Both my parents are cheaters
Both my parents cheated on each other does that mean that im gonna be a cheater just like them
Ask Your Question today
Both my parents cheated on each other does that mean that im gonna be a cheater just like them
... not necessarily. Just because both of your parents are adulters does necessarily mean that you will grow up to be the same way. Sure you have probably inherited some of your personality traits from your parents, and you just like anyone can grow up to be a product of your environment, but all is not lost.
Yes, you are a product of your parents, but you are also an individual with a mind, and a freewill of your own. You can consciously choose to not be like either of your two-timing parents. Sure you will likely be going against hereditary, and environment, but it's not hopeless. You, most of all, need a moral compass, and healthy belief system in your life.
No you shouldn't follow their path, be better and don't do it like your parents. Be the better example of them.
No it doesnt have to mean anything.
Dumb people repeat bad history. Smart people learn what to avoid.
"If you cant be a good example you might end up a horrible warning".
No, cheating is a personal choice. You are your own person and are capable of making your own decisions.
Even when it comes to upbringing, eventually it becomes a choice to follow the path of your parents or to make changes, and live and act differently.
That's your choice... or you could chose something different.
While there are positive things my parents did that I have incorporated into my life; there are a number of other things where I have decided to do the opposite of the example they did; which has turned out well for me.
It's your life - and your choices.
Chose wisely.
It's entirely up to you whether or not you cheat. If you do then don't be a little pussy and blame your parents. It's all on you.
As everyone else has said, no, you are not genetically programmed to make the same choices that your parents have.
Something you should be aware of, though, is that we all pick up ideas of how relationships should work from what we observe going on between our parents when we're kids. We can also end up with deeply embedded ideas of how someone of our sex should behave in a relationship by what we see the parent of our sex doing and saying in their relationship(s). That could be seen as a type of programming, but once you gain the maturity to see your parents as just people who are doing their best, it's possible to recognise that some of their behaviour isn't positive, understand that you have (apparently) inexplicable urges to do the same, and decide that you'll choose another path.
You don't say anything about how your parents have dealt with the infidelity, but what you've seen there could be good lessons for you on how you should or should not deal with conflict in relationships.
Finally, you should be aware that while you may believe you understand what's going on between your parents in their relationship, it's very likely you do not. In all relationships, there are undercurrents that are never spoken of, and it's very common for those actually in the relationship to not fully understand what's truly going on, and why they and their partner do and say what they do.
No. It doesn't. Also, one of your parents is slightly less of a cheater as they no doubt felt justified after being cheated on and wouldn't necessarily cheat on someone else.
yo ya dat shit genetic dawg, mah ancestor marred tree diffent women and I got like ten diffwent mistresses dawg :3