Auties/aspies with jobs? is it normal to keep failing miserably?

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Hi there, i'm HFA. I have a high iq but i'm an idiot about normal things. I learn my work slowly and I can't keep up with my coworkers. I keep messing up things, forgetting what i'm supposed to do, and bumping into stuff and breaking it.

I also get confused when my boss gives me a vague order to go over to 'this ward' and 'do this task', because i need specific details in order to do anything. i ask what specifically she wants me to do and this makes her mad and tell me to quit being stupid.

Is this normal? i'm afraid to get fired for being too dumb...

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I have the same problem. Ive never been able to hold a job for long. I am on disability now but it doesnt really pay much and I am stuck at my moms house. I wish I could give more hopeful advice but I cannot.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      There must be something we can do. I'm good at a lot of things, I am just too slow for a fast paced environment... there has to be some place we fit in where we don't get ragged on for being too slow!!!

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        I really do wish I could give better advice. Im a 30 year old man living at my moms house and havent figured out much yet. Life has been mostly confusion for me. I will someday like to make my own income and support myself. I only make about 600 a month on disability and I am ridiculed for it even though i have tried really hard to make it on my own. I have more health issues than just autism too but I hope to soon be able to become self sufficient, but honesty I feel like I am about to snap and it will not go well. You may find more supportive advice from someone else.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          I'm sorry to hear that :( but I think it won't hurt to try. I have read that less public jobs like accountancy is good for auties because we are shy?

          I'm 30 too and the only thing that forced me to get a job was that my moma died last year and it was either this or be homeless. she knew i was too shy to work but my family doesnt care and doesnt even believe in autism or mental diseases at all.

          But this is really hard for me and I'm afraid i'll be fired soon because i'm too "stupid" and keep getting written up... and it feels like i'm getting picked on.. i don't know if i am. but i see other people getting away with things i get in trouble for?

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          • noid
            8 years ago

            Have you educated your employer about your autism and how it affects you?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              8 years ago

              nobody believes me when I try to explain. I don't think she believes me. one coworker told me it's 'impossible to not have common sense' and that i'm making it up as an excuse to be lazy!

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago

    If you have a problem processin information due to the aspbergers it's totally normal that you need very specific details to complete a task. Don't be ashamed or put off, people learn things at different speeds and someone who is HFA is no exception. You just need to practice the things you do repetitively, and maybe have a phone with a voice recorder on it. My friend who has a similar problem will record things on it and replay it when he gets stuck. Seems to help him.

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