I really need to know if anyone else feels this way, or am I just losing my mind? I have been asking my wife to be with someone else while I watch, it really turns me on, and I am not sure if this normal or do I need help? she did it once about 15yrs ago for me I watched from the closet. We were in our 20's then. we used to go out to bars and I would dress her up real sexy and sit across the bar and watch guys hit on her. it was exhilerating. she still gets dressed up and goes out, but now its alone while I stay home with our son, I tell her everytime to find someone to bring home, but she just comes home and tells me about the guys. she did bring her security guard home from work last yr, but nothing happened because he got sick, and left. Is there something wrong with this, I am just trying to spice up our sex lives, please tell me if this is something everyone thinks about or I am nuts?? I dont think its "normal" but is there something wrong with it?
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It really is an incredible turn on and we both like the fantasy. I also like having her tell me stories of her times when she actually "was" with other men.
I think it's normal, I just think most guys would never admit it.
'Is it normal?' .. who cares.. 'Is it fun for all involved' is more the question. My wife has since found things a little lacking with these other guys and is seeking someone that is someone that she can be more 'friends' with and have sex with, than some guy that just fucks her and then doesn't bother chatting until he wants sex again. Quite a lot of guys either want a girlfriend or they just don't like the fact she's married and can't/won't get to being actual 'friends w/sex benefits'.
One thing to point out is that I did not force my wife into doing this.. I suggested it and let her know I was open to her seeing what she wanted, and let her take it from there. I'm not my wife's 'keeper' and I let her know that.
Afterwards my wife and I make love to each. We are happily married and feel fulfilled sexually with this lifestyle.
This was pre-aids, so it's been a while, but I'd love to see it happen again. Normal? Not sure about that, but it sure is fun!
I am the opposite very plain but very outgoing...this is not a problem, just stating a fact!
I have a couple of rules to let us go through with this, namely.....there must be absolutely no kissing (can't explain why....but I really have a problem with that),total safe sex with condom on throughout. This is not only to be safe but also to exclude intimacy ( again this I can't explain, but I envisage my wife having sex with another guy as physical but not intimate) and after the sexual act is finished
l want him to leave us more or less immediately, or within 5 mins max as I see this as a special event for myself and my wife.....but not the 3rd person. Does this make sense ??? Help!!
I've been married to a very pretty woman for about 8 years now. I never let her know that I had a fantasy about seeing/watching her with another man (well hung) giving her pleasure. I told her about it a few months back and have been telling her what I want while we have sex it really turns me on and makes me so excited that I can hardly stand it. If I think about it when she is not around I get so turned on that I can't wait for her to get back to me. Also I like to see her wear clothing that will show her nipples thru as she has really big nipples. She tells me during sex that she will do this for me and it seems to really make her wet. looking for some advise does she really want this as much as me or is she just getting me off. I love her so much I don't want to hurt or releationship but I really want to see her ride a well hung man while I watch am I loosing my mind.
I grew tired of it, and haven't done it in years. If it bothers you and you think it's not normal...then simply stop.
Lots of us do it, for various reasons, In my case it was discovering (in detail) that my wife had spent a night with a perfect stranger when she found herself staying alone in a hotel for one night. I didn't tell her I knew about her night of adventurous sex.
Ever since then I have fantasized about watching her have sex with another man again. Eventually I did tell her, (the idea was driving me crazy), and that led to us first role playing the idea, then finaly making the real thing happen... Everything GFUTERNICK says about the experience of watching his wife was true for me too... an incredibly rewarding experience... not least because she did things with him she won't do with me!! That was an experience!
If you decide that it is something you guys really want to explore then you need rules.
It will make you talk about everything. Every sexual act is YEAH BABY when you are in the mood but when you are talking over lunch you need to think about the following:
Will you be jealous if she does things with him that she normally doesn't do for you?
Will seeing her kiss or flirt bother you? Kissing was difficult for me watch... go figure.
You will need your NO signals and set the rule that if either one of you says NO it is NO. Its never too late to say NO. Even if the partner is traveling to see you. Its a risk that they are taking.
Pay for the room if you are meeting in a hotel. You guys check in first and get settled. You need to pay for the room so there is no feeling of obligation. He can buy dinner or drinks but the partner should NOT pay for the room.
These are just some guidlines for you to consider. Things we learned from our experiences.
I don't think either of us would feel comfortable with anybody we know or in our neighbourhood, but maybe on holiday in a different place I was thinking of hiring a male stud to sort the wife out?
