Aita for not agreeing?

It's Grunewald. I'm having an AITA moment. Can you help, is it normal family?

There's a person on my Facebook with an illness that is very debilitating. She has had a painful life, missed much of school, can't work, and has had multiple miscarriages. She is now married to her childhood sweetheart who has faithfully stood beside her in her illness from her late teenage years to her early thirties, they love each other to the moon and back, and they now have a baby, who is her whole world. I must admit that I am quite jealous of her for this. Sometimes I wonder: would it be worth a debilitating illness to love and be loved like that? How much more debilitating an illness than the one I've got now, would it be worth?

She and her husband have had a bad run-in with government services and she has often not got the help she needed, leaving them both in some pretty bad situations. Her joy has not come to her easily, and she has been mistreated by the system, because her illness is not a visible illness and is not often recognised.

The thing that is hard for me to accept is her sense of entitlement to pity and to the universal agreement of everyone on Facebook whom she complains to about all the things she hates (notably, anything the government does that could affect her or her child). Now, I think it's perfectly fine to say on Facebook if you are suffering, but I do think that when posting on a public platform, no amount of suffering should make someone entitled to something that is another person's to either give or withhold. She writes about virtually nothing and nobody else except what she has suffered from and what she blames for her suffering, or even her imagined future suffering, and it does give a person compassion fatigue after a while, making me wonder if she has anything to say to the world except the message of her own victimhood. But the hardest thing about interacting with this person is that if you don't share her point of view and bolster her in her own opinions, she is furious and treats you like you are evil, no matter how respectfully you try to put what you want to say.

You guys know how I 'do' argument, when I engage in long-form argument. I respect this person even more because we went to school together, even if her apparently permanent sense of victimhood does grate on me, and even if I am annoyed that she has what I desperately want and that no amount of diligent school studies got me, and that she can still apparently say nothing on social media that isn't a complaint or a demand for pity or an expression of outrage. Meanwhile I take what life throws at me, pay out for therapy and psychiatry, confide the rest where I can while trying not to overwhelm anyone, and suck it up, and pray. There is no benefits cheque with my name on it, and I know there never will be, no matter how loudly I shout. If I profess myself a victim and deprecate people for not pitying me, there will be no co-dependent in shining armour salivating over my unworthy cause.

Am I the asshole for not capitulating to her anger that I don't share her outrage, but express a different opinion (without any outrage at all)?

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