Young girl who already wants a baby

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get her a pet, a hobby, something else.

The world is full of pre-teens that play house and want it to be a reality. The economy doesn't help the situation either, producing dolls for children, that relieve themselves so the child cleans it up. It makes every young woman want to have an ideal family life at a utterly wrong age. I have a 16 year old niece that had that same false ideaology at the age of 13-14. She, respectivly, found an older guy to date, and her parents were, in my opinion unfit to be parents anyway, so naturally she dated this guy who was 20 years old, and eventually became pregnant at 14. She then was forced to move 500 miles away from the father. She had the twins at 15 years old, and soon after the father was arrested on a statutory rape charge who is in jail to this day. The children at the age of 1 when my niece was 16, got taken into child protective services because she was deemed an un-fit mother. As you can see these things quickly go on a downward spiral and i suggest you get your cousin under control before she makes a grave mistake.

You need to have a serious talk with her
cause she sounds like , she is going to get herself pregnant, so i recommend
that you do that , Or get her placed on B/C shot to prevent from getting pregnant

Dude, don't feel bad my 15 year old cousin has wanted a baby for years.
she is just plain stupid, and likes making mistakes.
whatta freak.

but I suggest you talk with her.

I was 17 when I had my first child... I now have three. I don't regret it for a single second. I am no longer with the father... but I am taken. I am one of the lucky few that was actually mature and responsible enough to make it through without my children being deprived. I have a good job, own my house, and have 3 cars @ 22. I suggest that you have a chat with her. She isn't even in highschool yet. She hasn't lived her life... once you have a child everything changes. It is not easy! And her little babysitting "job" is not going to pay for her and her childrens' meals, diaper, clothes, schooling/supplies, cars, gas, lights, phone... she will end up living off welfare like all of the other young mothers. Trust me, it's a constant battle to stay on top. With babysitting you can always give the kids back when they misbehave, or refuse to babysit on nights that you have plans. It's not that simple when they are yours. Does she even have a boyfriend... a reliable boyfriend? Or does she plan on being a single mother? Honestly... she is out of her still maturing, 12 year old mind.

Honestly at that age I wanted a child myself to the point where it felt like I would die if I didn't... But at the same time my parents pointed out to me that it would be irresponsible if I were to have one at such a young age. In fact I waited to have sex until I was 18 (whao huh?) I would suggest you talk to her and have an adult to an adult mind conversation. Explain to her how right now if she were to have a child, if she were to get pregnant that she couldn't be able to raise the child. Point out the fact that she would have to be able to get a real job and then have to pay for babysitters, hope that she has a reliable boyfriend. The whole nine yards. And even more, explain that she is 12 years old and she would have to at least wait until she is 16 so she can get a job, with that a lot of places do not hire someone that is 16, they prefer 18 year olds. Explain to her that her babysitting job isn't enough and she might even have give up school which would not be a good thing. Explain to her that if she wants a future for her child that she should think about going to college before thinking about having a child. I know I'm waiting until I have graduated from college though it kills me to wait so long, to get married & pregnant.

honestly it sounds a little like you want it and not your so called cusin

she's still young that's why she wanna grow up right away.. but believe me, once she's already old and a mom, she would wish to be young again

my cousin was a bit like this
shes so young and there is loads of time

suggest she gets a dog something she can love and have love her back xx
untill the time is right :)

he is a lucky man to have some one like you and you too are lucky to have him.

Every girl goes throug that stage, she might grow out of it. What made me grow out of it is realising that a baby is hard work and the fact that my body will stretch to have the baby, she needs to be put off until she is ready i think

She's nutty and needs some serious life counseling. Clearly she's under the impression that babies are toys you can produce yourself. She sees children as playthings that she can dress up and read to and race around with when in reality they are expensive, life-altering full time commitments. They don't stay that cute or little forever. They need to be supported and reared properly. Something which a CHILD cannot do.

I have a friend who's 18 and wants a baby like NOW. She thinks having a baby in your mid-to-late 20s or even 30s is "gross" she says she doesn't want to be "that old with a baby". Even though she's 18 shes still a CHILD herself. Her mother started having kids at 14 and popped out her last (of 4) at 21. The girl thinks it's totally normal. In other words the bitch is crazy.

My cousin is 20 and has been "trying" for a baby since she was 15. She runs around picking up people kids and saying "aww i want a BABY!" like she's possessed or something. Luckily she can't have kids with out the help of extensive (and expensive) fertility treatments or in-vitro. Thankfully she can afford neither.

a lot of children think they want to be a parent because they dont understand what it really means. looking mature and being mature enough are completely different. nothing prepares you for a child. thats why so many parents abandon or mistreat there children. she needs to be told what the meaning of being a parent is. its not as easy as babysitting.

cheers!

Yes this is normal. Just make sure you explain to her why she can't have kids now. A good line to use now might be to say how it would be bad for the baby. If she thinks that by having kids now it would it would lead to problems for the child then I doubt she would want one, if she truly does love kids.

Plus try not to leave her alone with any boyfriends. If she really DOES want a kid and acts maturely she could easily get a lad her age horny and get him to have sex with her.

There are SOME kids out there who are really mature and honestly ready to have a kid at 16-18 or so as long as they have income and got their schooling down, but NEVER any younger than that, and MOST kids need to wait until 21 or 22 I think. And those really mature ones? Need to wait until AT LEAST 16, in fact it'd be better if they waiting a couple more years than that too.

In fact...some people should wait till 30. It's all about how mature you are. But 12??? NEVER...That is NOT normal. Not that she's a bad kid, she is probably just a future loving mother and will take very good care of her kids WHEN SHE'S READY.