Honey, nobody wants to lose someone they love. But for that person you love to ask you to take your life is just selfish. It is understandable that your friend is afraid of dying and most of all being lonely but it is quite an unreasonable excuse for them to tell you to commit suicide.
It does appear that you have become quite obsessed in trying to find a cure for your friend and it does not sound healthy at all. I know you do not want to hear this but it sounds like your friend is being quite a burden on you. And it seems that your friend secretly takes pleasure in seeing you going to extremes to find some miracle for him. As harsh as it may seem, I believe that he wants for you to share his pain with him.
Your friend must have more love for himself than he does for you. Instead of telling you to end your life, he should be pleading with you to go on and live your life happily. And instead of telling you to leave this world with him, he should be telling you that he will wait for you.
PLEASE DO NOT TAKE YOUR LIFE! Do you know how upset and crazy the people who love you would become? Just like you, they may go to great lengths to try and resurrect you.
People love you. And even more people will come to love you in the future. Do not destroy your tomorrows.
He IS a burden on you. I don't think that he takes pleasure in your pain, or that he wants you to kill yourself, and I'm sure that he would do the same for you, but don't ignore the fact that he is COPING. Also, no matter how you look at it, suicide IS a selfish act. You may think that it's helping your friend, but what about all the people you leae behind, friends and family who also care about you? They may not be as close as you were with him, but do they count for nothing?
I agree with Empathy (your friend is selfish and he is a burden on you)....my former father-in-law cheated on his wife and got HIV....blamed the entire world (including his wife and my ex-husband) for his disease...he was a selfish bastard who made life hell for the 7 years he lasted after he was diagnosed and then suffered from AIDS...at the end he was so bitter and miserable he berated and insulted everybody every chance, making everybody feel guilty about living their lives while he was sick (how dare anybody around him actually try to be happy and live their lives was his attitude)....I didn't feel sorry for him at the end...I think God put the rest of us out of our misery....at the funeral everybody commented how his wife deserved a nobel peace prize or sainthood for putting up with him...that is sad when they can't find something nice to say about you when you die but say your wife is a saint for putting up with you). I don't wish death on anybody, but we must all (when our time comes) try to go with courage and help our loved ones who are left behind be strong and continue living...your friend could be delirous, but he needs to STOP asking you to waste your time on finding miracle cures for him and he is not your friend if he is asking you to committ suicide because he doesn't want to be alone. HE needs to face the inevitable with courage and strength and he should be wanting for you to live and move on with your life.
Do not judge someone until you have been in their situations. You cannot possibley imagine what it is like to be dying slowly and be unable to do anything about. Such powerlessness and fear cannot be conceived by anyone who hasn't been in that situation. It is perfectly understandable why his friend asks him to try to cure him anyway possible and, yes, even to die with him. Fear of being alone is a normal occurance and should not be condemned. Perhaps in his right mind his friend would understand that his request is wrong and selfish, but in his current state of dying it is easy to see why he might ask it and it does not make him a bad person.
However under no circumstances should the OP commit suicide. Live the life your friend might have led and enjoy every moment for him. That would be a better testament to his life than taking your own.
What ever your name is, look you can try all the voodoo you want but, fate and destiny are two forces that work together. You have to accept his fate and so does he. I am personally a Christian so I dont believe in all that witch doctor stuff I think thats just crazy.... but thats me you can believe whatever you want theirs no law about it. So try whatever majic you want but there is always going to be fate.
This guy is obviously scared and yes he may like the idea of you finding a cure for him but what your doing is not healthy for either of you so you need to stop.
whatever you do do not take your life! You will arrive their on your own fate and own time!!! Its not your friends decison on how long your life span is.
Yes, I admit that I'm obsessed with finding a cure. Perhaps it's insane and unhealthy. But you have no right to insult and speak badly about my friend! He's not a burden, he's not selfish and he doesn't take pleasure in seeing me searching for a 'miracle' cure. He just wants to stay alive, can you blame him? He's only 18! Besides he believes in miracles. He believes if I try my best, I will succeed and he will stay alive. I know him since childhood, we're like brothers and I am sure he would do the same to me. He's not a bad person, he has always been kind and helped others! You're only right about one thing, I guess. Suicide isn't a good option, as indeed I don't want to hurt others. However I don't know how to tell him the truth.
I think it's awesome that you do everything you can to try to save your best friend's life.
Trying to find a religious or spiritual answer to your friend's illness may only be useful if you actually believe in the god or thing you are praying to, so don't waste your time praying to every single deity out there, you could use that time to be with your friend, love can heal you know? At least it can heal sadness (and sometimes it looks like it heals the body too).
I agree with Empathy "I believe that he wants for you to share his pain with him." but who wouldn't? He is probably very scared, much much more than you are. And the fact that you've spent all your savings, prayed to different gods, looked for better doctors and better hospitals just proves that you ACTUALLY are sharing his pain much more than most people would do for anyone they care.
BUT commiting suicide it's just not a solution to anything, it doesn't mean you are sharing his pain because if he dies he will be in pain no more. You sound like the kind of person everyone would love to have as a friend, and with only 18 years people say we have a whole life to come, do you know how much it would hurt the people who love you if you even think of commiting suicide? Do you want them to be desperate for an answer, to a question the may not even understand, as you are? Life is overwhelming, but there is beauty everywhere, and if your friend dies and you two love each other as much as it looks like, he will be with you and you will be with him even if none of you notice, you dont need to kill yourself for that to happen.
My friend is dying.
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Honey, nobody wants to lose someone they love. But for that person you love to ask you to take your life is just selfish. It is understandable that your friend is afraid of dying and most of all being lonely but it is quite an unreasonable excuse for them to tell you to commit suicide.
