Ok, so i am 20 years old and me and my boyfriend have been together since i was 15. we are really serious. I love my boyfriend to death. about a year ago i started to feel like i was missing out. We have been together for so long that i really have nothing to compare our relationship too. we broke up for about two weeks. Within those two weeks i started seeing someone else. He was not who i thought he was and i got back together with my boyfriend. He had serious trust issues after that but we made it work. I just had no social life and he acted pretty much like he was my dad "what time will you be home who are you with what are you doing" that stuff. But i just dealt with it. we have been doing really good lately and we even just bought a house together about a month ago. my problem now is that i am feeling the same way i was before. I just want to be single. I want to do whatever i want and i don't want to have to ask permisstion to do something. I can see myself spending the rest of my life with him. I just don't want the rest of my life to start right now. I wish i would have met him 10 years from now. My fear is that i will end up cheating on him in the future because i want to know what else is out there. We have so much invested into this relationship though and i just don't know what to do.
I have been married for 8 years (I got married when I was 19) but I have never felt like I was missing out because I have my freedom. I do not have to ask permission to do things I want to do. I just go and do them- If I want to go kayaking with friends, I grab my kayak, tell my wife where I am going to be, and that is it.
My wife doesn't ask permission either- if she wants to go out with friends, she does it, and I have no issues with that-
I havent felt the need to cheat on her because my life is complete- I have my freedom and the love of my life by my side-
If he doesn't understand that you want to live your life, then maybe you shouldn't be with him at all-living your life the way you want to live it is more important-
If you want to be single then talk to your boyfriend. maybe you guys could try an open relationship for a while. Me and my husband had one for a while and it did wonders.
Just remember how the last time you guys broke up you date someone else didn't like how it turned out and went running back to your comfort zone. One day that comfort zone won't be there no more. always do what is going to make you happy but think long and hard first. Good men are not found often and the grass isn't always greener on the other side. just remember you cant treat him like a punching bag in a way. You dont get to go out and date and do the single thing then when that gets old get to run back to a beautiful home and form an instant family that's just not how life works sweetie. Decide one or the other. if you leave him that's fine but don't expect him to be sitting there waiting for you when your done having fun.