Am i settling for this man?

Known him for 4 years now. We were casual friends first then best friends then we started dating.

He has high functioning autism which leads to conflict sometimes when he misunderstands me or someone, he also talks over me and others often which even my parents ask him to stop because it gets annoying to be fair but he doesn't realize it.

He also takes things literally sometimes not all the time so that can lead to fights but they're long and can last for 3-5 days. He won't let go so it takes forever for them to end. And also if I don't clean up the dishes immediately after dinner and I wait 5 minutes he'll start getting anxiety about it and say please clean them nonstop it can get annoying. Of course I always clean them so there's no reason for him to get anxious. He also gets anxious if I don't put the ketchup and mustard on the side of the fridge and he'll remind me like I did something awful lol.

And he has emotional issues he's in therapy for but he had mentally ill parents who he cut ties with but because of the things they did to him I find he gets triggered by things sometimes where most people wouldn't so it's tricky.

But other than that's probably 30% of the relationship the other 70% is really great. He's a kind, hard working, loyal and loving man. When I'm sick he'll make me soup, buy me flowers and serve me homecooked meals in bed and constantly check up on me which is sweet, he and I agree with how we want to raise kids and we have the same sense of humor so we can end up laughing so hard our bellies hurt. He's a caring man too because he will volunteer to help people at a few different centers and he's mature but that 30% of the time is stressful. The last relationship I was in it was 100% great but he ghosted me so that part wasn't great.

Anyway do you think I'm settling? I mean if we can overcome the arguments that last for days and he could get support for both his autism and the right therapy so he acknowledges it's the autism or trauma that triggers him sometimes we could probably be a whole lot better. I do love him