A girl broke my self esteem…

Did you tell her how much better than her you think you are, like in your post.....she may have picked up on that and disliked it...like any normal person would.

Hinting at your better career and calling her average is something some people pick up on, even if unspoken. A good attitude outside does come from inside.

I honestly think being ghosted would've hurt even more. The thing I want you to keep in mind though is that matching on an app is almost always like that. It's not so much a matter of her not thinking you're good enough or disliking something about you as it is about clicking and feeling a connection. I don't know if you felt it because all you said was "the date was going well" but it seems she didn't and doesn't want to waste her or your time, probably also the reason why she wanted to meet so soon.

Don't let that destroy your self esteem because it's completely normal. I'd advise you to go on those dates not thinking it's a date date, you know? It's the opportunity to check out if there's chemistry between you or if it's awkward - which it usually is.

If you’re centered and confident, no one can break your self esteem.

You let some girl break your self-esteem? First of all, You a bitch. Second of all, grow some balls.

It was probably just her being cold hearted. Did she mention she dates alot online? Some girls on there ive heard herd through dates like the dates are caddle going through a factory line. I feel ya though its always worse to actually be shot down by an average girl than an above average girl. Especially when you are kind of out of their league to begin with and you were almost compromising to date her and then she shoots YOU down. Thats always hard on the ego

You're going to have to work on improving your self esteem if you want to function in this world. So, one person said you aren't compatible with her as a couple. It's really not as big a deal as you think in the greater scheme of things. I think you need to try to get over this. You said yourself that she's an average looking girl, so why are you so upset? You also said that you're not interested in the same things she's interested in, and believe it or not, I've dated guys who enjoyed going to the ballet, opera, plays, and seeing Broadway Musicals. My father is a relatively macho guy, and he would take my mother, my sister and I to the theater to watch Broadway musicals, and the ballet, my first love took me to the ballet, and the opera, as did my first husband. What do you think this girl has in common with you? In what way are you compatible with this girl? If she's just average looking why do you care so much about the fact that she didn't feel any compatibility, or spark. As a matter of fact I don think it's a big deal if one person is interested in another person who is absolutely breathtaking, but the the other person feels no spark, or feels like they have nothing in common. Being incompatible with someone is not the end of the world, and it would be so much worse if that person was bored, and lonely then feigned an interest in you to be polite, or to fill some void in their life, because eventually they would tire of the situation, and have to come clean as living a lie can be all kinda of unbearable. You mentioned that she makes about half as much money as you do, and a lot of very superficial people would love to date someone who makes twice as much money as they do, because they're opportunistic golddiggers. Would you rather deal with a fake person who is only interested in your money? At least she was honest with you!

I don't think she broke your self esteem. It sounds more like this experience bruised your ego. If you want to develop healthy self esteem you need to perform esteemable acts, and ideally have some sort of moral philosophy of life. Yes, it hurts all of us when we get rejected, but it's not the worst thing in the world, and being rejected makes us survivors, not victims. Oftentimes we make ourselves victims just because we don't get what we want, and that is a childish, entitled attitude to have. I've felt really bitter, and hurt about certain rejections in my life, but dwelling on it has never helped me in any way, in fact it's only caused me harm, and slowed down my progress in this life. If someone is not attracted to me it doesn't make me a bad person, nor does it make them a mean, or bad person either.

If there's one thing I've learned it's that when I'm able to accept, and respect the boundaries that someone else sets with me I'm better able to set healthy, appropriate and necessary boundaries with others as well as internal boundaries with myself.

In all reality, You don't even know if she was telling you the truth. What if she was lying
herself and felt she was not good enough compared to your progress and thought you would most definitly find out. Can't sit and beat your yourself over something that has too many what ifs. It is hard not having closure on things like that. Its gonna happen in some other way in life. Learn from it but dont dwell on it.

You seem to have approached this like a job interview, listing off a CV of achievements and arranging a feedback exchange. Most women won’t want a write-up of everything you didn’t find attractive about them, they will just want to move on.

I’m getting the impression you haven’t dated much and aren’t used to the inevitable rejections and chemistry-free dates of the process. Learning not to base your worth on other people’s opinions of you will help. I wish you good luck with this.