Over 30 and never had a girlfriend, but should i say that?

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So this is a thing. I'm not asexual and I have a pretty high sex drive, I've just been weird my whole life. Quiet and antisocial when I was little, nervous and bad at conversation as an adult, so I've always felt repellent to women.

I was forced to socialize in the jobs I've had recently, so I'm feeling more confident about meeting new people. Should I be upfront about my past, though? I've never had sex, is that going to be important?

Any other advice you might have helps, too.

Say it first thing/put it at the top of your dating profile 1
Slip it into regular conversation somehow 0
Say it if she asks 1
Say it only when it becomes relevant 9
Never say it, no one needs to know 2
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  • litelander8
    1 year ago

    When it’s relevant. You don’t want to seem like you’re out trying to drop your drawers. And I’m sure companionship is more important to you at this point anyway.

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  • EnglishLad
    1 year ago

    Men are typically attracted to women with a good track record, feminine personality and a decent body.

    Women are typically attracted to men who are high-status, financially stable, and are strong enough to protect them when shit hits the fan.

    Both require self-work. Do the work required on yourself in order to meet the kind of woman you're after. Only afterwards should you even consider dating, as many women won't care about the struggle - they just want to reap the rewards once you get there.

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  • Tommythecaty
    1 year ago

    If you had a high sex drive you would not even nearly have made it to thirty a virgin. You’d have well and truly cracked and done something about it long before that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      1 year ago

      I did do something about it. It's called frequent and varied masturbation.

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      • Tommythecaty
        1 year ago

        Wouldn’t be enough!

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  • Jimmybga
    1 year ago

    Only if you're trying to get in her pants

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    1 year ago

    I wouldnt say it. It makes you look weaker unfortunately. Not saying that to depress you but social status is a real thing that even the ppl who will tell you its wrong stereotype ppl with.

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