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won't let me stay with him when kids around
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I have had a friend with benefits for about five years. We lived in the same town, I moved away for a few years and now I moved back.

I got a job but not a home yet so I'm homeless until my first couple of paychecks. He will let me stay at his house for a week to have sex and come help me out sometimes, but then make me leave once his son comes over. He is divorced. His son is in jr. high. He doesn't want me around his children. He made me leave when his daughter came home to visit from college.

I want a relationship with this man, I'm not sure if he wants more.

Any opinions?
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Jim_Pfoss (19247)
2009-03-19 20:55:21
You're not sure? What do want, flames?
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BrightEyes (21252)
2009-03-26 15:40:23
It doesn't sound like he's too interested in a relationship... but you could always ask. Just don't let him use you. ^^;;
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imjusthere (21627)
2009-04-05 10:24:00
You said he was a "friend with benefits". Hellooooo. Friends don't use each other like that. It sounds like all you have with him is something sexual and nothing more. Why would he want a relationship with you when he has someone to go to to have an easy lay? Think about it.
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Phaeteon (21772)
2009-04-08 20:31:22
He's giving you a very clear message in the male language. Let me, as a man, translate it for you...

When he makes you leave when his kids comes around, what he's telling you is that you are good enough for sex, but not what he pictures as someone who's fit to join his family. I.e, he's not looking for anything more than sex.

Your best bet would be to get out of the situation and find someone who is as interested in you as you are in them. I've been there, it's not a good feeling, but trust me, you'll be much better off in the long run.
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Ollieo (19003)
2009-08-21 06:10:02
I really don't know how his behaviour could send a clearer or stronger message to you: he wants you for sex only, holds you in little regard, and is ashamed of you.

"Friend with benefits?" There is no friendship here. He is using you as his whore.

Don't look to this guy for a relationship. Seems he's failed already with a previous partner. And he is really using you.

Move on and respect yourself.
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