Bowel movement experience? iin?

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I am new to this Blog. I know and I'm diagnosed with Ocd. I have been in antidepressants since I was 28 and I'm now 44 year old woman. I have this obsessive compulsive habit of always pushing, or straining to hard or repetitively while I poop. It's been a habit since long ago , and I know it has a connection from my childhood and upbringing. The problem is I don't know why I can't stop the pushing and straining while I have a bowel movement. I don't know how it feels anymore to go the toilet and have a normal poo experience, in a normal time frame. I can sit In the toilet for 45 minutes just sitting and pushing and straining on and off In one toilet trip. It's like comforting to empty myself completely . If I poo and make it faster like 15 minutes , I feel like I am not finished completely and for sure I did not finish my bowel movement therefore I feel uncomfortable and as if I just didn't finish right" and feel I'm not totally relieved and I feel uncomfortable and feel a bloated in my tummy. So I have to go right back to the toilet to finish my poo session,or i will feel insecure or have this feeling of uneasyness,when i am in public or with friends.anyone with an experience like mine? I am a mom and this habit seems very juvenile ,still it comforts me but I know it's obssesive and takes ridiculously long aside from the fact that I do not know how it feels to go the toilet and have a normal pooing experience anymore. It has affected my self esteem in many ways. Same thing goes with peeing. I have rituals around it. Anyone with any reasonable good advice aside from cognitive behavior therapy that has not been 100 percent successful? Your thoughts are very much appreciated...

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  • robbieforgotpw
    10 years ago

    I spend half of everyday on the can. It's a home away from home

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    • Stopthestraining
      10 years ago

      Well ya??!!!! But seriously is that normal !straining and pushing it is comfortable to sit there but not when it makes you late for appointments or if you take forever when your out at night and your in the bathroom for so long! A habit I can't seem to kick! Ritualizing and doing compulsions. But thanks for your reply!

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      • robbieforgotpw
        10 years ago

        Taking a dump is really an art form. Gotta go, I gotta take a dump! Happy dumping!
        *draws mud in his underwear

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  • SHAKEStheClown
    10 years ago

    The Bowel Movement Experience, sounds like a 3D Imax theatre thing!

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  • ChaoticBunny
    10 years ago

    Maybe try some laxatives?

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    • robbieforgotpw
      10 years ago

      I like having shart parties

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      • ChaoticBunny
        10 years ago

        LOL! I thought you did ;-P Haha!

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        • robbieforgotpw
          10 years ago

          Where ya been girl? Check out my latest stuff

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          • ChaoticBunny
            10 years ago

            I'm sorry, Robbie. I've been very busy lately and haven't had the time. How have you been anyway?

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  • GuessWho
    10 years ago

    That's definitely connected to your OCD.

    I don't have OCD, just a few slight obsessive compulsive tendencies but I, too will sit on the toilet way too long in order to force 'everything' out.

    Fortunately, I'm only sometimes compelled to do this.
    I don't feel the need to strain myself every time; I usually just finish when I've pushed out what I can get out with normal force.

    If it's not ruining your life, try not to get depressed over it.
    Either way, if you don't like this behaviour, you try should do something to change it.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    Here's what you do. Relax. Sit up straight and centered. Imagine that you are a submarine, and you must deploy a torpedo to destroy an oncoming ship. It is a matter of life and death. Now imagine that the torpedo is dropping out of your anus, and imagine that there is a force going thru your passages to push it out. Don't physically push, mentally push.

    It works for me, but I also have mind over fecal matter.

    If you can't figure out how to use your mind to push it out, then I also find that if I bend all the way forward (chest touching my knees), then that angle helps the poop come out. Another thing I'll do, is bounce up and down while giving little bursts of pushing. Another thing I've noticed, is that after trying to squeeze the last poop out for ten minutes, if I give up and walk away, then I'll just have to poop again a minute later, and then it will drop right out. So sometime's it's like figuring out a problem, you just have to take a little break and come back to it with a fresh mindset.
    Also, don't strain yourself too much, sometimes all you need is to relax a little and just let gravity do the work.

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    • Stopthestraining
      10 years ago

      Thank you soomuch for the very helpful advice . Yes it is mind over "fecal matter" I wish I had a strong mind and really let my mind do the action, then I wouldn't have this horrible habit. It really is some mind if sick action. Everyone of us are sick in some different way and it all just comes out in your physical selves sometimes. Sometimes it's. an emotional issue that comes out in my straining. Not being able to really feel like forgiving a person . I mean really forgiving them not just saying in words "I forgave him already " but really knowing how it feels to truly forgive someone ,coming from your heart, someone who wronged you a long time ago as you have almost erased the feeling as it was long ago and I guess never felt how it really feels to forgive a person. If you know what I mean... It can take a lot if guts and compassion for a human being to forgive as we are not saints, as obviously we are not perfect.so it would be easy for me to say I don't know how it feels to forgive as I am just human.ususlly the person would naturally say, why should I forgive him?? After what he did! It's unforgivable! But then I'm always reminded about how important forgiveness is when I go to mass on Sundays.its the feeling of humbling yourselves for someone that has hurt you. Well that was the sermon in my mass today which I thought gave me enlightenment and relief.thxnks for your advise! That is so helpfull ! It's like your advising to retrain the way you use your body.thank you.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    If you've completely evacuated your bowels and you still feel full of it you could be experiencing inflammation and probably need to see a doctor.

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    • Stopthestraining
      10 years ago

      Thank you for your reply must appreciated . !

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      • robbieforgotpw
        10 years ago

        That's some profile ya got bro, three whole comments

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      • RoseIsabella
        10 years ago

        You're Welcome!

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    too long...didn't read.

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    • Shackleford96
      10 years ago | pl

      What's the point in typing that?

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      • handsignals
        10 years ago

        Read it...play candy crush while on toilet to pass the time...your welcome.

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  • johnathan
    10 years ago

    I said normal but its not im going threw the samething everyone go to my profile on digestive system i have a problem and i need advice from everyone

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  • AgentHitGirl
    10 years ago

    I'm kind of like that but Ill sit on the toilet and text or write on my phone for 30 minutes and not even do any 'business'. But I have like six other siblings, one being a baby that me and my older brother are always in charge of cuz my step dad doesn't do anything with her. so sitting on the toilet for half an hour is like a miny vacation!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Yes that's true! I used it as a private place where no one could bug me and to leave me in peace for a while! Wow your half a dozen.!

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