. I've been down the same road and learned from it. Take my advice.
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smithee (4389)
2007-01-13 13:37:40
this story is too long..
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sweetgyal03 (5295)
2007-01-14 17:52:16
@: smithee
^
| LOL (drop her)
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Shavemeslowly (5177)
2007-01-16 00:14:24
She probably likes the feeling of being in control. Its bitchy but common.
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Twiztidk (5325)
2007-01-16 10:02:30
You need to smack that bitch right accross the lips.
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outdoorandyrocks (4640)
2007-01-17 18:06:31
i agree w/ sisophous, but if u think she really likes u, slap her ass
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gangbang420 (5524)
2007-01-28 18:46:54
meh it too long... i'm too lazy just like smith said
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Shaka_Zulu (3938)
2007-01-28 19:12:47
drop her like she's hooooot.
drop her like she's hooooot.
drop her like she's hooooot.
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bouncexmysoul (3948)
2007-03-05 20:54:47
write her random love notes and express yourself. chicks dig that =)
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Wordyo (6863)
2007-03-30 21:02:55
Rape her. *thumbs up*
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little_white_angel (6940)
2007-04-03 15:45:10
bring in another girl. hot. and pretend shes your new love. see if she feels anything?
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Tigor (8392)
2007-05-17 02:59:20
All i can tell you is...


Sit outside of her house, wait till she leaves go inside her house, find her remote ( Hope she has like tivo or some shit ) Den u gotta turn it to porn, and pause it! Then, u go into her room find some pantys, sniff em, hide in her closet and jack off till she comes back wait for her to get in her room, stick those pantys over ur head and rape her. Thats the only way you can have her!
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Obadiah (7833)
2007-05-17 08:03:41
Sisyphous is correct. My stepdaughter does the same thing to me and much more. It drives me nuts. It drives my nuts nuts. It is indeed manipulation of the most dangerous kind. But I still love it. Trouble is I want more and can't have it.
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feelssogood (8676)
2007-06-05 15:59:24
what is her name? is it rayla?
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Phantasma (8744)
2007-06-10 21:27:52
she wants you to do shit for her, pretty soon shes gonna ask you for something and you're gonna do it, and you're gonna realize that you got suckered
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Neuroticism (9109)
2007-07-02 06:36:14
Disgusting, women like that give other women bad stereotypes and generalization and yeah, she's probably using you and that can lead or is emotional abuse, I'd drop her like a pin and say you want to stay professional and that you're not interested in her anymore and ignore her, then find a new gal.

Etc.

Good Luck! ^_^
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give4freedom (9684)
2007-08-03 19:08:05
woman will do anything for attention exspecialy young ones. fuck that girls like that have things you dont want or need trust me. your not the only one she does this to. most woman who act like that act like that with every one. so think How many guys has she fucked? how many guys do you want to think of when your fucking her?
then think DO you realy wanna keep trying to get with her. most people never find the one of their dreams, cuz its a dream. another woman can make you happy i promiss.
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strody (11707)
2007-11-17 17:27:10
Stick your balls in her mouth
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truDyme (13001)
2008-01-21 07:56:08
Yeah she's playing with you. Get over her because do you really want someone who is always playing with your heart? you said yourself -- its TORTURE!
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Jessicaaa (15666)
2008-08-10 15:26:03
My advice: be an asshole to her. That sounds like exactly the kind of stupid chick who digs assholes, so if you want her to actually become interested in you, do that. Otherwise, ignore her completely.

Pretend she's actually a dude in really convincing drag or something.
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TheJudge (15259)
2008-08-16 16:49:18
It has only been a few months. Don't be in such a hurry. You have made it clear that you want to see her again. If she wants to flirt, flirt back. If she decides that she wants to go out with you again, she will make it clear. She may ask you out herself. Meanwhile, keep looking for someone else.

Do not try too hard with her, but be able to recognize an opportunity, and know how to exploit it.
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Pretentiouscandy (17187)
2008-10-25 21:15:43
she's doing it to get what she wants! that simple. cut her out of your life.
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somerandomguy122 (17455)
2008-11-05 12:50:56
@: roger49
I agree, she obviously loves to mess with you and it is in fact a form of bullying, sorry to put it so bluntly but that's the truth and I will not lie to you...
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yahooserious (17624)
2008-11-11 23:34:05
My friend, your story compelled me to join this website in the hope of helping you. I was like you for most of my adolescence and young adulthood, and broke out. But I will tell you what you need to know right now: women know if they are physically attracted to you within 3 seconds of meeting you. Do NOT ASK WOMEN YOU KNOW FOR ADVICE ON THIS!!! You sound like a guy that has a lot of lady "friends", like me. The best thing you can do right now is to show her you have a backbone. This is why assholes and jerks always end up with hot chicks...because they don't give a shit about what the women think about them. Seriously...if you are gonna kiss a womans ass to get with her, how strong of a man can you be. Women are not attracted to kiss-asses. They are attracted to internally (and yes, externally) strong men. Make no mistake...your "friend" loves the attention you are giving to her, but you'll never have her desire you until she sees who you really are without trying to get into her pants...and the truth is it might not be a match. So to hell with her. I think even if you took this advice, things with this woman are already ruined, but if you do take this advice, the next one that comes along might be a little more receptive.
...and read "No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert A. Glover. It will change your life.
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secretme (18490)
2008-12-13 12:57:53
You're in big trouble because you're letting your feelings get the best of you. i think it's normal & pathetic. no offense. haha. With the flirting & all that, if i were you, i would've reversed the situation. I would've made the person fall inlove with me. ;) If you have the guts. ;)
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-02-13 05:47:48
She doesn't want you or care about your feelings. But she enjoys tormenting you cause really have her on a pedestal.

Get real.
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