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After graduating from high school, over half than my classmates was pregnant and some even were getting married. I want to further my education now and have a family later, but somethimes I'm like "dang am I moving too slow?" Everyone is growing up so fast! Sometimes I just fill so behind...
Fuck that! Those girls that were getting knocked up and married are thinkin: damn, i wish i would have thought about getting a better education and living a little before getting tied down with kids and a hubby. You have many fertile years ahead. Concentrate on the necessaties of providing for a family, both financial and emotional, before taking that step.
Enjoy your independence now before you throw it away to a spouse, taxes, responsibilities, and children. Yes we gain more responsibilities when we leave high school but enjoy the time while you have it. It's difficult to go back to get an education after you have children, unless they are older and are able to take care of themselves.
Hell, I'm in the same boat.
All (or most) of my female friends have kids now. But no matter how happy they say they are, they are going through difficult times.
Me, I am 20 and I am married but it was not exactly something I was rushing to do. I'm a Mormon and we tend to marry young in our family. But I also have a full-time job and do not live with my parents or anything-I'm on my own, so I made the decision as an adult and not out of necessity or desperation, I have a life and plenty of friends, I'm just living by my values (rare, huh?)
I'm not envious of them. I can't imagine having kids right now! My husband and I are just working to get our degrees and make money and enjoy life, if you don't have kids yet then be thankful because I don't know one mother in my age group that truly wanted to have kids and a domesticated family life at the time.
I'm 20 too. And it funny how they try to glamorize it on facebook. I thank my mom for raising me not to be a follower. I live in a small town so it like if one person does something everyone else is doing it, and all I can do is wish the best for them. I also hope you have many, many wonderful years of marriage! :)
You should never do things just because other people (even if it's all of them) are doing it.
you still have the better part of a century... not a week in which to make the rest of your life :)
Oh wow that's so young! None of my graduating class has had babies and we graduated like 2 years ago and are turning 20 now. Everyone is in post secondary school getting an eduation. I couldn't even imagine having a kid now at 20, waay too young, I want to finish school first and get a full time job so I know that my family will be stable. So yes! I think you are super normal for waiting!! Everyone else you know is moving waay too fast o.o
Over half the graduating class was pregnant? Just what exactly is the male to female ratio here? And are all the girls irresponsible sluts or something?
It's in your head. If you feel that way then take action and start doing I stead of thinking.