Why wont my boyfriend pay for anything?

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He does sound like a cheap bastard, but I think it should be a 50/50 deal when it comes to the day to day expenses that you incur. Try cutting him off for a few weeks and when he asks you "why" just tell him hes to cheap, and you are losing interest.

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Just tell him... $500 a month or im gone.

your probably not hot enough, i know if i had a hot girlfriend i would spend all my money on her

Ha ok thats real nice. I am definitely not ugly. Im thin, and very fit my face is not covered in zits or anything like that and i dont have some nasty butch haircut. I have long hair. And, yes i have tits too. That is a little insulting.

Maybe you are just a lot nicer than he is?

If you are "hot" most guys will most likely pay for everything. The problem I have with it is that it is expected for some reason. Hell nowadays everything costs so damn much I just don't think the man should be strapped with all the costs.

Hey gizzie, my man always pays for me :) hehe

you smoke so that makes you ugly

i might be a boy but i spend all i can on my gf tell him if ur still cheap before 1 week were done

Well that is your opinion and he smokes too so i really dont think thats a problem for him. Besides smoking has nothing to do with my personality or how i act as a person.

Yeah i definitely dont want him breaking his wallet over me, i just was raised seeing my dad pay for everything for my mom. I dont think him taking me out to dinner once a month is that much to ask, but he seems to think differently.

its simply that your a ugh-o

If he wont pay now what future do yous have. So many young girls put up with this today yous should wake up to yourselves and ditch these losers. I bet he gets plenty of sex off you

He is clearly using you for cash. If I was you I would clearly set the rules of the relationship or leave him.

Yeah i wish it was that easy, just leaving him but we have been together fifteen months now...

You are only young I presume 13 months is nothing

yeah im twenty one

hes probly spending his money on other women
so why dont you ditch that bitch
and lemme treat you

lol i would LOVE to be treated for once!

Are you his gf or prostitute? If your his gf then it should be 50/50. If your a prostitute, what are you doing reading this, get out and get paid.

well hay i would do any thing for my girl but thas just it just talk to him i mean its a thing for guys to love there money it is like what we was put on this earth to do but never over a girl

SHUT THE HELL UP YOU TALK SO MUCH S H I T i look at every fucking story here and your fucking stupid comment is on evey fucking page dumd ass no one needs your damn fucking advise cock head

DUMP HIM, OR QUIT COMPLAINING!!

..Or maybe he's just a piece of shit!

Jesus christ....Im not complaining. Thats my story. I told it. You dont like it, dont comment, move on to the next one.

drop smoking and drinking morons, then you can actually AFFORD going on a decent date once and a while.

btw does he have a job?

no job, no money, end of story

What a bum, using you to pay for everything??? Get a new boyfriend that isn't so cheap.

smoking kills.

So you expect him to pay for your cigarettes? Come on! Pay for your own shit. Treating you to dinner occassionally and buying you presents sometimes is expected, beyond that is just old fashioned. Unless you're a house wife you can't expect him to pay for you all the time. You earn your own money.

As long as the sex is good, stop worrying about the money! Pay for your own damned smokes!

Um I would say...He doesn't buy into the bullshit of supporting the woman. and is probably a cheap bastard too. Who cant throw down on a case? But, the not getting cigarettes thing i did that to my ex too. I dont know why. I think it was a subconcious game to see who would win.

Ok...to everyone who has told me to buy my own smokes... I buy ALL the cigarettes!!!! I buy my own and he "bums" them from me. I am not complaining about having to buy my own stuff. I am complaining that he is sponging off of everything I DO buy! Im not asking for him to drop cigarettes in my lap! Im saying if he is gonna smoke mine, and he smokes much more than i do, then he can pitch in and buy some too!!!!

He's using you - ditch him

ive got a head ache, thought id be random to start my comment, anyway, where was i, ermmmm, does he know you want him to pay for some things ? but if he can even buy you a pack of ciggys he sounds like a prick, it shouldnt matter wether your pretty or not, if a guys with you, he shold at least be a gent and buy you something every now and again, even if its a can of coke.

Baby, He's a Pimp! he is getting you to pay for everything cause he thinks he's the shit. and what's wrong with that? women have been pimping men for eternity.

He is cheap. My girlfriend know how to use me, and I take her to dinner all the time and it's me who pays.
That's because I have a job and she is student. And because.. I am crazy about her.

I have a boyfriend that does the same thing. You have to take into consideration his perspective of expenses.

Ya see, my boyfriend doesn't make as much money as I do. While he does have a desire to do nice things for me and wants to take me out to dinner, he really can't afford it. I can't be selfish enough to expect him to take care of all our couple's expenses when I know he's also trying to pay his own rent.