Please advise your thoughts.
1. Go to wifelovers.com and place an ad for the type of guy you want. It's free.
2. Meet the guy. Be sure he's willing to give you some traceable info, like his home phone number or whatever to be sure you are as safe as possible. Look at his ID. Then discuss the scenario and details.
3. Take your wife to a hotel bar and let her get loosened up a bit with a drink.
4. Have the guy send over a drink for your wife from a "secret admirer".
5. Have the guy come over, introduce himself and explain how beautiful he thinks your wife is. Then he says, "Mind if I join you?"
6. The guy sits by your wife. After a bit, he starts to fool around a little with your wife (hand on her leg, etc) and it escalates till he says, "How'd y'all like to come up to my room and have a drink up there before you go?" He should have your wife's favorite drink up there, chilled and ready to go. (Alternative: if you don't want to spend money on a hotel room before you are sure you are going to need it, the guy or hubby can go arrange it on a "trip to the restroom". Being in a hotel bar facilitates that. Have a small bag and a cooler ready to go (behind the hotel front desk) with the beverages ready to go)
7. Once in the room and everyone has enjoyed a drink, Husband says, "You know what I've always wanted to see?" When they say, "What?", Hubby says, "I know this is going to sound weird, but I've always wanted to see a guy come up from behind my wife and squeeze her tits."
8. The guy does it, then kisses her neck. Then one thing leads to another.
Not so hard, hunh?
Some details that the guy can throw in that will help the wife go along are:
1. The guy mentions that he hasn't been with a woman in over a year. (gets the wife's pity)
2. The guy mentions that his wife died about a year ago and he hasn't been with anyone since. (more pity)
3. The guy says that he is an amateur masseur and suggest a free massage. (a massage gets a woman in the mood more than any thing else)
4. The guy mentions that he travels the world over and that he might be able to help them go on a trip (women love adventure and travel)
Hope it works out!
Mickey
In June 25, 2009 a Gallup Poll indicated that 92%% of Americans think adultery is morally wrong. My guess is that fewer than 5%% practice wife watching.
I've half mentioned it but she seemed like she wouldn't have anything to do with it so I didn't push it too hard.
I think these fantasies all started when I found out she sent some nude pictures to someone. I'm kind of old fashioned and it really hurt me and pissed me off. But then I started thinking about the guy that just got those pictures... He was looking at my wife, the one I get to wake up to every morning, and rub his cock and fantasize about whatever he wanted to do to her or have do to him.
I had confronted her in anger...it happened a few other times as well over the years. Felt the same each time. Like I get hit with a ton of bricks...but also end up jacking off haha
Now I really like to have guys cum on a picture I send them and have them email it back to me. Or I do some photoshop and try and add another guy to pictures of my wife etc....
I noticed one day when I was looking for something outside our house at night that she couldn't see me standing right outside the bedroom window when the light was on inside, so I suggested that she go out to the disco alone a see if she couldn't pick up a guy to bring home and fuck for her and my delectation. She went out for some hours while I waited in anticipation. About 11:00PM she came home with a handsome young black man, and I played like I was her "room mate" while she took him in the bedroom.
By the time I got outside and peeped in the window, he had her down to her panties,. He was pretty hung and I had an excellent view of his big cock fucking into her. In his lust he just pulled the crotch of her panties to the side and stuck it in her. I was two feet away from them, but they couldn't see me. I stood there jerking off for hours as they went at it six kinds of ways from Sunday. He finger-fucked her a lot as he checked out her blond, short-lipped pussy, and they fucked a few times more. After he left in the early morning hours, I crawled into bed with her and got my sloppy seconds, or thirds, or fourths. She really enjoyed the idea that I was standing right there next to them checking out every detail of their fucking.
We did it one more time later on, and she brought home a really big guy, moderately hung, who didn't wait a minute to get her out of her clothes and fuck her. More finger fucking and stuff ensued until early in the morning when she got on her knees and he stuck his cock into her asshole, pumping into it until he blew a load of cum up her ass. Once again, after he left, I got to get my seconds.
Neither of these guys had a clue that I was just outside the window checking it all out ... the way the bed was positioned, I could see every wet fold and wrinkle of her pussy and watch their dicks dive into her and check out how her cunt clung to them as they pulled out their dicks for another stoke. She really got off on the idea that I was right there checking it all out.
She was a red hot number and was six feet tall (I'm only 5'6") so she has a six-foot wingspread on her. Really impressive when you saw her legs opened up lying before you!