Is it normal that husband deleted texts after i snooped due to a suspicion?

If I was cheating and my wife checked my phone, I would delete my messages. If I wasn't cheating and my wife checked my phone, I would also delete my messages because I hate snoopers and I get paranoid about people seeing even innocent things if I didn't intend them for their eyes. I don't think the deleting of the texts is evidence against him

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I do think there is plenty enough evidence against him anyway. Don't get hung up on the fact that he deleted the texts, just look at all the evidence. He flirted with her, met up with her behind your back and they stayed out until midnight together. Those are the indisputable facts, you decide whether or not that sounds like he's been cheating.

How about you try and find the woman (if it's possible)? Have a chat with her, and see if anything seems suspicious.

Let's not get hooked up whether it was right for you to go through his phone or not - he's either cheated, cheating or going to cheat. If you hadn't found those messages, he would have sealed the deal with Tammi as soon as she let him. He will already have let Tammi know that he nearly got busted and to be more careful. I am a seasoned, serial ex-cheater. When a cheater is confronted, the very first tactic to deploy is the deflection. 'You shouldn't be looking through my phone' etc. They will harp on about a lack of trust. Its all a deflection. Which is worse - looking at your husband's phone, which shouldn't be a problem, or meeting a girl when out of town behind your back? Do the math. You've never heard of her, yet she is supposed to be 'like a sister' to him? I call BS!
Sorry but you know it's true.

she would have no reason to be insecure if her husband wasn't giving her a reason to doubt his word .. it isn't rocket science !

Watch out. Men are totally sneaky...and he'll delete JUST enough to where it looks bad but not enough for u to overreact about it even though they are probably totally being unfaithful...super sorry! But u didn't do anything wrong. That jackass that said u were wrong for sneaking, fuck them. People are devious and fucked up. And if u don't find out for urself u may end up being gullible and used.

STOP SNOOPING THROUGH HIS PHONE! No one likes when you look through their shit. I hate people doing this to me and it does not make anyone feel very safe. It makes them paroniod and untrusting

it's the while principle, you're insecure and went through his phone and invaded his privacy. It doesnt matter if an innocent man deletes his texts or not because you shouldnt be going through it in the first place. You sound weak and insecure, grow up and stop being soo jealous like you're in fucking highschool.

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FOLLOW HIM O.O It's like being a stalker, except your his wife, so it's kind of ok. Get a girlfriend in on it and stalk together lol It'll put your mind at rest atleast. I'd hate to feel that way to, and the quickest way to feel better is to find some evidence. If there was no reason to raise suspicion, i'd tell you to let it go, but in this case, it's really 50/50. So why not just get it over with and follow him next time he's going out with her? Or, you could explain to him it makes you uncomfortable and that you'd like him to tell you when he's going out to see her and such.

I snooped at my boyfriend of 4years phone last year, and i got completely paranoid. Although sometimes u have to snoop and i would of done the same in ur situation. I know my boyfriend doesnt fancy anyone else and i also know he can be flirty with other girls. But this doesnt always meab he fancies them. If you feel confident about urself and how you are in the relationship then there is no need to worry about these other girls. My boyfriend deleted all messages when i snooped because i violated his privacy but i know he wasnt cheating but he was just wary of me.

I think there's nothing wrong with snooping once in a while. If you have reason to. If you were wrong then shame on you, and if you were right then you may have saved yourself from heartache later on. I was suspicious of my ex, had never snooped before, and checked his phone bills. Found out he'd been cheating on me for years. If I hadn't snooped if still be with him now with him doing that to me. So it did me a favour. If someone hasn't got anything to hide then there shouldn't be a problem

Whether he cheated or not he has still created the situation where you do not trust him through deception. Over react and throw him out of the house and see how much effort he puts into making it up to you, then you will have your answer because if he puts effort in then yeah he cheated or at least feels he did something wrong, if he believes he is innocent of all wrong doing then he won't apologise.

I hate being in relationships with people who think they have the right to look through my things. It absolutely infuriates me because I am a very private person sometimes. After I found out my ex was looking through my phone while I was asleep, I started deleting the messages as sort of a "fuck you". Even though there was nothing wrong with what was on my phone, chances are he'd find something to start a fight about and I don't have the time for something so childish. One time he actually threw my phone across the room and nearly broke it because I was talking to an old friend of mine and he was jealous.

Give him his space, relationships aren't about telling each other about every detail of your lives, they are about loving and trusting each other. If you act like you think he's cheating, he might end up feeling like you don't trust him and he might find the company of someone who does.

Until you can prove otherwise i think you should give him the benefit of the doubt.

He probably deleted those messages because he knew how you'd react.

Or maybe you should give him moar sex so he isn't looking somewhere else for it.

If things are rough at home or you are constantly nagging it could be that you are losing him.

Thats no excuse to cheat on you if he is.

Talk it out like adults don't jump to conclusions.

I think that you were right to go through his phone to discover what he is trying to hide. You have a right to know what going on in your husband's life and remember that most people who are answering this post are teenagers who have no experience of a serious relationship.

In my opinion you should confront your husband and tell him about your doubts. I can't say if he cheated or not but it's sure there's something going on that shouldn't be.

Good luck :)

My god you insecure bitches. Nothing ever comes good of snooping. Either you find nothing and if your partner finds out you break the trust, or he doesn't find out and you either find stuff or just ASSume things about it that aren't true and either confront him / breaking the trust, or just go on with the misinterpreted statements you read.
Maybe if you were a better more secure girlfriend/wife, then the man wouldn't need to go seek attention else where (If that's even what they're doing).

If someone snooped through my stuff, I might lie and say I had deleted messages just to piss them off. Probably not, but I'd think about it.

1. I do think that there's a high possibility that he's been cheating. The fact that he wouldn't tell you before you asked and when you confronted him he deleted these "chats"; all this is very suspicious.
2. Regardless of your suspicions, you had no right to go through his phone. That is his private property. He now feels that he can't trust you. He will probably take more security measures on his phone to ensure his privacy now.

he is one hundred percent lying i will guarantee you this .. if it was nothing as he claims then he has no reason to be secretive or delete/hide anything from you .. your instinct is called your instinct for a reason .. go with it !