Aging and partying?
I'm a 19 year old female, and I am completely uninterested in heavy drinking, going out to clubs, hardcore parties and the like. I had my days earlier on in my teens when the whole hardcore drinking thing really appealed to me, but looking back I noticed that it was always a distraction.
When I was at my most unhappy stages in life, I would go out to clubs or go out drinking to distract myself from whatever was upsetting me, particularly after a bad break up or family related issues. The last time I ever went to a club was over a year ago with a friend, and because it was not my car, it was not my choice to go.
I met a really amazing guy when I was a few months away from turning 18, and we knew eachother for just under a year before we started a relationship together. He's in his 20's and definetly outgrew the partying phase a long time ago. He has a steady job with an engineering company for the past 6 years, he las life insurance, he's really stable and mature and I feel more myself with him than ever before.
Ever since we started dating, which was over a year ago, I am even less open to the idea of drinking and partying, even though most other 19 year old males and females I know are very much still into it. My boyfriend and I go out to barbeques and stuff like that, and we'll have a few drinks if he's not working the next day, but we never go overboard and I like that. I like our relaxed, mature life style.
My life felt like a crazy, unplanned mess when I was being dragged around to parties or clubs when I was 16 and 17, and I feel so much better this way. I've been told by some people that I'm completely boring and I should be enjoying my teens and 20's but the thing is, I am enjoying them. My life is great and I wish more people would accept the fact that I just grew up sooner than they did.
We had this friend, who is 27 this year, and he still goes clubbing, drinks to the point of blacking out, drives drunk from club to club, often pulls an all nighter while out partying and uses drugs like he's a teenager in the 60's and I keep thinking what the hell happened. Why does he do this and why doesn't he want to find a girl, live a steady life and just be relaxed and comfortable? For this guy, every weekend is a mad, drug induced rush and he often spends his entire paycheck on one night/weekend out.
What the hell? Am I the only young person who doesn't want to party and drink anymore?