Is it normal for 13-14 year old to like 30-50 year old men?

She may have been the victim of sexual abuse. She should get counseling.

Sounds like a molestation victim. Get her a shrink.

one of my best friends was molested at age 6 and she is now 20, but when she was a teenager she dated 40 year old men. but on the other hand, nothing like that has ever happened to me and i dated a 27 yea old when i was 14.

let girls have are fantasizes. dont boys fantasize about older hot women?

look...as kids we all have crush to famous actors!!..i've been so many times "in love" with rockstars and actors..but u know..this innocent thing.. But yr sister seems to have a problem..maybe sth else happened and influenced her to think that way..
I know a girl, that when she was abused by her teacher, but that guy made her feel that he cared and he was protecting her (have u seen Mysterious Skin? u must!) and then that idea stuck to her mind about attraction to older men. Is not good..it's psychological. She needs help. and u must do it as fast as u can, b/c this world is cruel..and who knows what will happen next to yr sisteR? If anything happened, and she can't tell u, she might tell it to a doctor, who knows..

I used to fantasize about getting it on with 30+ year old men since the time that I was 4 on up. No one ever touched me.

She is the age where sex is something so interesting and new for them that almost anything may sound sick, I would worry if she has more than just fantasies with older men, thought would you feel the same if she was a he and was interested for older women? I don't think so.

We want to make the women so weak that we forgot that they should have the same chances, I am not saying is normal for her to have sex with a 43 yrs old man but neither is wrong. For children, older people seems to be a better deal, more experience, more life knowledge and so on. Probably taking her to a psychologist or someone that can make her see that this situation could direct her to a painful future.

I wouldn't worry much about her drawing a variety of sketches involving sex or bestiality or anything you want to call it. Artists are known for having issues trying to express themselves, they can't express it to the world because the world kick them down, so the art aspect I would just let her be, it's normal and should not be taken away from her but rather support it. It may just vanish in the near future when she gets exposed to new art styles and techniques.

Last but not least, almost every child has sexual fantasies with older people, teachers, friends, etc.

Sexy is Sexy no mather the age. Roger Delgado was 55 when he died and he was smoking hot.
Now the Pedophile Fantasies, I'm not too sure about, that might be a problem. But the attraction itself it's not really problematic, it might only be a phase

Hey, when I was 14 I started having sex with 21 year old guy. then it continued and the next one was 39 years old. the oldest one was 44 years old and he had a daughter older than me and a son at the same age as me, i was 14!!!

I had a boyfriend who was 27 years old but no one ever knew about it. i think i had sex with like 20 men at the age 21-44 :( I regret that were so many guys :( but i fell in love with some of them.

Hmm its hard to say, everyone is different and hormones make people different. i was molested and i do think of older men sometimes, plus my dad was never around. not sure if that all makes a difference though. just support her. dont make her feel like a creep ya know.

It's called puberty, looking at decently muscled older guys is normal, the same way young boys rub themselves to online porn.

Hey...its ONE thing to say your teacher is HOT but what she is doing is way off the normal scale. :-(

Come on! Every 14 year old girl loves Actors. Some even more. And what YOU think is perverted, is just a kind of music/posters for her.

And don't trust the "fake-psychologists" above, who think they know everything.

Get her help before she gets pregnant... NO it's NOT NORMAL... When i was around her age I liked older men too & had sex with a 26 year old at the age of 15.. he knew my age & now that I look back at it I find it disgusting!! GET HER HELP before she does anything stupid. I ended up getting pregnant at 16 I love my son but that is not the right age to be getting pregnant. I've always been attracted to older men but it's wrong in so many ways to be at that age, remove all her posters etc... get her to seek professional help!!!

I'm older now & still am attracted to older men but I am no longer underage. I am now married to someone 18 years older then I am, I have 2 children & am currently pregnant with my 3rd child...

It is NOT NORMAL to be attracted to older men at her age, it's not appropriate.. tell her to wait til she's 21 or something or she will end up like me; pregnant before 21... I love my children but I had them at such a young age & it's HARD, she still have her whole life ahead of her

It's actually normal. But I bet if it came down to it, she wouldn't actually do anything with an older man. Believe me I was like that and friends of mine.

