Wishing my boyfriend dead?!

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well, i think it might be because you care for him a lot or maybe you're just thinking of the worst-case scinerio

sometimes i think about my own funeral, and what everyone would do if i died,

if u love him u wouldn't say that !

it is absolutely normal-- but for imaginary pleasure only-- after that, you would have to dig deep down inside of yourself why u feel this way. and get the strength to walk out a relationship that would make u to have this thought!

The title seems misleading. It says you wish he was dead, but when you imagine it, you're so sad you start crying! There was a small period during my relationship where I was attracted to other people, and I wondered how I would feel if my boyfriend died and I suddenly became available. I felt horrible. Maybe you're secretly attracted to someone else?

Or maybe you're just curious to see how everyon around you would react. I think it's normal to wonder how many people would go to your funeral and stuff.

i do the same thing every once and a while. I think is not completly normal, but saine. Im sure everyone pictures what it would be like if a loved one dies, and how they would cope. Its apart of life.

Dont worry to much about it, and dont worry about the worst all the time, its very negative, and you want to be positive.

this is kinda like what I do , but I don't want him to die. I have involuntary thoughts about "what if he died?" Then I cry and freak out about it. I think I have ocd. having these thoughts freak me out so bad.

You're imagining him dead and feel the loss - which is nice in the sense of what he means to you - but a little morbid and melodramatic don't you think?

It's not morbid and there's nothing wrong with you. I loved my grandmother dearly and could not imagine life without her and from the time I was a child, I tried to picture her funeral and how I would feel and what I would do without her. Then, when I was 28, the day of her funeral actually came and I think I was better prepared for her death because I had thought about it so often.

I think it's normal. It's important to prep yourself for something like that. My mother lost my father before my first birthday and it floored her because it never occured to her he'd ever die. You always need to plan for the unexpected or it could end up messy! I'm 19 so don't really have any posessions but once i have a house i would make a will. It's vital to plan for these thing or you could be left in a sticky situation.

Plus I think you should imagine how would feel if a partner died. If you're not that upset you don't really love them right?

I think the title doesn't match your story. Maybe "Sometimes I imagine my boyfriend dying"?

But I think its normal, so long your not hoping he is dead lol

I expect your granny was a lot older than her (the poster's) boy friend. Its not so morbid to dwell on a death that is years away. But a half century - and then cry about?!? Come on, that's morbid!