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I freak out at this because i dont talk about my sexual life at work and want never to discuss with co workers my sex life
Your question is a little unclear, but I read it as implying that someone you work with asked you about your sexual orientation and this upset you.
You have a right to a private life. If the things you do away from work don't have a negative impact on your performance at work, the people you work with and for have no right to question you about that part of your life. If you're working in the sex industry, then your sexual orientation and sexual activity might be relevant, but otherwise it is inappropriate for your work colleagues to ask you about it.
Thanks for clarifying.
As Bailey-Rose says, "homo" is a derogatory slur (on par with "the n word"), and so it sounds like the person who asked the question is not only insensitive and aggressively nosy, but also either very ignorant, or a religious or political whack-job with an agenda.
If you work for a larger firm with a formal policy on sexual harassment and an HR Department, then you should think about pursuing a complaint, especially if it ever happens again. If you work for a small firm or your employment is insecure, then you should probably just look for another position where you can work with civilized people.
If you are planning to ask a co-worker that, then you might be ready to be seeking another job. 1) Their sex life is not your business to be asking about.
2) That is a form of Sexual Harassment.
3) How would you feel if someone at work asks you if you are gay or bisexual or lesbian ? Let's say you are a gay make but want NO ONE to know. If someone asks you at work then when someone else hears them ask you then the rumors will spread. And then you would be outed. (If you were LGBT)
I too, was thrown by this question at first, but I am going to assume you mean is it okay to ask a coworker if they are gay or lesbian. Homo is a derogatory word. As stated about, if you are prepared to possibly lose your job or face severe disciplinary actions, I'd highly suggest you leave it alone. I say this for one reason.........IT'S NONE OF YOUR FUCKING BUSINESS!!!!!! Now if you see them at a gay club, by all means, strike up a conversation and lead into it. But to do this in a work place is HIHGLY unprofessional.
Your sex life is very private and certainly not up for discussion at work.
I think it's cute that you're gay but you don't have to talk about anything you don't want to.