Am i the arsehole?

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So, I'm a 32M and my girlfriend is a 28F. We're just coming up to our 3 month anniversary, which is in 5 days time (Saturday the 2nd of July 2022).

I was planning on celebrating my 3 month anniversary with her, doing the things most couples do on the important dates, making her feel special, buying her gifts, showing her my appreciation etc etc.

However, her Nan's birthday meal is apparently also on the same day, and I'm not on the guest list.

I understand that family comes first and everything, but the 3 month anniversary is traditionally a fairly important milestone, and I'm kind of upset that my girlfriend didn't remember or consider me.

Have I guilt-tripped my girlfriend? Or is she not taking our relationship as seriously as me?

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  • litelander8
    1 year ago

    I don’t think three months matter at all. I’m a female. You’re over thinking this.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    1 year ago

    Some people dont really care about 3 month anniversary. I wouldnt make a big deal about it. You dont want to come off clingy as your relationship is still young. But I get why you'd feel upset.

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  • Preschoolgamer
    1 year ago

    I wouldn’t take it too seriously, however I still wouldn’t say you are an asshole either. Just a person with feelings whose need validation.

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  • normal-rebellious
    1 year ago

    You're no arsehole and you're perfectly normal, you're a lot like a frustrated married couple, it's very hard on this site to find normal people like you.

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  • darefu
    1 year ago

    If it's that important to you change things up just a bit. Assume you will make tomorrow and take her out, do your anniversary thing the day before.

    You might be surprised, it could make such an impact that you cared and yet allowed her family their place. She may leave the birthday party early just to get back to you. If that's no possible the day after the birthday maybe your reward.

    At 3 months, family maybe the driver, but a guy who understands that and shows that may reap big rewards from his special girl. If you know what I mean...

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    1 year ago

    I had the big ones to remember down as 1 month, 3 months, 6 months, a year, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years and so on in decades after that.

    But I guess I'm wrong.

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    • ospry
      1 year ago

      I've heard of 1-month, 6-month, and yearly as being measurements of milestones. 3 months is a new one for me

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    • normal-rebellious
      1 year ago

      Are you in your right mind? I feel that I have this woman I wanna kiss and she's nice, I took her to my house at that time, there's nothing stupider than anyone not understanding this.

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