Am i being tricked into giving sex?

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There was this person who propositioned me. They said they wanted to make me their pet. I said I was no longer into that life style and I dont feel like getting a partner right now.

I was saying I want to do things for myself and just find a job and live on my own. They said they would give me a job and I said no I dont want to be your partner. They said they could make me their servant and I said "Im not interested in being your pet". They asked if I knew what a servant was.

So I said "Is it like a butler" since they do call butlers man servants and those things do exist today. They said that a servant is between a house servant and a slave(which is sexual). Is this person trying to trick me into doing something sexual? I kind of think they are but I cant tell. I asked what duties they would have me do and they just said "Anything your Master orders you to". I think I being had but I wanted a second opinion.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    It's about sex and control. Yes, they are trying to trick you in to having sex with them by also trying to make you give them complete control over you.

    Back away from them. Tell them they're not interested. Block contact. If it gets worse, seek legal help. Document the conversations too. Just incase.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      The control thing is not the issue. That is kind of how it goes in S&M. The thing is I told them I am not into the life style anymore and I want to straighten out my life before I start considering any type of relationship like this. So they suggested the "Servant" thing. So I am wondering if they are trying to manipulate me. I told them I am not interested multiple times in being their pet and I dont want a Master right now.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Of course they're trying yo manipulate you. Do as ItDuz says, and all should be well.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Yeah but with S&M it's about controlled submissiveness if by S&M you mean BDSM. You give up your controll but you're still in controll to end the person having control over you. That doesn't sound like what you explained at all in your post.

        The part of them not accepting your refusal is what makes it seperate from S&M in the acceptable sense, much like how BDSM is BDSM until the control the sub has is completely taken and the safeword is disregarded, making it rape.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          I decided to cut communications with this person. Thank you for the advice.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            Glad to help. :)

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  • Mytwin295
    9 years ago

    It's more than just having sex. It's about this person controlling who what where when and how you have sex, but its not limited to sex alone. Basically you would be letting this person make all of your choices for you.

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  • theotherblonde
    8 years ago

    I totally cringed at the pet thing,talking about slavery. stay away from this person.They sound fed up. If they continue to bother you call the cops.I don't want you ending up chained up in someone's basement.or becoming a sex slave. that is what is sounds like.

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  • Crazyperson2
    9 years ago

    get out. of that situation. now.
    you are going to get hurt.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      What do you mean? Nothing has happened.

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      • Crazyperson2
        9 years ago

        It can, if that is a situation that is anywhere near being possible to happening you need to make sure it can't. Sometimes these people go from asking you to demanding you to forcing you. It will most likely end badly if you end up in a "Master-slave" situation.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    In that you can't think for yourself, as evidenced by having to actually contemplate this ridiculous situation, I say go for it. Imagine what you'll see in taxes!

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  • harukim
    8 years ago

    They want to use you like a pocket pussy! be careful!

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    50 Shades is a really poor representation of how things are supposed to be in BDSM relationships, though as you say, many people are very bad at the safe practice of BDSM.

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    Yes, people do this kind of stuff. All of you that sound appalled should get out a little more often, there's likely an entire world out there you aren't even aware exists.

    To the OP... if you don't want to do it, don't do it. Consent in these matters is key. If you don't consent and they don't respect that, it's a very bad situation. It sounds like they aren't taking "fuck off" for an answer so this would sit firmly in the very bad situation category. Don't be a fool.

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  • pizzabrowniesushi
    8 years ago

    this person that propositioned you sounds like a total creep. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. so don't.

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  • dasugaknows
    9 years ago

    Im not sure if he is trying to trick you because it seems like he is being honest about what he wants. It's an s&m relationship. However, it sounds like he is being pushy about it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Well I already told him no multiple times.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    I think you were right to not get into this and yes, I do think he's trying to manipulate you.

    My experience years ago of the BDSM community was that there was a lot of talk about informed consent etc etc etc blah blah blah but far too often the power & control given to masters & mistresses went to their heads and they abused it in various way, some of them quite dangerous.

    50 shades of bullshit is a prime example: the "hero" ignores the safe word and continues with sex, which is rape .... a typical master

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