P. S. when i was in my 30s almost all the girls i came into contact with became infatuated with me. they won't leave you alone and are always rubbing crotches on you. i was older than some of their dads. Not cool. they just see a healthy , funny , interesting, wealthy guy and go ape shit. I dont like girls so i kept it in my pants. I like women.

She just wants a provider and not a child. Her mind is healthier than you can imagine. This one has not been molested and will probably remain a virgin until her wedding night to a provider.

I loved older men too, and I still do. It’s cos we’ve something in common; our music taste. Plenty of young women are obsessed with sex, have crushes on actors, singers etc, self-insert into stories, fancy older men. Sometimes it’s a phase, sometimes not. RDJ is your sister's subsitute boyfriend; he'll look after her; she can be with him without all the boring bits; she can make him behave however she wants him to; he'll never disappoint her.

I had a classmate who fancied all the older supply teachers we had. She’d even joke about it, but if said men had actually taken her up on it she’d have probably run a mile. As for the sex thing, we were obsessed with it, simply due to the fact that we hadn't actually had it.

Biologically, and in the abstract, this is not an issue. PC policed professors won't admit it publicly (well, most anyway), but the ideal time for MOST (not all) women to carry a child is 15-17. This is where you see a spike in teen pregnancies because the brain inverts its normal reasoning processes so that we naturally disregard any risk of "social" prohibitions. This has worked very well for the last 5,000-50,000 years. On the other side, as a male, when I was between 11-... well to the present (around 30), any woman without grey hairs, and possessing that classical hourglass figure and I am part stone. (Crap,just trying to help people here, is a temptation.)Permit me to state clearly I do not encourage anyone to break their local laws. On a side note, I recently discovered that like other soft tissue organs such as ears and noses, the human phallus continues to gain girth and length throughout life.

That said; what you describe, is more than sexual. There are clear signs of psychological power and controls; for example, these rape fantasies. While it could be she simply feels she is losing control of her life to some older man, I am saddened to say your sister is likely the victim of unwanted sexual acts. Investigate!

Sex is beautiful and normal. ANd people like who they like. I am almost 40 and I adore 14-15 year old girls. I love being with them, and having gentle sex with them.

War is wrong. Letting people starve is wrong.

Cuddling in bed with a cute girl is awesome.

Follow your heart, and keep your secrets!

I'm fourteen years old and Anderson Cooper is damn sexy. Is your sister's behaviour normal, though? I have no idea.

Hmmm...is she normal or disturbed?..does she have friends?...does she isolate a lot...does she seem depressed or agitated ...are her pictures..dark...scary...looked troubled and disturbed...does she talk of suicide or hurting herself...does she say things like life sucks or I wish I were dead...does she eat and sleep normally..does she mention nightmares....if she doesn't do any of those negative things..does she have a father that loves her...
If she seems o.k. Leave her alone...she is just being herself and growing up

It is a perfectly normal fetish. I had ssex with a 48 year old man when I was 16. He was so big and the age difference just made it even more naughty.

It's normal. You people who say its not normal because we are younger. You did it so shut up you admit it!!! I fantasize the rape of a guy is out there but fantasizing is NORMAL

Yes it is normal because they have bigger dicks and your sister lies big ones I am guessing. I have 10' I let her ride on.

Not normal _ I agree it is likely she was a victim of a rape or sexual abuse. Try to help her - find out what is really going on underneath it all. Not normal behavior and she should talk to a therapist.

Sounds like she's been raped

well that is not normal but at that age of life all can of sexall deairs well come as long as she dont do any bloody crasy there sood be any think to be warryed about

idk about her but im 18 and i love have sex with 25-80 year old women..

I was also in love with a man 52 years old, he was my sport teacher i always got very horny when i thought about him. and other sport teacher, 46 years old i loved them so much.. they worked in a home for teenagers that have been into drugs and i was so seriously craving them i was thinking about doing cocaine to go that home.

