Boss flirting ?

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So before i was single there was this guy at my work, he knew i had a boyfriend and me and him were good work friends. There was maybe a couple times i felt like he was flirting but i always brushed it off.

I’ve been single a few months now and recently i saw he liked me on tinder (bc i have tinder gold, i know sad) and i didn’t acknowledge it. Ever since he saw my tinder he has been making small talk over the work chat now that we work from home and today we were talking and he goes “no need to be modest” followed by a winky face emoji with its tongue out and the smirk emoji.

The problem is he is now my boss and i feel like he is flirting but maybe i’m over analyzing? It’s been a very awkward situation for me tbh. Idk what to do.

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  • litelander8
    3 years ago | pl

    You are not over analyzing.

    DO NOT ENGAGE.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      3 years ago

      Exactly, never date someone who can fire you.

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      • litelander8
        3 years ago

        I mean, shit. If she does fuck and then he does fire, she could sue the whole bitch. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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        • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
          3 years ago

          yeah in the long run its a ridiculous liability on his part but shes gonna end up fucked out of a job and red flagged if she sues

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          • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
            3 years ago

            Fuck ya brah, get him to send a dick pic with his face in it then demand a raise

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Danger Will Robinson! 🤖👽

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  • Bassmachine
    3 years ago

    Guess what? You're an employee of the month!;)

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  • bigbudchonga
    3 years ago

    If you like him go for it, if you don't let him know nicely. It's a simple solution. I can't really see how it's a bad thing for you; oh no, he might promote you!

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  • raisinbran
    3 years ago

    Sue for sexual harassment. Call your HR department and threaten them. Call a lawyer immediately. This is absolutely unacceptable.

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  • COVID-19
    3 years ago

    Just be honest and tell him you're not interested but appreciate the friendship. Why do people make things so difficult.

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan
    3 years ago

    Are you attracted to him?

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  • dappled
    3 years ago

    I guess it depends what country you live in. If you live in a country where you think bosses or people in general have power over you for no good reason, time to start kicking some balls.

    If, however, you live in a country that's fair (doesn't exist but we're moving towards it), time to start kicking some balls.

    My advice: Kick some balls.

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  • Boojum
    3 years ago

    Supervisor-subordinate relationships are never a good idea. There's just way too much scope for drama and unfortunate consequences that can screw up your working life for a long time. I accept that there can be cases where the personal chemistry is on a cosmic scale from the first instant a couple meet, so it's very tempting to say, "Ah, what the hell..." and jump right in. I also accept that workplace hookups and romances can have happy endings for all involved, but that's the exception rather than the rule.

    And, of course, lots of companies have very strict rules about relationships between employees, especially when there's a difference in the relative power of the two people.

    I've never used Tinder, but I understand that you can block people. I don't know the etiquette surrounding this or how it's perceived by people, but it seems to me perfectly reasonable for you to block people whom you have no interest in hooking up with. It also seems to me perfectly reasonable for this to be your automatic response if you see that someone from your professional life has crossed the boundary into your personal life.

    Since his flirting has been low-key and deniable, I can see how you'd find it difficult to flat-out tell him to back off, since he could just say that you'd misconstrued something innocent. I suppose the safest way to proceed at the moment is to keep things strictly professional between you. If you've been talking about personal stuff, back off from that, and reduce your contact with him to the minimum necessary for your work. If he persists and escalates, you should tell him clearly that you're not interested. If he still persists, then it might be time for you to have an informal word with whoever is above him in the company hierarchy.

    Whatever you do, try to hold on to any proof you have of your exchanges, so there's no possibility of it coming down to the classic 'he said, she said' situation.

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