It does appear that you have become quite obsessed in trying to find a cure for your friend and it does not sound healthy at all. I know you do not want to hear this but it sounds like your friend is being quite a burden on you. And it seems that your friend secretly takes pleasure in seeing you going to extremes to find some miracle for him. As harsh as it may seem, I believe that he wants for you to share his pain with him.
Your friend must have more love for himself than he does for you. Instead of telling you to end your life, he should be pleading with you to go on and live your life happily. And instead of telling you to leave this world with him, he should be telling you that he will wait for you.
PLEASE DO NOT TAKE YOUR LIFE! Do you know how upset and crazy the people who love you would become? Just like you, they may go to great lengths to try and resurrect you.
People love you. And even more people will come to love you in the future. Do not destroy your tomorrows.
Have patience, you will certainly see him again.
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He IS a burden on you. I don't think that he takes pleasure in your pain, or that he wants you to kill yourself, and I'm sure that he would do the same for you, but don't ignore the fact that he is COPING. Also, no matter how you look at it, suicide IS a selfish act. You may think that it's helping your friend, but what about all the people you leae behind, friends and family who also care about you? They may not be as close as you were with him, but do they count for nothing?
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I agree with Empathy (your friend is selfish and he is a burden on you)....my former father-in-law cheated on his wife and got HIV....blamed the entire world (including his wife and my ex-husband) for his disease...he was a selfish bastard who made life hell for the 7 years he lasted after he was diagnosed and then suffered from AIDS...at the end he was so bitter and miserable he berated and insulted everybody every chance, making everybody feel guilty about living their lives while he was sick (how dare anybody around him actually try to be happy and live their lives was his attitude)....I didn't feel sorry for him at the end...I think God put the rest of us out of our misery....at the funeral everybody commented how his wife deserved a nobel peace prize or sainthood for putting up with him...that is sad when they can't find something nice to say about you when you die but say your wife is a saint for putting up with you). I don't wish death on anybody, but we must all (when our time comes) try to go with courage and help our loved ones who are left behind be strong and continue living...your friend could be delirous, but he needs to STOP asking you to waste your time on finding miracle cures for him and he is not your friend if he is asking you to committ suicide because he doesn't want to be alone. HE needs to face the inevitable with courage and strength and he should be wanting for you to live and move on with your life.
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Do not judge someone until you have been in their situations. You cannot possibley imagine what it is like to be dying slowly and be unable to do anything about. Such powerlessness and fear cannot be conceived by anyone who hasn't been in that situation. It is perfectly understandable why his friend asks him to try to cure him anyway possible and, yes, even to die with him. Fear of being alone is a normal occurance and should not be condemned. Perhaps in his right mind his friend would understand that his request is wrong and selfish, but in his current state of dying it is easy to see why he might ask it and it does not make him a bad person.
However under no circumstances should the OP commit suicide. Live the life your friend might have led and enjoy every moment for him. That would be a better testament to his life than taking your own.
such wise words from one so young :)
What ever your name is, look you can try all the voodoo you want but, fate and destiny are two forces that work together. You have to accept his fate and so does he. I am personally a Christian so I dont believe in all that witch doctor stuff I think thats just crazy.... but thats me you can believe whatever you want theirs no law about it. So try whatever majic you want but there is always going to be fate.
This guy is obviously scared and yes he may like the idea of you finding a cure for him but what your doing is not healthy for either of you so you need to stop.
whatever you do do not take your life! You will arrive their on your own fate and own time!!! Its not your friends decison on how long your life span is.
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It's not "majic",it's spelled "magic".
Not trying to be a pessimist,but what if one goes to heaven,and one to hell?Not saying they will,and it's a major "what if",but still?
Yes, I admit that I'm obsessed with finding a cure. Perhaps it's insane and unhealthy. But you have no right to insult and speak badly about my friend! He's not a burden, he's not selfish and he doesn't take pleasure in seeing me searching for a 'miracle' cure. He just wants to stay alive, can you blame him? He's only 18! Besides he believes in miracles. He believes if I try my best, I will succeed and he will stay alive. I know him since childhood, we're like brothers and I am sure he would do the same to me. He's not a bad person, he has always been kind and helped others! You're only right about one thing, I guess. Suicide isn't a good option, as indeed I don't want to hurt others. However I don't know how to tell him the truth.
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I think it's awesome that you do everything you can to try to save your best friend's life.
Trying to find a religious or spiritual answer to your friend's illness may only be useful if you actually believe in the god or thing you are praying to, so don't waste your time praying to every single deity out there, you could use that time to be with your friend, love can heal you know? At least it can heal sadness (and sometimes it looks like it heals the body too).
I agree with Empathy "I believe that he wants for you to share his pain with him." but who wouldn't? He is probably very scared, much much more than you are. And the fact that you've spent all your savings, prayed to different gods, looked for better doctors and better hospitals just proves that you ACTUALLY are sharing his pain much more than most people would do for anyone they care.
BUT commiting suicide it's just not a solution to anything, it doesn't mean you are sharing his pain because if he dies he will be in pain no more. You sound like the kind of person everyone would love to have as a friend, and with only 18 years people say we have a whole life to come, do you know how much it would hurt the people who love you if you even think of commiting suicide? Do you want them to be desperate for an answer, to a question the may not even understand, as you are? Life is overwhelming, but there is beauty everywhere, and if your friend dies and you two love each other as much as it looks like, he will be with you and you will be with him even if none of you notice, you dont need to kill yourself for that to happen.
Good luck, i hope the best for you. :)