Am i being selfish or is he

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I apologize for the long post and if it doesn't make sense lol

So I moved into the place I am now.. met this guy n had a fling with him for a while but that ended after he moved in after a couple months (I'm sorta fine with it ending).. I let him move in as we were always together and he was staying over a lot (while he was living with his mum) and so he could have his kids more often..

He works at a dairy farm and he may have an opportunity to move into a place that's right next door.. he obviously needs the rooms for the kids (he wants 4 rooms for him and 3 kids.. he only has them on swap over shift and on his days off) and what I'm feeling is that since I have more stuff then him (which most of it is in one of the rooms he occupies... he half arsed complained about it a little) so it felt like he doesn't want me to move with him if he doesn't get the place next to the farm..

Since I don't have many friends or people I know here.. am I being selfish in thinking I don't want him to get this place on the farm?? And that I don't want him t oo leave me by moving out??

I feel like I've compromised by letting him have his kids here and for them to use my some of stuff (kitchen stuff and the 2 recliners I own) and he's compromised by having my stuff in one of his rooms..

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  • A-sharp
    3 years ago

    People ABUSE as soon as they can. The place is yours, he's the one with the kids. Claim your space.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Yes!

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    Its not selfish that you don’t want him to leave but it sounds like you guys can’t really live in the same space. You could still keep seeing each other even if he got that place.

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago

    The fact that he’s even allowed custody with the sleeping arrangements for the kids currently is crazy.

    The kids should come first.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      I get that.. really I do.. but he's had 2 years (apparently and from what he's told me) to do something bout it and getting a place for himself and his kids

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  • Kool_owl
    3 years ago

    You can't have both ways .

    Let him get his own place with the kids .

    End of story

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    3 years ago

    At the beginning of your post it says yall are no longer together then at the end it sounds like yall kinda are. I dont think either of you are being selfish. Hes probably just throwing a hissy fit about the furniture because he was mad about something else. He prolly doesnt even really care much he was venting. Thats kind of an assumption i guess. If he does REALLY care hes a bitch

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  • XYXY
    3 years ago

    As you are no longer in a relationship with him it’s entirely his choice if he wants to get a place on his own and nothing to do with you. For starters he obviously needs to make suitable arrangements to be able to have his kids over. Secondly it would be a bit awkward for him if he meets a woman and wants to take her back to his place but first needs to explain he lives with his ex girlfriend in her flat. It would certainly have put me off when I younger and dating guys.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      We were never really in a relationship.. I had just gotten out of a relationship and told him I wanted to take things slow.. we weren't actual bf/gf

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