Bf lied about hanging with his friends

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so my bf of a few months who loves me dearly and treats me soo well lied to me today and i caught him.
he lied about skating alone when in actuality he was with his friends. i found out bc i have him on find friends and one of his friends i follow on instagram posted a video of the same location my bf was at, i called him out, he said what am i talking about and denied it for awhile until i told him that im not going to talk to him until he tells me the truth.
is what he did forgiveable? should i be more mad? im just confused. he said he lied bc he thought i wouldnt want to see him for awhile bc of covid... and he was with ppl. just weird. i dont rly know what to do.

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SwickDinging

3 years ago

It's really weird that he would lie about it. Either you make him feel like he has to lie, or he's just a standard liar and will continue lying.

Either way this is a very unhealthy relationship. You don't trust each other at all.

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RoseIsabella

3 years ago

I am not a fan of liars, even if they have a so called good excuse, I tend to not like liars.

I bet this guy has a lot of other bad character flaws as well!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  he’s pretty insecure. that’s about it for bad characters flaws. would you forgive your bf if this happened? would you stay mad for awhile ?
  
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have_a_good_day

3 years ago

you should call da police. everybody should watch out fo this nigga coz he lied. send him to da gallows. unforgivable. how dare he have fun. what a monster. what else has he lied about?? I bet that nigga doesn't even like that movie he told you he liked. murderer material, everybody. MURDERER

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- FromTheSouthWeirdMan
  
  3 years ago
  
  Fo sho my jimminy cricket! He done gone last his mind tryna hang out w his "friendz" w/o her dayum permission! Dats indisputable and inspirational!! He cant have no friendz and be in da relationships. No excuses fo dis nikka ya smell!?...shiiiii...
  
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  - litelander8
    
    3 years ago
    
    You only seem a little whiter than have a good day.
    
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Bluishorange

3 years ago

If he felt the need to lie to you, ask yourself why. Clearly he wasn't comfortable telling you the truth about an innocuous event. Why? People lie, even the best of us. Don't pretend your relationship is great and loving and he treats you so well. Because this situation will only lead to more of the same.

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Mammal-lover

3 years ago

What's find friends? Sounds stalkerish. If someone is willing to lie to you about this they will lie to you about other things. Best to move on

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Tommythecaty

3 years ago

Suspicious

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  sus of what?
  
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Boojum

3 years ago

Lying is never a good thing in a relationship (unless it's about how big a woman's butt looks in a particular outfit), and it can take time to rebuild trust after one of the people has lied.

It's not clear if you are indeed worried about the virus and he was right to believe that you wouldn't want to see him after he'd been hanging with his friends. If he knows you're not all that paranoid, then his explanation was a lame excuse. If you are indeed worried about it, then it's even worse, because he's not respecting your worries and he was basically trying to trick you into seeing him when he knew you wouldn't want that because he could potentially be infected.

However, if what this is really about is that you're the sort of girlfriend who doesn't want her guy to spend time with his friends, then you'd be wise to think about this some more. It's really not healthy for two people to try to live in each other's pockets all the time; clingy insecurity isn't good for a relationship.

It sounds to me like you two could benefit from trying to communicate your wants and needs more clearly and honestly, and that you could do with putting some work into figuring out how you can reach compromises that you both can live with.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  thank you. no it was solely about him thinking i wouldn’t want to see him because of the virus and him seeing his friends. i encourage him to see his friends
  
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FromTheSouthWeirdMan

3 years ago

Im not trying to pick on you but I'll be honest. It makes me feel sorry for him that he has to lie about hanging out with his own friends. That makes me think YOU are the issue and not him.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  he said it was bc he thought i wouldn’t wanna see him bc of covid and him hanging with his friends
  
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  - FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    
    3 years ago
    
    Ahh, i mean if its not because hes scared of you then i guess id be kinda mad. But i wouldnt make a huge deal about it. i know a guy who has a wife who he has to get permission from to do anything
    
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Somenormie

3 years ago

You should dump him

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- FromTheSouthWeirdMan
  
  3 years ago
  
  ...are you serious? You dont have long lasting relationships do ya
  
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