I understand if you're living with someone that is not really part of your close family. When I spend time at someone else's house I respect their house rules or don't stay.
I do understand the privacy issues if you want to read, get some work done, or just spend some time on the computer/pad. However I've never had a problem finding a place and kind of tuning out the rest of the world. I'll go outside on the balcony or to a park if all else fails. My bedrooms have never been the place I want to go to sit, most haven't been big enough for chairs and the rest of the furniture. I don't like sitting on the bed. I get on the bed I want to lie down and go to sleep or do other activities. Lol It's just not a comfortable place to sit for me.
It just comes down to, I don't stay if I'm not comfortable. I've only had to live in shared space where I didn't have a choice a couple of times, college and national service, and we didn't get doors there, yes, between rooms but your room including the bath was shared with 2 to 4 others. You adapt and find a way to get privacy and respect others privacy.
I see what you're saying, but I still maintain that OP's husband, and his family are being abusive to her. I don't think there was any reason for him to take the door off it's hinges other than to torment her, and appease his family! Her husband, and his family sound like awful people!
I agree about the awful people, but hubby would have to make a choice me or them.
If your parents have a problem with me, we (I) am not living there. Time to find another place or maybe another guy (if you need one). If this living situation is just a temporary thing and they are providing the benefit of letting you live there, you may have to bend over backwards and eat a little crow to get along.
It's uncomfortable for them too, if somebody lives in their house but hides in their room all the time. It's taken as, you don't like us or want to associate with us, so you are going to be treated that way in return. Hubby is in a bad spot choice between family and spouse, if this is in fact his family. Time to find a new house if he wants both.
is it normal that I'm always in my bedroom
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I understand if you're living with someone that is not really part of your close family. When I spend time at someone else's house I respect their house rules or don't stay.
I do understand the privacy issues if you want to read, get some work done, or just spend some time on the computer/pad. However I've never had a problem finding a place and kind of tuning out the rest of the world. I'll go outside on the balcony or to a park if all else fails. My bedrooms have never been the place I want to go to sit, most haven't been big enough for chairs and the rest of the furniture. I don't like sitting on the bed. I get on the bed I want to lie down and go to sleep or do other activities. Lol It's just not a comfortable place to sit for me.
It just comes down to, I don't stay if I'm not comfortable. I've only had to live in shared space where I didn't have a choice a couple of times, college and national service, and we didn't get doors there, yes, between rooms but your room including the bath was shared with 2 to 4 others. You adapt and find a way to get privacy and respect others privacy.
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I see what you're saying, but I still maintain that OP's husband, and his family are being abusive to her. I don't think there was any reason for him to take the door off it's hinges other than to torment her, and appease his family! Her husband, and his family sound like awful people!
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I agree about the awful people, but hubby would have to make a choice me or them.
If your parents have a problem with me, we (I) am not living there. Time to find another place or maybe another guy (if you need one). If this living situation is just a temporary thing and they are providing the benefit of letting you live there, you may have to bend over backwards and eat a little crow to get along.
It's uncomfortable for them too, if somebody lives in their house but hides in their room all the time. It's taken as, you don't like us or want to associate with us, so you are going to be treated that way in return. Hubby is in a bad spot choice between family and spouse, if this is in fact his family. Time to find a new house if he wants both.
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I just think taking the door off the hinges is hella extreme.