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Why wont my boyfriend pay for anything?
Can any guys out there please explain to me why my BF is so damn cheap? He wont pay to take me out to dinner or a movie. He always buys me great anniversary and birthday presents but i practically have to beg him to buy a pack of cigarettes. (we both smoke) He wont even throw down money to buy a case of beer or something. Its getting ridiculous! Please help!
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so why dont you ditch that bitch
and lemme treat you
btw does he have a job?
no job, no money, end of story
That's because I have a job and she is student. And because.. I am crazy about her.
Ya see, my boyfriend doesn't make as much money as I do. While he does have a desire to do nice things for me and wants to take me out to dinner, he really can't afford it. I can't be selfish enough to expect him to take care of all our couple's expenses when I know he's also trying to pay his own rent.
Just remember, the man who gives you everything he can spare, even if it is only a few cents, is giving much more than the man who buys you nice things and still has money to spend on himself. I hope you catch my drift.
i get lots of hot girls ive never spent alot of money on them
You want an honest opinion?
A partner is equal. You are not a prostitute and it is not 1950. If women want to be equal, then you need to act that way.
Alternatively, he may not be that into you and doesn't want to waste his money on your cigarettes.
you stop being cheap!!!
maybe he doesnt like buying you shit like that?
does he not like you smoking maybe thats why ><
If thats not the case, maybe your bf wasn't raised the way you were to see how your dad treated your mom. Lot of people, their parents were separated so they don't have role models, or they have bad ones.
For me, I am always happy to pay for stuff, and I'll do so as long as I feel like it's appreciated... There are a few things that I won't buy for a girl such as pharmacy things and medical/spa services.
When it comes down to it, some people are just not generous with others, and they don't give to charity, don't tip the bellman, don't tip the bartenders, and if thats the case, you have to figure out if that will work.
tbh if he forces you to pay for everything, i'd say hes using you.
sort him out!! good luck with him!
When I first read your post, I was "what makes you entitled to demand he buys your smokes?". Your later posts changed that to "what kind of wuzz is he mooching of his GF?".
Short answer is he acts cheap - but since he is out of work he may have no choice. I would say that if each of you contribute to shared fun based on your income, it's good - if not one of you is using the other.
heres an example.
my ex used to pay for absolutely everything for me - even when i objected to it..after we broke up we stayed friends and i was around to meet and hang out with his new girlfriends that came and went... he never paid for a thing with these girls and made them pay for everything. food,drinks,fuel, u name it. when three of us would go out he would always offer to pay for me and not his girl so id offer to pay for HER. it was really messed up and disrespectful and i stopped being friends with him.
it all depends on how much a guy likes a girl i think, at the least he should offer to pay half. dont let him use you.
Dump his sorry a** and tell the gigilo to find some other insecure chump to keep him!
dont tell him nothing he will get ungry
he will get it
hey i can buy you evrything im rich lol
And I don't think you're white trash. Everyone is too judgmental! Nothing wrong with beer and cigarettes.
Basically, what you need to do is have a serious conversation with him. Let him know how you're feeling and how much his behavior is upsetting you. And it can start small, too. If you are at the grocery store getting something ask, "Honey, could you cover this..."
Or what I always like to do...(my sneak attack) is IF you have been paying for everything for awhile and you go out to get something. Coffee, sandwiches, DVDs, whatever. Go into your purse and sadly reach for your wallet. You need to look straight up DEPRESSED. Then do an "Oh geez...." or something, shaking your head is always a plus.
Make sure you stall as long as possible and be extremely ambiguous, that way he doesn't know what you are looking for. You could be getting Chapstick for all he knows. After an awkward silence he SHOULD have the little light bulb go off in his head saying, "Wow. She really has been paying for a lot. Maybe I should cover it for once." Then he will say, "It's okay, honey. I've got it."
Then, you act shocked. Like he was "in a wheelchair and started walking" kind of shocked. Mind you, this tactic may not work on the first try, but trial and error is a magical thing, and after awhile he should get the idea.
...And if you've talked to him about the situation, you've used the "sneak attack" for a considerable amount of time and he STILL does nothing...Then, you might want to think about moving on.
More doesn't mean all, though, if he has any money at all he should be paying for things at least occasionally. Just stop treating him and start refusing to share your cigarettes and beer with him if he hasn't treated you recently.
YOU ARE ONLY BRINGING YOURSELF DOWN BY BEING WITH HIM!!!