It's hard to say what "normal" is about anything, but I totally have that problem. I'm not going into great depths about it, because I am the only one that knows this and have never told anyone else, but I totally have feelings for someone that I can't get out of my head and it drives me crazy all the time. I'm worse than you though, I've never met the guy in person! :) Also, I am married, hah! Horrible, I know. Trust me, I am madly in love with my husband and have always been and always will be faithful to him, but there is something about this other man that will not rest in my brain. I'm infatuated with him, and it's so funny because I am so busy with my every day activities and with being a mom, and I still find time somehow to think about him all the time. I don't know what it is... I don't think it is love because I love my husband, I do. I wouldn't call it a crush though. I just feel like we have some kind of attachment and I don't know why. Hopefully I am not going crazy. I think about him a lot, probably at least a few seconds every day of my life. The easiest way for me to forget about it, is my kids or husband. I tend to think about him more when my husband is away. I know I have to get him out of my head because I have to continue on with my important day to day activities, so that is my motivation. Also, being an overly good wife to my husband makes it easier. If you find it hard to do every day activities or certain things are hard to concentrate on, then just simply try harder and use "false motivation". Think of a goal in your head of something you want to achieve and just attack it. If you work extra hard towards something that you HAVE to do anyway, he will more likely fade from your mind more during the day. Keep yourself busy. Even if you aren't studying or something, take up a new hobby and get yourself around other people. That's my advice :) Anyone that leaves a bad comment about what you said, or what I just said, can go fuck themselves (in advance, because I know someone is going to say something rude).
Hi cd3921 (20070)
I was reading your comment. I think out of everyone you might be the one to really HELP me. I loved someone , I screwed up and lost him. Few years later we met again ( he lived out of the country)He again promised to marry me after I told me how sorry I was that I would be a better person etc etc. Then we hooked up but once he left the country 6 months later he broke my heart again. He wanted to be friends I cut him off for some time and jumped into a arranged marriage. Was happy to be a wife but then the man I married turned out to be negative minded about people, abusive verbally and we are not even sexually compatible. He has nothing to say to me besides "I don't know" "Nothing" and "What's going on ?" Now I am stuck with a man I do not love. I fight with myself every day to try and love him BUT I FEEL NOTHING FOR HIM. DISGUST IS WHAT I FEEL. I am currently living in a different state from my hubby due to my work and I feel so peaceful. I pray to GOD to always keep me away from him coz whenever he shows up I end up by the second day hating him and thanking God that he lives away from me. I want to turn my feeling around for him. I WANT MY MARRIAGE TO WORK. CAN u PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me some advice on how I could change myself to be a better wife. And to cap it all I think nonstop of my ex coz he was a much better person Atleast we were both similar with a lot of shared interests. My hubby and I don't share anything in common. I am almost completely sure I don't want a divorce . I don't have kids. I want to improve my situation. I REALLLY need your help
I love you, cd3921. i totally understand what you are saying, I, too, have an attachment to someone that I do not understand. I cannot stop thinking about this person. I just want to feel normal again!
I especially love the comment about others " can go fuck themselves". Yep, I often think everyone can go fuck themself.
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It's hard to say what "normal" is about anything, but I totally have that problem. I'm not going into great depths about it, because I am the only one that knows this and have never told anyone else, but I totally have feelings for someone that I can't get out of my head and it drives me crazy all the time. I'm worse than you though, I've never met the guy in person! :) Also, I am married, hah! Horrible, I know. Trust me, I am madly in love with my husband and have always been and always will be faithful to him, but there is something about this other man that will not rest in my brain. I'm infatuated with him, and it's so funny because I am so busy with my every day activities and with being a mom, and I still find time somehow to think about him all the time. I don't know what it is... I don't think it is love because I love my husband, I do. I wouldn't call it a crush though. I just feel like we have some kind of attachment and I don't know why. Hopefully I am not going crazy. I think about him a lot, probably at least a few seconds every day of my life. The easiest way for me to forget about it, is my kids or husband. I tend to think about him more when my husband is away. I know I have to get him out of my head because I have to continue on with my important day to day activities, so that is my motivation. Also, being an overly good wife to my husband makes it easier. If you find it hard to do every day activities or certain things are hard to concentrate on, then just simply try harder and use "false motivation". Think of a goal in your head of something you want to achieve and just attack it. If you work extra hard towards something that you HAVE to do anyway, he will more likely fade from your mind more during the day. Keep yourself busy. Even if you aren't studying or something, take up a new hobby and get yourself around other people. That's my advice :) Anyone that leaves a bad comment about what you said, or what I just said, can go fuck themselves (in advance, because I know someone is going to say something rude).
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Hi cd3921 (20070)
I was reading your comment. I think out of everyone you might be the one to really HELP me. I loved someone , I screwed up and lost him. Few years later we met again ( he lived out of the country)He again promised to marry me after I told me how sorry I was that I would be a better person etc etc. Then we hooked up but once he left the country 6 months later he broke my heart again. He wanted to be friends I cut him off for some time and jumped into a arranged marriage. Was happy to be a wife but then the man I married turned out to be negative minded about people, abusive verbally and we are not even sexually compatible. He has nothing to say to me besides "I don't know" "Nothing" and "What's going on ?" Now I am stuck with a man I do not love. I fight with myself every day to try and love him BUT I FEEL NOTHING FOR HIM. DISGUST IS WHAT I FEEL. I am currently living in a different state from my hubby due to my work and I feel so peaceful. I pray to GOD to always keep me away from him coz whenever he shows up I end up by the second day hating him and thanking God that he lives away from me. I want to turn my feeling around for him. I WANT MY MARRIAGE TO WORK. CAN u PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE give me some advice on how I could change myself to be a better wife. And to cap it all I think nonstop of my ex coz he was a much better person Atleast we were both similar with a lot of shared interests. My hubby and I don't share anything in common. I am almost completely sure I don't want a divorce . I don't have kids. I want to improve my situation. I REALLLY need your help
is this you selfish woman?
I love you, cd3921. i totally understand what you are saying, I, too, have an attachment to someone that I do not understand. I cannot stop thinking about this person. I just want to feel normal again!
I especially love the comment about others " can go fuck themselves". Yep, I often think everyone can go fuck themself.