Just remember, the man who gives you everything he can spare, even if it is only a few cents, is giving much more than the man who buys you nice things and still has money to spend on himself. I hope you catch my drift.

hmm sounds like my ex, his name isnt mitch is it? lol hes a waste of time it took me 2 years to figure that out with my ex.. id have to scrounge up my coins to get us a pack of smokes and id have to get him food when he was hungry.. he didnt have a vehicle so i had to take him everywhere and get the food... ya it got worse and worse then i met trevor and i never thought a guy like him existed he buys me stuff without question cuz he wants to see me smile and ya ull find that guy just dump that bum! :P

MY BOYFRIEND USED TO BE LIKE THAT BUT YOU HAVE TO LAY IT ON THE LINE..AND MAKE HIM JEALOUS AND THEN HE'S ALL OVER YOU AND BUYING YOU EVERYTHING YOUR HEART DESIRES

Blame the recession.

haha no wrong approach

i get lots of hot girls ive never spent alot of money on them

Why? Because he is a real immature guy who feels over-entitled, needs to be needy, and is used to using. He practically puts you in the position of being his mother. Tell the baby to grow up real fast or you'll walk. If you think that will change him. Probably it won't. So just go find yourself a man who is all grown up and is your equal.

be independent youll fell good and he will too

Make him start paying for a little tail and he'll change his tone.Tell him you put out when he does.

lol everyone's comments are hilarious.

You want an honest opinion?
A partner is equal. You are not a prostitute and it is not 1950. If women want to be equal, then you need to act that way.
Alternatively, he may not be that into you and doesn't want to waste his money on your cigarettes.

You've been with him 15 months. Okay. Well, you're obviously not very happy and he has Cheap Bastard Syndrome. He probably won't get any better (people are who they are). How much *more* time are you going to waste on him. Isn't it better to call it quits at 15 months than at 10 years? I would think about moving on.

why dont you buy the cigarettes lol

you stop being cheap!!!

maybe he doesnt like buying you shit like that?

does he not like you smoking maybe thats why >

dump his ass

why wont he pay to take you out? because its the 21st century and women can get good jobs. theres nothing romantic or chivalrous about getting money off someone. grow up and be independent

Hook up with me, I'll take care of you

ciggs? beer?....sounds like white trash to me...keep beg'n for ciggs hun.

I don't beg for cigarettes, thanks, i buy my own. However, that is not the point. He ALSO smokes cigarettes--my cigarettes. And does not buy any in return. I was more getting at the fact he can be a real mooch. As for the beer--dont you ever get together with a group of friends and hang out, drink, play some cards? Or have a bonfire and drink? Most people like to relax on the weekends after a long week at work. Or are you just an unemployed asshole with no friends and no social life to speak of? Not to mention--i have a profile pic--do i really shout "white trash" to you?

God i am really sick of these comments. I posted this story ages ago. Guess what?? I have two jobs. He doesnt even have one! Wouldnt the 21st century imply a bit of equality?? Taking turns to pay for things? Or am i just supposed to pick up all the bills and be his little sugar mama? Im not asking to be showered in jewelry and dinners. I would like to treated once in a blue moon considering i treat him every week!

LOL! Thanks for someone finally understanding where im coming from with this and not calling me greedy or white trash!! And thanks for the advice!

Could it be the power dynamic you have established in your relationship? Are you the one calling the shots or is he? Traditionally the one who "asks out" the other one pays for the date. So you should hold back a little and let him ask you out.

If thats not the case, maybe your bf wasn't raised the way you were to see how your dad treated your mom. Lot of people, their parents were separated so they don't have role models, or they have bad ones.

For me, I am always happy to pay for stuff, and I'll do so as long as I feel like it's appreciated... There are a few things that I won't buy for a girl such as pharmacy things and medical/spa services.

When it comes down to it, some people are just not generous with others, and they don't give to charity, don't tip the bellman, don't tip the bartenders, and if thats the case, you have to figure out if that will work.

maybe hes skint?
tbh if he forces you to pay for everything, i'd say hes using you.

tell him to stop being such a cheap bastard and bitch slap him into place, get out that whip!!
sort him out!! good luck with him!

I think your first post might have mislead some of us as to what is hapening.

When I first read your post, I was "what makes you entitled to demand he buys your smokes?". Your later posts changed that to "what kind of wuzz is he mooching of his GF?".

Short answer is he acts cheap - but since he is out of work he may have no choice. I would say that if each of you contribute to shared fun based on your income, it's good - if not one of you is using the other.

dump him ;)

you should prob start thinking about finding another guy.

heres an example.

my ex used to pay for absolutely everything for me - even when i objected to it..after we broke up we stayed friends and i was around to meet and hang out with his new girlfriends that came and went... he never paid for a thing with these girls and made them pay for everything. food,drinks,fuel, u name it. when three of us would go out he would always offer to pay for me and not his girl so id offer to pay for HER. it was really messed up and disrespectful and i stopped being friends with him.

it all depends on how much a guy likes a girl i think, at the least he should offer to pay half. dont let him use you.

Honey, it doesn't take a "guy" to answer your question. The reason he won't pay for anything is because he knows you will pay. The question you should be asking is: "Why do I pay for everything?"

Dump his sorry a** and tell the gigilo to find some other insecure chump to keep him!