Idk if the rape thing is normal but the fact that she is into older dudes is normal. Especially if she is a daddys girl. Then she will want a man who reminds her of her dad. Guys her age probably dont

hmm.. I didnt read it, I just saw the tittle, but, maybe shes only joking? My freinds like that, he's a guy (13) and we joke about it all the time...

dudette.... Im 14, some guys are hot when they are that age, but not 50 year olds... they all grey and nasty. And any man that is that much older than you and does... eurm.. "the dirty" with you, is a sick pervert and should be hung from a tree :\

I'm not sure, when I was her age I used to think about being with older guys a lot. (Johnny Depp being one of them!) I'm an artist as well. Maybe it's in our genes.

The part that disturbs me is the rape part. Maybe she just needs someone to talk to.

It's absolutely normal. Such men are associated with her father, a so-called "Electra's complex". She's just looking for her father's substitute. Obviously when she was a child, father has to be sharing a lot of time with her. 13-15 years is a marginal age, her mind is still childish while her sexuality is enough developed

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I used to be like that at that age and I'm still like that. It's normal to get feelings for older men, especially since we look up to teachers and spend so much time with them. Even our fathers (Electra complex). But even then, she's just learning about sexuality and there's nothing wrong with a little bit of fantasizing. As long as she doesn't act on it, that's all.

Well, it all depends. I was like her at her age, but i grew up without a father along with other things, so i turned to older men for advice.But that is so not what happens.Men saw it differently and had their way with me . Your sister may need help. I went through a tough time not understanding men and being an only child I had no one to talk to about it. I started thinking that men really loved me, but they only wanted my body. I started fantazing about older men.

One other thing though what i really like dabout older men was that they acted mature and responsible and withtout a father that drew me to them and in a sense it made me miss out on some childhood days.

Others may look at this and say its wierd, disgusting and all other demeaning words, but let me tell you something until the've been there or experienced it, they will never understand. You need to talk to your sister about it. See why is it that she is interesting in older guys. Don't look down on her or consider her to be a perv, there is a reason why, that you may not know about. So talk to her and tell her to wait before she has sex because sex will not run away, it will be here still when she gets older.

Good Luck, i hope everything works out and you help your sister or she gets help before its too late and it damages her.

I'm the same way. And my older sister thinks I'm weird

Ask her if she was ever molested or raped
Sounds like she was
Good luck

jikes

it's normal, all chicks have such fantasies when they're young, they grow out of it

The Fantasizes about older men is definatly normal. Almost all women have fantasizes about older men. The rape fantasy is less normal but still not that big of an issue as long as it stays a fantasy. The Pedophila... not that is a HUGE problem. I will admit there have been times where I have seen underage girls and thought they were sexy but to actualy have pedophila Pics that in and of itself is illegal. I would definatly try and get her some kind of help for the pedophila stuff. Pedophila is a psycologial disorder and can cause problem for her as she gets older. I do agree with some of the others that it sounds like there was possible molestation. just talk to her seriosly about it because you know her much better than anyone on this site does. find out where the problems are. there is deffinatly something going on with the Pedo stuff!!!!

She needs help. And she fantasizes rape? a 13 year old girl raping a man? Well thats a change!

That's really gross. I hope you get HELP soon.

I JUST submitted a reaally similiar story... Weird

all teenagers have crushes and many focus on older guys because they're safe. It may be that saying all this stuff is just her trying to work out her own sexuality.

She'll most likely grow out of it but if you're worried suggest she speaks to someone about it

Sorry, but prison rape! Pedophilia and the such! She's either got sexual abuse problems or is a severe nypho!

Dad issues? Seems like she wants to dominate an older male which would suggest she is always dominated by annolder male figure in her life. But yea, you may want to get her some help, just in case

No, absolutly not. I have my sympathies with her and she really really needs some kind of conselling to change her thinking, by someone who underestand her problems, can give her
good advise and above all whom she can trust.

I'm 18 and I was with 36 year old. Omg it was so good lol
But nah ur sis isn't normal

Perfectly normal to me you cant help being attracted to someone

I was 16 and my bf was 35 ;) and i still date older men im 19 now