Yes I think this is normal especially if it's a first love/crush. Love comes when you actually know that person well, and when usually when you guys were friends before.
What you said above was exactly what happened to me! I'm actually flabbergasted by the similarities. Anyways... I couldn't stop thinking about this guy for months as well and yes it did interfere with my studies- but not TOO bad. If I really concentrated and said to myself, "Forget it. He doesn't even know me and what I have for him is ALL INFATUATION. What are the chances that he'll be with me anyways?"
If I really did "love" him, then that means that we knew each other very well and I'm accepting his personality.
He's not the only guy in this world and we have more impt. things to be doing as well right? Moreover, when you're daydreaming about him, you're only assuming of "who he may be" rather than "who he really is".
Love is not clingy. Infatuation is. I don't know if it's because of my personality, but after months of crushing on him, I kind of got tired of being so hung onto this guy. Then it's like you all of a sudden just move on. But don't wait for this to happen. Take action now and focus all your energy into FAMILY, FRIENDS, EXERCISE AND SCHOOL. That is a healthier lifestyle. Take yoga. I'm serious; it may help.
Great point on the daydreaming about "who he may be" and "who he really is".. that makes a lot of sense to me. In my situation, I did not have a huge amount of time with the guy ( a few months), and the whole time I had suspicions that he was being who he thought I wanted him to be. Problem is, he did a GREAT job of it.. now he's stuck in my head. :)
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Yes I think this is normal especially if it's a first love/crush. Love comes when you actually know that person well, and when usually when you guys were friends before.
What you said above was exactly what happened to me! I'm actually flabbergasted by the similarities. Anyways... I couldn't stop thinking about this guy for months as well and yes it did interfere with my studies- but not TOO bad. If I really concentrated and said to myself, "Forget it. He doesn't even know me and what I have for him is ALL INFATUATION. What are the chances that he'll be with me anyways?"
If I really did "love" him, then that means that we knew each other very well and I'm accepting his personality.
He's not the only guy in this world and we have more impt. things to be doing as well right? Moreover, when you're daydreaming about him, you're only assuming of "who he may be" rather than "who he really is".
Love is not clingy. Infatuation is. I don't know if it's because of my personality, but after months of crushing on him, I kind of got tired of being so hung onto this guy. Then it's like you all of a sudden just move on. But don't wait for this to happen. Take action now and focus all your energy into FAMILY, FRIENDS, EXERCISE AND SCHOOL. That is a healthier lifestyle. Take yoga. I'm serious; it may help.
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Great point on the daydreaming about "who he may be" and "who he really is".. that makes a lot of sense to me. In my situation, I did not have a huge amount of time with the guy ( a few months), and the whole time I had suspicions that he was being who he thought I wanted him to be. Problem is, he did a GREAT job of it.. now he's stuck in my head. :)