"is it fear i am feeling?"

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I apparently i started dating this girl two years back and it went well, but later on in the relationship i started to feel like i was not growing mentally, i felt stagnant and needed a challenge so i decided to dump her last December and be alone. Im into the fragrance business currently and have learnt so many things and one of them is rejection when it comes to selling. i recently got back with my ex girlfriend again three months ago and those emotions are surfacing up again. im so motivated about success that sometimes i try to influence or shape how she thinks and maybe thats not what i am supposed to be doing. i so much seek for growth in personal attitude and change and i do not know if this relationship will handle all this emotions surfacing up now and then.She feels like once i talk or say this things, it means i want to leave her again and she prefers to be less committed.Is it normal that my fear of failure or are my standards really controlling me?

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  • marycontrary
    12 years ago

    I know that you aren't supposed to try to change people, especially if you are dating them.

    It's hard to say what you are feeling, especially over the internet and over a paragraph you've written.

    You say you're not sure if the relationship can handle all the emotions surfacing up now & then. What emotions? On your part or hers?

    Try letting go of your fears (the emotions surfacing up now and then?), stay in the relationship, and see if that works out.

    Then again, these are guesses over a paragraph on the internet. Ask a counselor, or decide in your heart for yourself... deep down. Trust your gut instincts, that usually works for me I think.

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  • LostinU
    12 years ago

    you still love her, but if you think she really deserves you then try to get her back, If she really doesn't deserve you then don't waste your time in thinking of her, who doesn't appreciate you doesn't deserves you.

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