Listen sugar. I’m not talking about your first kiss. I’m talking about your second kiss. The romance novels you’ve been reading don’t tell you this, but kisses keep getting better. Honestly.
And, there’s a thousand different kinds of kisses. Which is best? It depends on the moment. Kind of like closing your eyes just before you reach into the jar for a cookie. You slowly learn to feel the anticipation.
Umm, you’ll get there, bro. I think this because you sound friendly. Honestly.
One Valentine's day I believe 9 years ago I gave my wife a bag of I believe 20 different "kisses" on folded strips of paper.
The bag was a medicine bag from our local pharmacy (without a store/chain name on it), and I attached a prescription to draw out a kiss when needed, and then refold and put it back into the bag after the kiss is over.
My wife tells me its one of the best gifts I have ever given her... and that bag of "kisses" sits prominently within reach in out bedroom.
Over the years I'm not even sure if we had done all 20 of them; but it sure has produced a lot of fun and laughter, and spice, in our relationship.
The reply was to what can possibly happen after you get past your first kiss. I assure you it can be a lot of fun.
But as to your problem on not yet experiencing your first kiss. Obviously you want someone you have some kind of feelings for and who shares a mutual interest in more than just alcohol, drugs, kissing, sex, etc.
I suggest that you find a local group that does something you are interested in - and join them for some activities. Don't be pushy, but its OK to let people know that you are hoping to meet someone special who shares a similar interest. Many people will recommend friends or relatives they have to assist you even if they are not themselves available or interested. Most often this happens after they have seen you at several events and can make a judgement about what kind of person you are.
I wish you the best with this approach. It's the most effective method I know of (and I've seen a lot of other things tried). Key is that you have to get out of the house and get involved in activity groups. That's usually fun for most people (although you may need to check out several different groups in several different activities to find one you are comfortable in).
I just don't find anyone I can be with attractive at all. Btw it's me Tinybird. Your second paragraph exactly nails it. But you know, I don't find anybody I could be with attractive...
Pay attention to their mind... not their body. In my life most of the Ladies I dated were not "lookers" and often exactly opposites. But they were great people with creative, funny, and intelligent minds (which translated into fun times in bed too).
It's by the rarest chance that my wife turned out to be stunningly beautiful (none of my family believed that was possible with me, and more than one had their jaw drop open and hang open when they 1st saw her).
Please keep the faith Tinybird. I did not meet my wife until I was 54. She's somewhat younger (but not by a lot). Both of us are on our 1st marriage as we both waited for the right person.
I'm pulling for you.... and I'd still like to meet you in person some day. I think you would be a neat person to get to know.
yeah but there has to be this thing called LIMERENCE for me.... And well I only like younger. My time has already run out to find someone I like... That's why I stick to things like tornadoes and liminal spaces....
I am a 25 year old female who has never kissed
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Listen sugar. I’m not talking about your first kiss. I’m talking about your second kiss. The romance novels you’ve been reading don’t tell you this, but kisses keep getting better. Honestly.
And, there’s a thousand different kinds of kisses. Which is best? It depends on the moment. Kind of like closing your eyes just before you reach into the jar for a cookie. You slowly learn to feel the anticipation.
Umm, you’ll get there, bro. I think this because you sound friendly. Honestly.
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One Valentine's day I believe 9 years ago I gave my wife a bag of I believe 20 different "kisses" on folded strips of paper.
The bag was a medicine bag from our local pharmacy (without a store/chain name on it), and I attached a prescription to draw out a kiss when needed, and then refold and put it back into the bag after the kiss is over.
My wife tells me its one of the best gifts I have ever given her... and that bag of "kisses" sits prominently within reach in out bedroom.
Over the years I'm not even sure if we had done all 20 of them; but it sure has produced a lot of fun and laughter, and spice, in our relationship.
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And that's supposed to make me feel better, how?
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The reply was to what can possibly happen after you get past your first kiss. I assure you it can be a lot of fun.
But as to your problem on not yet experiencing your first kiss. Obviously you want someone you have some kind of feelings for and who shares a mutual interest in more than just alcohol, drugs, kissing, sex, etc.
I suggest that you find a local group that does something you are interested in - and join them for some activities. Don't be pushy, but its OK to let people know that you are hoping to meet someone special who shares a similar interest. Many people will recommend friends or relatives they have to assist you even if they are not themselves available or interested. Most often this happens after they have seen you at several events and can make a judgement about what kind of person you are.
I wish you the best with this approach. It's the most effective method I know of (and I've seen a lot of other things tried). Key is that you have to get out of the house and get involved in activity groups. That's usually fun for most people (although you may need to check out several different groups in several different activities to find one you are comfortable in).
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I just don't find anyone I can be with attractive at all. Btw it's me Tinybird. Your second paragraph exactly nails it. But you know, I don't find anybody I could be with attractive...
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Pay attention to their mind... not their body. In my life most of the Ladies I dated were not "lookers" and often exactly opposites. But they were great people with creative, funny, and intelligent minds (which translated into fun times in bed too).
It's by the rarest chance that my wife turned out to be stunningly beautiful (none of my family believed that was possible with me, and more than one had their jaw drop open and hang open when they 1st saw her).
Please keep the faith Tinybird. I did not meet my wife until I was 54. She's somewhat younger (but not by a lot). Both of us are on our 1st marriage as we both waited for the right person.
I'm pulling for you.... and I'd still like to meet you in person some day. I think you would be a neat person to get to know.
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yeah but there has to be this thing called LIMERENCE for me.... And well I only like younger. My time has already run out to find someone I like... That's why I stick to things like tornadoes and liminal spaces....
It’s supposed to make feel kind of intimately imaginative. You’re not a kid anymore.
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Well it only makes me feel worse... And I am just like a kid